Blogger Recognition Award #2

A special thank you to the lovely Nel over at Reactionary Tales for nominating me for this award.

If you are not already familiar with Nel’s blog, you’re missing out because she blogs about experiences, shares photos, talks about books and she even has a weekly segment about endangered animals that I enjoy reading. So don’t be a stranger check her out.  🙂

The Rules

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Select 10 other bloggers you want to give this award to.
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them and provide the link to the post you created.

“Living vs Existing”– How it all began

I was actually driven to write a book about called “How to Find Your Gift”. When I completed my first draft I shared it with my sister who was so moved by it that she encouraged me to write more and share my insight and experiences with others.

I was uncertain at first if a blog was the way to go but I wanted to at least give it a try and I’m glad I did.  🙂 The creation of Living vs Existing helped me not only reach others but also helped me find more and more of myself.   I will always be grateful to Candice for always believing in me.

 

My advice to new bloggers

  1. Believe in yourself and your abilities.  The fact that you’ve even taken the step to create a blog says that you have something to say and share. Give it your best!
  2. Don’t be afraid to try something new.  At the early stages of blogging most of us are trying to find our fit in this big blogging community.  We may start off in one direction and find ourselves feeling drawn to another and that’s okay.   Visit other blogs, see what you like or feel drawn to, pay attention to how that makes you feel and try to develop your own unique style. You won’t know how good or great you can be if you don’t try.

My nominees are:

  1. Life, more than existence
  2. Growing Self
  3. Old House in the Shires
  4. Avid Observer
  5. Mainepaperpusher
  6. eternalsoul25
  7. In A Messy World
  8. Ajay Vyas
  9. A Learning Poet
  10. Turtledesk

To each of my nominees thank you for doing what you do.  There are so many amazing bloggers out there that it is almost impossible to list everyone.  Some I know, some I’m yet to discover, some don’t even know they are great. I look forward to reading your blogs.  Keep writing with purpose and passion.

Thanks for stopping by.  Thanks again Nel for the opportunity to share this award with others.

Make today a great one!

Appreciation

Appreciation is a word that can be expressed by use of other words or it can be as simple as “Thank You” likewise it could be expressed through our actions – when we present a gift or an award, give a postcard, host a lunch or dinner just to name a few.

It is a word that allows us to show others how much we value them and what they do or have done for us.

Sometimes however, we can take people for granted not showing them the appreciation and recognition they deserve.  We are all guilty of this at some point or another. The thing is to recognise this and make things better.

As parents, when our children do good deeds whether for us or others even when they do their chores well we should thank them and recognise the good they have done.

As children, we have a tendency to sometimes forget that our parents do and have done a lot to provide and care for us over the years.  It takes a special human being to love, care and nurture another human being with the hope and expectation that he or she would grow up, be happy and independent.  Those of us fortunate to be blessed with such parents or guardians should always be grateful and more importantly tell and show them.

As couples, we should always acknowledge the good each person does no matter how big or small.  No one likes to feel like what they do is insignificant.  We all have a role to play and all the roles are important.  This ‘team’ is only as strong as its players.

As employers, we should never take it for granted that our employees are paid to do their jobs and thus they must do it well.  The fact is, an unhappy and unappreciated employee will do just enough not to get fired while a happy and appreciated employee will more than likely go that extra mile without hesitation, if required.

As employees, we should be grateful that we have jobs and an income to help care for our families especially in times where unemployment is a reality for many others.  Although some of us may not be working in our dream jobs with the best co-workers or boss, we should still be appreciative for being blessed with it.

As human beings, we need to be more forthcoming with words of appreciation to each other.  When we receive, excellent or good customer service we should acknowledge it not just highlight when the service is bad.  It does not matter if it’s the mail carrier, waiter, store clerk, cashier, bag packer or pharmacist – appreciation is appreciation.

More often than not, it is the little things we say and do that can touch the hearts of the people we are trying to say “thank you” to.  Value the little things that people do for you just as much as the big because you never know when the little things are going to make a world of difference.

Thank you for stopping by.  Hope you’re making today a great one.

Are you dependent on the approval of others?

This weekend the word approval came to mind.  I found myself wondering why such a simple word complicated the lives of so many of us.

I can honestly sit here today and say that I struggled with needing the approval of others for a long time. From my childhood to adulthood this word I could not escape until now.

How did I do it?  I sort to understand why I needed it and started approaching life and my interactions with others and myself differently.  I understand it better and no longer let it control me or my actions.

History of approval

The need to get the approval of others starts early in our lives.  We grow up seeking the approval of our parents, teachers and even our friends. Why? Once we’ve seen and experienced what disappointing them feels like we try not to repeat that once it can be helped.

We like knowing that they are happy and satisfied with us. Other times their approval can make us feel like we belong.    As adults, we carry that same desire into the rest of our lives.  It affects us in our relationships, in the workplace even how we see and value ourselves.

Let’s look at some of the pros and cons of approval versus dependency on approval.

The upside of approval

  1. It provides confirmation.
  2. Help validate who you are.
  3. Builds you up – making you feel good or better.
  4. Provide a sense of belonging.

