It’s okay to say, “I’m sorry.”

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It’s okay to say, “I’m sorry.”

There are times in life when our decisions and actions hurt others.  There are times when it is unintentional and other times well, let’s just say, we can surprise ourselves at just how mean we can really be.

Am I the only person out there guilty of this? Can you remember a time when your actions and words just came out all wrong?  Then someone’s feelings unintentionally got hurt.   Once it comes to your attention it can make you feel really bad about yourself.

How many of us actually do something about it?  Feeling bad about it is one thing, doing something to correct the misunderstanding is another.  It takes a big person to reach out and genuinely say “I’m sorry”.

It’s important to clear the air.  How many relationships or friendships have died because of something that was said or done?  We sometimes underestimate the power of the spoken word.  Once we’ve said it, there’s no going back but we can try to atone for them.

How many of us have ended friendships over ‘he said, she said‘ ?  We sometimes withdraw from people or may react negatively toward them without discussing how what we heard made us feel.  We become judge and juror all at the same time without allowing the person an opportunity to confirm or deny.  Is that really fair?

Let’s not forget, that we are all sensitive beings that can be affected by anyone who at the right moment, equipped with the right words, could strike the right nerve that triggers a volcanic eruption of emotions.  No one is perfect.  We are all guilty of being insensitive at one point or another.

I know some of you are probably saying, “So I can’t say anything anymore because I may offend someone?”   No, I’m not saying that, all I’m saying is that sometimes we need to be mindful of what we are saying and how we are saying it.  Be clear. Be concise.  Never hurtful, unless you are looking for and are prepared for the possible reaction.

Words have the power to make or break friendships and relationships.  Never underestimate the power of your words. 

So, how are you going to use your words today?

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What is true wealth?

“I wish my house was bigger.  It is just too small.” said Sam.

“Well, I wish I had a bigger swimming pool.” said Brian.

“I wish we had more money.” said Adam.

“You rich kids have life so easy.  You live in the best part of town.  You go to the best private school money can buy.  You’ll probably never have to work for your bread and butter as long as you live and yet you sit and complain.” said George.

George had only lived in the town a few months. He was a new member of the elite group he was criticizing.  He was disgusted by their greed and lack of humility.   George’s family was not always wealthy and they worked very hard to acquire the wealth they now enjoy.

George was humble, kind, thoughtful and more than anything he was grateful for the blessings his family now enjoyed.  He remembers when they did not have food to eat.  When his parents could not pay the bills and how difficult things were.  He is glad that he had those experiences because they remind him not to be wasteful and ungrateful.

Adam, Brian and Sam had never had anyone speak to them like that before.  George hit a nerve, so much so that Sam and Brian made efforts to correct their attitude and behaviour.  The three boys became very good friends.

Adam however, was set in his ways and distanced himself from the group. As years went by, the three boys grew into men and joined their family businesses into successful enterprises that not only benefited themselves but others.  They were all happy and had beautiful families to share their success with.

Adam also grew up to be successful as well. However, unlike the others he did not have a family to share his success with.   He had acquired all the wealth he had dreamed of.  Unfortunately, he could not find love because he was convinced that everyone was after his money so he did not get close to anyone.

He eventually died of a heart attack.  All the riches he had acquired could not be taken with him in death.  His only legacy would be the enormous mansion he built for himself.

George, Sam and Brian to this day would always tell their kids,

“Money is just a medium you use to buy things.  Never let it define you.  Always let your words and actions define who you are.  When the money is gone all we have is each other. ”

 

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Are you dependent on the approval of others?

This weekend the word approval came to mind.  I found myself wondering why such a simple word complicated the lives of so many of us.

I can honestly sit here today and say that I struggled with needing the approval of others for a long time. From my childhood to adulthood this word I could not escape until now.

How did I do it?  I sort to understand why I needed it and started approaching life and my interactions with others and myself differently.  I understand it better and no longer let it control me or my actions.

History of approval

The need to get the approval of others starts early in our lives.  We grow up seeking the approval of our parents, teachers and even our friends. Why? Once we’ve seen and experienced what disappointing them feels like we try not to repeat that once it can be helped.

