Music Reflection Mondays #21 – New Relationships

Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays!  I trust that you had a pleasant day and if it didn’t start that way – you can still determine how it will end. 🙂

Tonight, I’m looking at new relationships. New relationships have that newness to them that just leave us so carefree, anxious and excited to see and be around that special someone. We can’t help but smile and enjoy each moment we’re in their company leaving us on a high that we never want to end.

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I remember the long talks on the telephone that we never wanted to end.  When we were in each other’s presence the connection was so much more than the physical.  Just being in each other’s company was just all we wanted to do.  The only destination was wherever they are.  The more time you spend with them the more you want to spend.  The more time spent getting to know them is the more you wanted to be apart of their life and they yours.   That relationship made you feel love like no other relationship did.

Starving from Hailee Steinfeld and Symphony from Clean Bandit featuring Zara Larsson are two beautiful songs that just takes you back.  We go through life and relationships thinking that the last relationship was the best life could ever get and then one day when we’re not looking and least expect it – life adds a new piece to the puzzle and changes your life forever. 🙂

I’ve learnt over the years that as one door closes another one opens.  We must not be afraid to walk through, take a deep slow breath and with our eyes wide open and our senses fully alert take life one day at a time.  We need to allow ourselves to open up to the possibility of receiving love and it would find us no matter where we are.  So as Demi Lovato put it, feel free to Give Your Heart A Break  . 🙂

Have a wonderful night and an amazing week.  Thank you for stopping by.

 

 

Health and Wellness Fridays – Honesty

Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Today, I would like to take a look at honesty.  I’m sure you’re probably wondering what honesty has to do with health and wellness but as we take a closer look you’ll see how we sometimes underestimate how much of a role honesty plays especially as it relates to our health and wellness.

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Being honest with ourselves about how we feel, what hurts, what does not feel right and  what we really need to do to make the necessary changes in our lives can help us live better, healthier and sometimes longer lives.  Too often we downplay our medical issues, disregard reoccurring symptoms and try to convince ourselves that a quick visit to the pharmacy or pharmacist would be the end of it.

If we’re going to be honest with ourselves, we might hear stories like:

“I love food but sometimes I don’t make good food choices.”

“I lack the will power to say “NO” to my cravings.”

“I might need some help to get my health and life where I need to be.”

“I know what I have to do to live a healthier life but I find it difficult to just commit to the process.”

“I’m scared of going to the doctor because I think I have a pretty good idea what’s wrong and I don’t want to have him confirm it so I’ll deal with it myself.”

“I’m scared of the possibility of receiving bad news.”

“I don’t like or trust doctors so I don’t go if I don’t have to.”

“I have better things to do with my money.”

“I don’t want people judging me.”

“I don’t feel comfortable going to public spaces to work out because I feel like everyone is looking at me.”

I can tell you, that as long as we keep making excuses to continue doing the wrong things we would not get the change we want.  The honest reason for this I believe is we don’t want the change bad enough probably because it’s hard to see ourselves beyond who we are today.

We need to not only change the conversation we are having with ourselves but control it. However, most important of all, is to stop lying to ourselves, stop making excuses and stop being bystanders in our own lives.

Honesty starts with US.  What stories are you telling yourself that are preventing you from reaching where you’re meant to be physically or mentally?

Thank you for stopping by. Have a good night and a wonderful weekend.  🙂

 

 

Press Forward

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Press forward because our lives and happiness depend on it.

The merry-go-round of “should have” and “could have” will get us nowhere.

Press forward because unlike plants that grow standing in one place our growth is more than physical it is also psychological.

So let us take a lesson from the plants – stay rooted but aim for the sky. 🙂

Pressing forward is the only option that allows us to live our lives while learning from our experiences.

Have a good night. Thanks for stopping by.

Time for Bed

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Your eyes are feeling heavy

It’s clear to me you’re sleepy

Your movements are now slowing down

And no matter how hard you try that smile seems to turn upside down

As you try to deny that urge to sleep,  the body sends signals to your head and feet

“You’ve worked hard all day

We can’t afford another minute of play

We demand you turn in for the day.”

Finally, without further delay

You distribute your hugs and kisses

Then you’re on your way

No more excuses.

“Good night everyone, until another day.”

 

It’s time to take my own advice. Have a good night all. Thank you for stopping by.  🙂

 

Take A Step Back

Would you believe I just wrote a whole post on this and I pressed the wrong key during formatting and everything vanished. 🙁  Why me Lord!  I thought to myself as I tried feverishly to recover my work.  Very upsetting as efforts proved futile!

I was so angry at myself for not making sure my work was saving as I went along.  I was so caught up in what I was doing that I neglected to pay attention.  I felt like giving up and then I remember what this post was all about and decided to try again. 🙂

Roda over at Growing Self actually inspired me to write this after reading her post called A Journey.

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No matter what the flood waters of life throw at you – don’t give up!  Stop looking at your problem through those tired eyes and stressed brain.  Try these tips.

  1. Take a step back to get a better view.
  2. Clear your mind by listening to some music or doing something fun to relax.
  3. Get creative.
  4. Get resourceful.
  5. Don’t listen to the negativity of others.  They are still caught up in their own mess and couldn’t help you even if they wanted to.
  6. Most important of all, don’t allow the frustration of it all to prevent YOU from unearthing a better outcome for YOURSELF.
  7. Change your position.  You’ll be surprised just how different or simple a problem can appear based on where you stand and how you choose to look at it.
  8. Monitor your attitude.  It’s hard to find the solution or breakthrough you’re looking for if your attitude is constantly negative.  Believe that you CAN and WILL overcome the challenge and work towards it.
  9. Believe in yourself.

 

Have a good night and thanks for stopping by. 🙂

 

Music Reflections Mondays #20 – “Too Good At Goodbyes”

Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays!  Most of last week I was bombarded by various radio stations with this song from Sam Smith called Too Good At Goodbye.    

Every time I hear it, it takes me back to chapters in my life when “goodbyes” were needed but were so difficult because of the emotional attachments.  The lyrics are so relatable to anyone who has been in a relationship that ended up taking more than it was giving or just was too toxic for you to continue to survive in.  I think he penned it beautifully.

Relationships come and relationships go and based on our history or patterns with our partners we adjust emotionally and expose less and less of true selves to reduce the feeling of loss and disappointment should things not work out.

It is a sad song as it highlights the emotions, thoughts and frustrations of someone in a relationship who is just so tired of the roller-coaster ride that walking away is the BEST alternative.   Walking away is never easy but I love Dua Lipa’s New Rules song.   I like how she list the rules as she attempts to get over the failed relationship.  She has a more upbeat approach to the situation. I love it!!!! 🙂

 

 

Falling

Falling is easy.  We ALL stumble at various stages in our lives.  However, it is what we do after we fall that makes the real difference.

Stand up, dust yourself off, tend to your wound (be it physical or psychological) and move forward. Never let falling or missing your mark stop you from trying, finishing or pursuing your dreams.

Although falling can slow us down we are the ones who can choose to either stop or keep moving.  I hope you choose to keep moving. 🙂

Make the upcoming week a wonderful one! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