How you see yourself is ALL that matters

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What do you see when you look in the mirror – someone who is strong, handsome, beautiful, sexy, confident and well-rounded or do you only see imperfection after imperfection?

“Maybe if I wasn’t fat; maybe if I wasn’t so thin; maybe if I wasn’t so short or tall; maybe if I didn’t have this acne on my skin I would be so much more appealing. People would probably find me good looking or attractive.”  For each of us the “maybe if…” would be different and sometimes it may have common elements.

Let’s face the facts, “nobody is perfect.”   However, that does not make our insecurities about ourselves go away.  If anything, I think sometimes it could make us feel even more messed up because when the shoe is on your foot and it’s tight you’re the one feeling the squeeze.

We all have bad days.   Those days when you’re not looking or feeling your best.   Sometimes it is self-inflicted other times it could be from external factors.  Maybe you’re struggling with something and you feel very self-conscious about it and the people in your life are giving you a hard time.

I know what that is like and I know how discouraging it can be when you are not happy or satisfied with how you look.  Beating yourself up about it is not going to make you feel or look any better.  So, what do you do? I suggest taking action.   Staying inside and avoiding people is not the answer.  I know you wish it were that simple.  🙂

Ask yourself,  what am I willing to do to improve and feel better?

  1. If you have acne prone skin, look for healthy and safe ways to improve it. I know there are a lot of products out there on the market so it can be overwhelming.  You may have to adjust your diet, maybe create a daily skin care routine, maybe go back to basics and use all natural items like aloe vera, apple cider and honey just to name a few until you find something that works for you. Don’t give up!
  2. If you want to lose some weight you’re going to have to put in some work.   A change in your diet maybe necessary and even some form of exercise.  Is that really so bad?  If we really want to be our best selves shouldn’t we do what is necessary to get our health and bodies in better shape.
  3. Don’t let you mood keep you from being happy.  There are days when I just don’t feel like putting that much effort into how I look.  I’ve realised that doing the exact opposite actually helps improve my mood.  So I would put on a little makeup and style my hair and this simple act changes my mood and my attitude. If you’re not into all of that maybe you could wear a really nice dress, or a cute pair of shoes or a suit.

At the end of the day, looking at ourselves in the mirror and being negative about what we see does not change anything.  In fact, what we are really doing is keeping ourselves stuck when we should be actively pursuing ways to improve and better ourselves for no one else other than ourselves.

So be mindful of the people in your life that you allow to influence your thoughts and feelings especially if they are constantly negative.  Take control of the messages you feed yourself – as this can create the doorway for other people’s negativity in your life.

Instead try to foster within yourself a positive and healthy perspective by using words and doing things that uplift, motivate and encourage you to be better. We live in a world where we are taught to value what other people think of us more than how we see of ourselves.

The only view that’s truly important is, how YOU view yourself.

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

Author: Cherylene

Cherylene, is an aspiring writer whose desire is to help people nurture and develop the best version of themselves. Through her writing she hopes to encourage her readers to dig deep both spiritually and mentally to heal and enlighten the mind, body and spirit.

3 thoughts on “How you see yourself is ALL that matters”

  1. Sometimes you see your self differently. But we have “friends” who reminds us not to be fat, ugly ?

    But in the end, what’s matters. It’s how u feel inside.

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