We like knowing that they are happy and satisfied with us. Other times their approval can make us feel like we belong.    As adults, we carry that same desire into the rest of our lives.  It affects us in our relationships, in the workplace even how we see and value ourselves.

Let’s look at some of the pros and cons of approval versus dependency on approval.

The upside of approval

  1. It provides confirmation.
  2. Help validate who you are.
  3. Builds you up – making you feel good or better.
  4. Provide a sense of belonging.

The downside of dependency on approval

  1. When you don’t get it you don’t feel good about yourself.
  2. It could make you feel insecure or uncertain about what you’ve done.
  3. Some people may use it against you.  They know you want their approval so they purposely don’t give it hoping this would negatively affect you.
  4. You’re constantly second guessing yourself.
  5. Keeps you stuck. You delay action or won’t act because you don’t believe in yourself hence you need this approval to push you into action.
  6. It breathes a quiet fear that hinders you from truly growing as an individual.

Reflecting on all of this confirmed for me that although the approval from others is good and has its benefits it is not always necessary except in the workplace when it directly relates to your job.

More importantly, becoming heavily dependent on getting the approval of others is more damaging than good.    I can tell you from first-hand experience that sometimes in life, if you sit back waiting for others to recognize, substantiate, acknowledge or reward your efforts you may be disappointed.  They may not give it and sometimes if they do it may not even be genuine and can be just as hurtful.

Don’t let this get you down.  Don’t let it discourage you.  Don’t let such people take away how good you feel about your contribution or yourself.

Their acknowledgement or lack thereof does not make you any less of a person.  It does not mean what you’ve done is not good because it is probably amazing!  Once you’ve done your best and feel good about it let that satisfaction fill you up.  Their thumbs up would be great but you taking joy in yourself is more important.

The trick is to value yourself first that way what others think of you would be more of an enhancer and not a deciding factor.   Many times it is simply their own insecurities or jealousy that makes it difficult for them to compliment or acknowledge the good others do.  That is something they have to work on.

You just have to focus on being YOUR BEST not THEIR BEST.

I would leave you with this, if you have people in your life that support and encourage you be thankful for them. Genuine people are rare hold on to them.  🙂

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Only a dream

I can’t remember how we got here

But this place feels magical so I do not care

As the others huddle up closely in fear

I focus on the feel of the seductive wind in my hair

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Although uncertain where to go from here

The bright light from the golden bridge

Is quietly calling me near

I’ve seen this place only in my dreams

……………………………………………………………..

Everything I must admit is not what it seems

In the distance, we all hear loud screams

As things around us get blurry

I close my eyes as tight as I can

As I try to dream my friends

Out of this imaginary land

I repeat to myself, “it’s only a dream”

“It’s only a dream.”

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

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Real or Imaginary?

Daily Prompt: Imaginary

Am I real or imaginary?

Can you see me?

Can you hear my voice?

Can you feel my skin so moist?

Am I even really here?

……………………………………………………………..

I try to reach out but it’s like I’m not even there

Sometimes I wonder if you really care

Then one day it hit me

There are no images in this house of me

…………………………………………………………….

All this time I’ve been locked up in your mind

That’s why I was so hard to find

I’m a figment of your imagination

Imagine my frustration

…………………………………………………………..

Coming to the realization

I’ve never been real

That’s why I could never feel

I’m just imaginary.

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

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It’s Friday!!!!

Friday greetings to you all!

Fridays have special meaning for many of us.  After all, it marks the end of the work week and the start of the weekend unless you’re someone who works on weekends. 🙁

The thing about Fridays is that whether or not you had a productive week, a hectic week, a good week or even procrastinated through the entire week it still brings a sense of joy and closure to the week.

This joy transcends occupation, gender, age, religion, income and even ethnicity.  On a Friday, getting dressed for the last day of the work week brings with it a pep in your step.  Maybe it’s the thought of the after work get together or thoughts of your plans for the weekend or just the thought of walking through those office doors at the end of the day knowing that you have two days for yourself that just put a smile on your face.

Sure we get to come back next week and do it all over again. That’s what makes Fridays so special.  Let’s try not to steer at the clock too much you know this seems to slow it down some how.  I notice when I stop looking at the time it goes much faster.  🙂 We still have our jobs to do and various task to complete but wrapping up at the end of the day would feel so sweet.

