It is usually easier to say to someone what they should do or how they should live their life until you are the one faced with your own situation or dilemma.
When the shoe is on the other foot and you are the person actually feeling the squeeze you realise it is not as easy sometimes as we think especially when it comes to feelings of the heart.
- Sometimes in life those close to us just need us to listen and not judge or list all that is wrong with their lives.
- Sometimes they just need to know that we love and care about them no matter what.
- Sometimes they just need to be reminded about the things that make them the special and amazing people we know and love.
Empathize with them and if you do have personal experience in that area then simply share what your experience was, how it affected you and what you learned from it. Let him or her decide for them self what they need to do.
The last thing you want or need is this person becoming resentful of you when all you’re trying to do is help and protect them. Sometimes we can’t protect or prevent the inevitable. If they have to go through this chapter of their life then there is nothing we can do about it.
It would be sad to see them in hurting especially if you were trying to save them from the possible pain but I’ve learnt as a survivor from a less than perfect situation that sometimes the experience is needed for us to blossom into the stronger, more confident individuals that we are supposed to be. Sometimes in life there are just some lessons we all have to learn for ourselves. The wisdom to be gained for each individual is different and so are the potential benefits to be achieved.
Don’t give up on them. Don’t try to control their lives as this would only push them away. Be a good listener if that is what they need at that time. Be an unbiased advisor if they are seeking advice. You need to be as objective as possible allowing them to make the final decision themselves.
Once they know you love them and mean well. They will always come to you. Be that support column or shoulder to cry on. Share your knowledge and wisdom but don’t force it on them. Lastly, pray for them.
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