The downside of dependency on approval

  1. When you don’t get it you don’t feel good about yourself.
  2. It could make you feel insecure or uncertain about what you’ve done.
  3. Some people may use it against you.  They know you want their approval so they purposely don’t give it hoping this would negatively affect you.
  4. You’re constantly second guessing yourself.
  5. Keeps you stuck. You delay action or won’t act because you don’t believe in yourself hence you need this approval to push you into action.
  6. It breathes a quiet fear that hinders you from truly growing as an individual.

Reflecting on all of this confirmed for me that although the approval from others is good and has its benefits it is not always necessary except in the workplace when it directly relates to your job.

More importantly, becoming heavily dependent on getting the approval of others is more damaging than good.    I can tell you from first-hand experience that sometimes in life, if you sit back waiting for others to recognize, substantiate, acknowledge or reward your efforts you may be disappointed.  They may not give it and sometimes if they do it may not even be genuine and can be just as hurtful.

Don’t let this get you down.  Don’t let it discourage you.  Don’t let such people take away how good you feel about your contribution or yourself.

Their acknowledgement or lack thereof does not make you any less of a person.  It does not mean what you’ve done is not good because it is probably amazing!  Once you’ve done your best and feel good about it let that satisfaction fill you up.  Their thumbs up would be great but you taking joy in yourself is more important.

The trick is to value yourself first that way what others think of you would be more of an enhancer and not a deciding factor.   Many times it is simply their own insecurities or jealousy that makes it difficult for them to compliment or acknowledge the good others do.  That is something they have to work on.

You just have to focus on being YOUR BEST not THEIR BEST.

I would leave you with this, if you have people in your life that support and encourage you be thankful for them. Genuine people are rare hold on to them.  🙂

Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

One Lovely Blog Award

Avid Observer at whatlivingtaughtme nominated me for this award.  I am honoured and thankful to receive my first ever One Lovely Blog Award.  It really means a lot.  Thank you, Avid Observer.

Those of you not familiar with the blog should know that Avid Observer is all about motivating others, embracing life and making the most of it. Make time to visit you won’t regret it. 🙂

Here are the rules:

  • Each nominee must thank the person who nominated them and link their blog in their post.
  • They must include the rules and add the blog award badge as an image.
  • Must add 7 facts about themselves.
  • Nominate 15 people to do the award!

Seven (7) facts about me:

  1. My favourite colour is blue.
  2. I love BBQ  and curry dishes.
  3. I’m a sucker for hot french fries.  Yes, I eat junk food from time to time but I try not to over indulge. 🙂
  4. I recently created a twitter account but I’m still learning.
  5. I do not exercise as much as I should. 🙁  I started every morning a few months ago but I’ve been lazy. I’ll get back into it.  I promise!!! 🙂
  6. I love interior and exterior decorating. I love seeing a space transform and come alive by simple things such as a change in paint colour, adding storage units, plants even wall art.
  7. I love engaging with my readers.  Your feedback and comments inspire and encourage me to keep writing.  Thank you for that. 🙂

My nominees are:

  1. Roda
  2. Listen to your Heart
  3. Ajay Vyas
  4. Cheila
  5. poetrylover
  6. braveandrecklessblog
  7. eternalsoul25
  8. Sar
  9. Mr. Mel
  10. Shweta Suresh
  11. Elsie LMC
  12. Intentergy
  13. David Jose
  14. fraziersracket
  15. kayla

I understand that not everyone chooses to be a part of the award nomination process. By nominating the following blogs, I am able to show my thanks and appreciation for the contributions they make. If you choose to take part, that is fantastic! If not, just keep doing what you do. 🙂

 

Versatile Blogger Award #2

I would love to thank the lovely Mbalenhle for nominating me for the Versatile Blogger Award.    If you are not familiar with her blog Budding Regardless be sure to check it out.  She speaks her mind on different topics which I find at times to be refreshing and inspirational.

Rules of the Versatile Blogger Award:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and share their link.
  2. Nominate at least 10 bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs. Also, inform them about the nomination.
  3. Reveal 7 facts about yourself that your readers may not know.

7 Facts About Me

  1. I don’t like to eat eggs.  I would easily put it in my hair as part of a hair treatment or on my skin as part of a facial mask but for some reason to eat it freaks me out.  I know they are good for me but I would have to add a tomato, an onions and some sausage before I could eat them.
  2. I know a lot of people but I have few friends.
  3. I give my best in everything I do.
  4. I’m not a good swimmer but I like being in the water. 🙂
  5. I have no problems working hard for what I want.
  6. I accept that I am not perfect.  However, this does not discourage me from striving for betterment.
  7. Motherhood has changed my life in many ways and I have no regrets for the two blessings I have received.  🙂

My nominees for this award are:

  1. hailangeliccreation
  2. Roda
  3. Sar
  4. Breaking the Cycle
  5. Bafikile
  6. Ajay Vyas
  7. Elsie L.M.C
  8. Estella Lynch
  9. byluis7
  10. DaviD JosE