Traffic lights save lives but only when we pay attention and obey the signs. They are there to facilitate the safe and smooth flow of traffic as well as to protect pedestrians. For most of us the red light means stop; the amber light to slow down and the green light to go. Unfortunately, for a few of us red, amber and green mean GO, GO FASTER and GO ALREADY! When we ignore the signs and their significance we can sometimes bring harm to ourselves and others.
This can be applied to our everyday lives as well. There are ‘seen’ and ‘unseen’ dangers out there that we can see and yet we run in with our eyes wide open because we tell ourselves we’re in control of the situation – we have our high levels of denial to thank for that. 🙂
Then there are those dangers that are not as obvious and often blind side us. This is true when it comes to our relationships with others and ourselves, our finances, our children and our health and many other areas of our lives.
You are ignoring the signs when:
- You are constantly making excuses for yourself and others.
- You are always trying to justify why things are the way they are.
- You choose to stay in a situation that is hurting you either physically, emotionally, psychologically or spiritually.
- You choose to stay silent.
- You let your anger and bitterness consume you rather than treat with the issue in a healthier way.
- You choose to use negative and unhealthy ways to numb yourself from the pain and pressures of life.
- You ignore or down play negative behaviour.
- Do nothing positive to change the negative things in your life.
- You pretend bad things don’t bother you.
- You don’t admit or seek help when you need it most.
If you could relate to any of these that’s a relief because it tells me I’m not alone. I have been at each of these stages at one point or another and not dealing with them never makes things better.
Ignoring the signs often results in stress, illness, conflict internally and externally, grief, resentment and maybe even death. You don’t have to accept things the way they are. Assess your each situation to determine what you have control over and what things you don’t. The things that you have control over like your actions and thoughts take action to improve whatever areas need adjustment.
The things you really have NO control over like the weather and other people’s actions and behaviour. Ask God for the strength and ability to accept it and move forward. There may be some people and situations you may have to distance yourself from, so be it. Life is too short to go around bitter and angry.
Stay blessed and remember you’re not alone and drive safely. 🙂