People Change

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People change and that’s inevitable

Because no one stays the same

Causing relationships to get a little strange

Sometimes it’s for the better

Sometimes for the worse

This of course can hurt us the most

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As love and friendship can sometimes become a stranger

Well intended communication can turn a disaster

As distance becomes the new comfort zone

Because no one wants to pick up the phone

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Silence and avoidance now the common preference

In an effort to make my heart sore

You used your words to pierce my core

So now our time shared is no more

Maybe it’s me, maybe it’s you

Maybe all of it is true

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Positive change is great; making you want to celebrate

But negative change can really make you sad

In times like that, you can only speak your mind

And hope that in time, betterment they will find

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I’ve learnt that change is necessary

Although difficult to accept at times

It can bring with it growth and wisdom

Even freedom and salvation.

 

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

 

 

What motherhood means to me

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Motherhood can start from as early as the womb.  From the moment you conceive and start taking the necessary steps to care for your unborn child the journey begins and continues long after they are born.

Motherhood is more than just giving birth to a child.  It is a responsibility that you often accept without knowing the full details of what is required and you do it anyway.  It is a promise that you will do all you can to ensure the well-being of your baby.

However, there are a lot of women out there who did not give birth to the children they are caring for.  Some of these women treat the children in their care with so much love and affection that they deserve recognition and appreciation for all that they do.  Whether the kids are through marriage, adoption or through mentoring – I want to tell you all a heart-felt thank you!

The world is a better place with people like you in it.  My sister has no kids at this time but the way she treats my kids you would never know that.  She is truly a beautiful person and I believe one day she would make a great mom. I want to thank her for all she does. I consider her a second mother to my kids.  I know she has their best interest at heart and that  means so much to me. We’re truly blessed to have her apart of our lives.

Those of you who aren’t mothers yet I won’t lie to you motherhood has its difficult moments but there are also the rewarding and happy moments too.  No one has all the answers and many of us learn as we go as well as through the guidance of the more experienced mothers around us.

Motherhood should be cherished and never taken for granted.   Being a mother has given me some lessons in patience, understanding, selflessness, sacrifice, unconditional love, forgiveness, responsibility and the importance of family.  It has also shown me how strong I am emotionally, spiritually and physically.

To all the mothers out there I want to urge you to keep supporting, protecting and working with your children. Don’t give up on them, love them and pray for them.

May God give us the strength, patience and wisdom to execute our responsibilities in a way that is pleasing to him.  May our children take comfort in knowing that we are always here for them.

Stay strong and blessed.  Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

Reflections

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When you look into the mirror

Beyond your smile and the blank stare in your eyes

Are you someone who is happy?

Or someone who is pretending to be?

Your face sometimes depicting an image

That is so far from your reality

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As the tug of war on your emotions, play out mentally

Often conflicting, with who you are meant to be

Denial you accept, almost peacefully

Now don’t get cross with me

For merely questioning a possibility

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I am in no way suggesting

That you walk around manifesting,

Everything you’re feeling

I’m was just simply asking

How you treat with what you’re truly thinking and feeling?

Because pretending and masquerading

Will only hinder your healing

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Your happiness is important!

Don’t label it insignificant,

Make it your business!

To chip away at any bitterness,

One day at a time,

So your happiness can truly shine.

 

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

 

Versatile Blogger Award #2

I would love to thank the lovely Mbalenhle for nominating me for the Versatile Blogger Award.    If you are not familiar with her blog Budding Regardless be sure to check it out.  She speaks her mind on different topics which I find at times to be refreshing and inspirational.

Rules of the Versatile Blogger Award:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and share their link.
  2. Nominate at least 10 bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs. Also, inform them about the nomination.
  3. Reveal 7 facts about yourself that your readers may not know.

7 Facts About Me

  1. I don’t like to eat eggs.  I would easily put it in my hair as part of a hair treatment or on my skin as part of a facial mask but for some reason to eat it freaks me out.  I know they are good for me but I would have to add a tomato, an onions and some sausage before I could eat them.
  2. I know a lot of people but I have few friends.
  3. I give my best in everything I do.
  4. I’m not a good swimmer but I like being in the water. 🙂
  5. I have no problems working hard for what I want.
  6. I accept that I am not perfect.  However, this does not discourage me from striving for betterment.
  7. Motherhood has changed my life in many ways and I have no regrets for the two blessings I have received.  🙂

My nominees for this award are:

  1. hailangeliccreation
  2. Roda
  3. Sar
  4. Breaking the Cycle
  5. Bafikile
  6. Ajay Vyas
  7. Elsie L.M.C
  8. Estella Lynch
  9. byluis7
  10. DaviD JosE

 

 

 

 

Stop and Think!

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Stop and think!

Before you have another drink

Always pushing your life and others to brink

You don’t seem care and that’s so unfair

As your loved ones go to sleep in fear

Not sure, if in the morning, you’ll still be there

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Stop and think!

Before you open your mouth to scream and shout

In an effort to let the pressure from your anger out

Take a deep breath and try not to fret

If you lose your cool

You might end up looking like the fool

Instead, you might find

It’s better to act with a sound mind

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Stop and think!