Whether you’re going to the club, relaxing with friends and family, getting close to that special someone just knowing that it’s Friday will make everything better.  Whatever you have planned or are planning for later and this weekend have fun and be safe.

I look forward to seeing you all next week.

Thanks for stopping by.

 

 

Health and Wellness Fridays:Wheatgrass

Welcome back guys to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Wheatgrass is the star of the show today. How many of you are familiar with wheatgrass? Today, we’ll explore some of the benefits of what some have called a powerful superfood.

What is wheatgrass?

Wheatgrass is a chlorophyll-rich herb that’s acquired from the cotyledons of the young grass of the common wheat plant called triticum aestivum.   Some other names it is known by include but are not limited to: Agropyre,  Blé en Herbe, Brote del Trigo, Couch Grass, Cutch, Dog Grass, Durfa Grass, Elymus repens, Graminis Rhizoma, Quack Grass, Quitch Grass, Scotch Quelch, Triticum, Twitchgrass and Witch Grass.

History of wheatgrass

The hype about the benefits of wheatgrass may be new to some of us but back in the 1930’s  Charles F. Schnabel Sr.  thought to be the “Father of Wheatgrass” through his experiments showed how beneficial wheatgrass was both to humans and animals. In the 1940’s Ann Wigmore reportedly healed herself of cancer from the weeds she found in vacant lots in Boston.  Wheatgrass has been doing its thing since then that says something.

Nutritional Properties

Wheatgrass nutritional composition is very impressive.   It is an excellent source of chlorophyll.  It is rich in vitamin A, vitamin C, vitamin K, vitamin E, vitamin B1, B2, B3, B5, B6 and B12.  It also provides zinc, copper, phosphorus, calcium, iron, magnesium, selenium, manganese, potassium and even amino acids.

The benefits of this edible grass can be acquired through either juice, capsule or tablet form or as a fine green powder once it is milled down.  Since the 1930’s researchers and scientists over the years have continued to research some of the possible benefits of wheatgrass and some would argue even more research is needed.

However, I won’t discount or discredit what some have highlighted as possible benefits to be obtained from using wheatgrass.  Let’s take a look.

  1. Supports brain health
  2. Stimulate circulation
  3. Boost metabolism
  4. Alkaline the body
  5. Antibacterial
  6. Antimicrobial
  7. Antioxidant
  8. Anti-inflammatory
  9. Lower cholesterol
  10. Prevent cancer
  11. Detoxifies the body
  12. Purifies the liver
  13. Regulate blood sugar
  14. Helps prevent tooth decay
  15. Improves digestion
  16. Improves vision – particularly night vision
  17. Boost immune system
  18. Treat arthritis
  19. Treat skin conditions such as eczema and psoriasis
  20. Restore fertility and balance hormones
  21. Slow aging
  22. Help heal wounds
  23. Reduce food cravings
  24. Helps with mental well-being
  25. Lose Weight
  26. Fight acne
  27. Fight depression
  28. Fight the common cold
  29. Rebuild blood
  30. Reduce fatigue
  31. Clear sinus congestion

Although wheatgrass is generally considered safe I still like to mention any possible side effects I find.  We all respond differently to different things so it pays to be safe than sorry.

Some possible side effects include:

  • Excessive consumption of wheatgrass may cause nausea or headaches in some people.
  • Some possible allergic reactions include throat swelling, digestive discomfort and hives.
  • Persons who have a wheat or grass allergy, celiac disease or gluten intolerance should consult a physician prior to consuming wheatgrass, since this could cause complications when ingested in high amounts.

How I use it

I use wheatgrass in the powder form and mix it in my bottled water.  I try to drink it on an empty stomach when possible.  It is an acquired taste but you get used to it.  I try to focus on the possible benefits.   I do not drink it everyday but rather I drink it two to three times per week.  That works for me so no complaints thus far.  🙂

Always do your research about the products you are using or considering using. Be sure to read and follow the directions on product labels and consult your pharmacist or healthcare professional before using.

Thanks for stopping by.  Have a great weekend! 🙂

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