“Is anybody out there? Is anyone hearing our cries for help?” Who are those voices and where are they coming from? The voices I am referring to belong to the children, women, families and individuals out there that go through life just existing rather than living because most of the people around them only hear rather than listen to their pain or unfortunate circumstances of either abuse, domestic violence, addiction or poverty. These people believe it or not are the lucky ones.
You see, there are many other voices out there that have been sworn to secrecy or terrorized to keep silent. The feeling of not being heard can bring about anger, frustration, hopelessness, depression and resentment. Who is hearing their faint cries for help? We rely on our ears to hear and our mouths to speak and hopefully be heard. However, our eyes sometimes catch glimpses of questionable behaviour and interactions that make us stop and think but then we dismiss it as if it never happened. Why? “It is not my business.” “He or she is NO family or friend of mine.”
I agree. They are not members of our family nor are they our friends. Some people are of the belief that they should only care about people and situations that directly affect them. These people tend to reserve kind and uplifting words and good deeds only for persons near and dear to them. Whereas there are those people who are always giving of themselves to help others. They seem drawn to people or situations that need an intervention. They are usually positive in their attitude and genuine about their purpose. They don’t just hear, they listen and show their audience that they have indeed heard them.
I have no doubt that we hear the stories of others and say, “Wow, that is tough!” I know, I have. How many of us use what we’ve heard and take action or try to make someone’s life better even if in a small way. I recognise that every situation is different but the commonality of all the situations is the same and that is help is needed.
For me, to be heard means that I can see by the actions and behaviours of my audience whether they have not only heard me but more importantly if they understood the message I was communicating.
To be heard for me, brings a feeling of joy and accomplishment. For someone else, to be heard could mean they are no longer hungry, no longer being abused, they have a voice that would be acknowledged and listened to. It can mean many things for different people. When we’ve been heard we are really looking for a positive response.
Today look around in your community and see if there is anything you can do to make someone’s life a little better. Sometimes we just need to listen, really listen to gain a better understanding of a situation.
Before I close, I would like to take this opportunity to say a special thank you to those of you who answer the calls for help in whatever way you can. You are awesome and this world is truly blessed to have you in it.
Let us try to make a greater effort to listen not only with our ears but with our eyes and hearts. It is not too late. Show someone that you’ve heard them and make today a great day.