Before you do the things you do

You might end up hurting the people you love

Or the people who trust and look up to you

Think before you act, it is a known fact

To love and be loved

There’s nothing better than that

So be sure to always stop and think before you act.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

Thanks for stopping by. 🙂   Have a great weekend!

Health and Wellness Fridays – Turmeric

Welcome back to Health and Fridays!  Thank you Lord for seeing us through another week.   Today, we’re going to be listing some of the possible health benefits of using turmeric.

 

Turmeric or  Curcuma longa comes from the turmeric plant. It is a culinary spice used to add flavour and colour to a variety of dishes.  It is also used in herbal medicine and fabric dye.  It is native to India and Southeast Asia.  In its unprocessed form the root resembles the ginger root.  On the inside however, it is yellow in colour.  Turmeric is rich in iron and manganese. It is also a good source of vitamin B6, dietary fiber, copper, and potassium.

Turmeric can be obtained in many forms – some forms include natural root, ground powder form, as a supplement even as an essential oil.    According to the World’s Healthiest Foods, most of the studies done on turmeric tend to focus on its main active ingredient, curcumin.

Some of the studies done suggest the following benefits:

  • Anti-inflammatory
  • Antioxidant
  • Boost brain function
  • Lower the risk for brain disease such as  Alzheimer’s and dementia
  • Lower risk of heart disease
  • Lower cancer risk
  • Help with depression
  • Treatment of gastrointestinal issues such as constipation and cramping
  • Ease menstrual symptoms
  • Cystic Fibrosis
  • Detoxifying the liver
  • Natural antiseptic and antibacterial agent
  • Alleviate pain
  • Slow the aging process
  • Acne
  • Rejuvenate the skin
  • Reduce the appearance of wrinkles

Here are some ways to use turmeric:

  • Add it to your meals along with black pepper.  Most of the curcumin that is ingested gets metabolized before it can get absorbed.  Piperine present in black pepper is said to help make curcumin more bio-available.
  • Add fat when consuming turmeric. Turmeric is fat-soluble and thus much better absorbed when taken with fat. Use healthy fats like olive oil, coconut oil, etc.
  • Drink it in tea. You can use either the powder or the fresh root. Add it to boiling water and allow it to simmer for 10 minutes.   I sometimes add a small piece of fresh ginger.  Strain into a cup and add a little honey to taste.
  • Apply on the skin in the form of a mask. Using some honey, yogurt or milk with a teaspoon of turmeric in a bowl. Mix ingredients in a bowl until it forms a smooth paste.  Apply to clean skin. Leave this mask on for at least 20 minutes before washing off.

Precautions and warnings:

  • If consumed in large quantities turmeric can have the following side effects on the body such as nausea, dizziness and diarrhea.
  • Turmeric might promote a menstrual period or stimulate the uterus, putting the pregnancy at risk as such it is suggested that it not be used in medicinal amounts during pregnancy.
  • Turmeric can make gallbladder problems worse. Do not use turmeric if you have gallstones or a bile duct obstruction.
  • Turmeric might slow blood clotting and might increase the risk of bruising and bleeding in people with bleeding disorders.
  • The Curcumin might decrease blood sugar in people with diabetes. Use with caution and moderation. Be sure to monitor your blood sugar.
  • Turmeric can cause stomach upset in some people. It might make stomach problems such as GERD worse. Avoid turmeric if it worsens symptoms of GERD.
  • Turmeric might lower testosterone levels and decrease sperm movement when taken by mouth by men. This might reduce fertility. Turmeric should be used cautiously by people trying to have a baby.
  • Taking high amounts of turmeric might prevent the absorption of iron. Turmeric should be used with caution in people with iron deficiency.
  • Turmeric might slow blood clotting. It might cause extra bleeding during and after surgery. Stop using turmeric at least 2 weeks before a scheduled surgery.

As always remember, moderation is key and always consult your doctor. I can’t stress that enough.

Thanks for stopping by. Have a great weekend!  😉

Sources:

  • https://authoritynutrition.com/top-10-evidence-based-health-benefits-of-turmeric/
  • https://www.organicfacts.net/health-benefits/herbs-and-spices/turmeric.html
  • http://www.whfoods.com/genpage.php?tname=foodspice&dbid=78#healthbenefits
  • https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6873/25-Reasons-Why-Turmeric-Can-Heal-You.html
  • http://www.webmd.com/vitamins-supplements/ingredientmono-662-turmeric.aspx?activeingredientid=662

 

Disappointments are blessings in disguise

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I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.

What do I mean byblessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life.   It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life;  achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.

God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows what is best for us and more importantly when to bless us with the things that we need and want.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.

God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.

However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us –  I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us.  Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.

In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.

Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:

  1. When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it!  Don’t delay and keep putting it off.  You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
  2. Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for.  When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
  3. Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
  4. Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives.  It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
  5. Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil.  Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
  6. God knows the things we struggle with even before we do.    He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere.  We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
  7. God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear.   Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
  8. It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
  9. Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
  10. We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.

What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now?     What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.

If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone.   Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be.  Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing. 

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Thanks for stopping. 🙂