The ‘Bounty’ Approach

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Are you familiar with the paper towel brand known as Bounty? They use the slogan, “The Quicker Picker Upper”.  It is often used to show how well and how much it absorbs when compared to other brands.

Are you going through life behaving like a Bounty Paper Towel?  You know, absorbing everything and holding everything in.  Bounty is great for cleaning up messes and a lot of other things too.  However, adapting the ‘Bounty Approach’ to our everyday lives and issues is not healthy physically or mentally.

The reality is, even a sponge will spill the excess liquid when it can’t hold any more.  The human mind and body is no different.  So be weary of how much and what you allow yourself to endure.

Listen! You can’t control or fix everything or everyone.  The only real control we have is over ourselves.  So don’t suffer in silence, don’t overload and burden yourself with things you really have NO control over.  See it or them for what they are and find a way forward.  Talk to someone.  Pray about it.  Write about it. Sing about it.  Find a healthy and safe way to express what you’re feeling so you can truly smile and laugh again.

The load or burden you carry would feel so much lighter.

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Have a wonderful evening.  Thanks for stopping by.

 

 

Health and Wellness Fridays – Stress

Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!!! 🙂  Today I am going to focus on a topic we all struggle with from time to time and that it is called stress.

What is stress? 

I think the most basic way to describe stress is by saying that it is triggered by anything in your life (good or bad) that you have little or no control over that you can’t but help but obsess about.  It has the power to motivate you and call you to action if you channel it properly or it can negatively affect your health and other areas of your life.

Some situations or life events that can trigger stress include:

  • Marriage
  • Job loss
  • Death of a loved one
  • Financial problems
  • Illness
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Work
  • School
  • Children
  • Divorce

Signs and symptoms of feeling highly stressed 

Please note that when we’re highly stressed the symptoms would vary from person to person because we all cope differently. Some people might present only one or two symptoms while others might present all if the stress is really bad.  Let’s take a look.

Some physical symptoms include: aches and pains, chest pain, diarrhea or constipation, nausea, loss sex drive and headaches.

Some cognitive symptoms include: constantly worried, inability to concentrate and memory problems.

Some behavioural symptoms include: loss of appetite, over eating, problems sleeping, withdrawing from others, display nervous habits such as pacing or nail-biting and increased consumption of alcohol, cigarettes or drugs to help relax.

Lastly, some emotional symptoms include: moodiness, anger, irritability, depression and anxiety.

In life, it is hard to avoid stressful situations sometimes and as such the best thing to do is learn and know our own limits.  Once we’ve determined what we can and cannot handle – the next step is finding healthy ways of coping in stressful situations.

How to cope in stressful situations?

  • Exercise in any form can not only lift your mood but serve as a temporary distraction allowing you to disconnect the negative thoughts that help fuel the stress.
  • Stay connected to your friends and family – these relationships can do so much to help you relieve stress. Talk, laugh, catch up on the positive don’t allow the temporary situation to steal your joy.  The more you feel to withdraw from others is a sign that you need them even more.
  • Engage your senses – sight, sound, taste, smell, touch, or movement. Music works for me find something that works for you.  Maybe you need to join a dance class, maybe cook a lovely meal, maybe you need to use your hands to get creative, get a back or foot massage whatever it takes to get a smile on that lovely face and calm your mind. Do it!
  • Watch what you eat – a diet rich in fresh fruit and vegetables, high-quality protein, and omega-3 fatty acids, can help you better cope with life’s ups and downs.
  • Get adequate sleep – the body needs sleep to recuperate so that we’re able function at our best.  Inadequate sleep can cause irrational thinking.
  • Take a few slow and steady deep breaths
  • Assess the situation – that is, (what’s within your control and what’s not within your control)
  • Address what you can and get help for the rest

Remember, this too shall pass!    Stress is not all bad, it is how we choose to handle the situations that determine how we come out in the end. We may not have control over every situation but we do still have control over how we let it affect us.

Stay blessed and not stressed.  Have a great weekend.

Thanks for stopping by:)

I am more than breath and bones!

“I am more than breath and bones!” was my contribution to the Breath and Bones Writing Prompt Challenge on Braveandrecklessblog.  Now that it has been officially on the above site I can now share it with you guys.  Hope you like it. 🙂

“I am more than breath and bones,” said the mistress to her lover

A married man but that did not bother her

She was in love and although he promised his heart to another

She hoped they would still be together

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“I could never leave my wife. She is my bread and butter,” said the shameless man to his lover

Little did he know that his mistress planned a show

And now his bread and butter” would finally know

That her gold digging husband had to go

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As she hid in the mistress’s closet

Her heart was breaking and her eye lids failing

To hold back the tears

Because her ears now have confirmation of her fears

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She could not hear the truth anymore

And boldly emerged from the closet doors

Being a lady, she kept her dignity

And chose not to voice any profanity

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She paid the mistress for her information

And advised her husband

Of their immediate separation

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“I am more than breath and bones. I’m your husband Mr. Jones.” said the man to his wife

“You should have thought of that before you lay on your back. Now we’re getting a divorce and that is that!” said his wife in a firm tone.

Her focus now turned on getting her lawyer on the phone.

Don’t Underestimate Your Words

What words are you using to describe yourself or identify with?

Are they positive or negative?

Some positive words we can use include: adaptable, adventurous, beautiful, ambitious, amiable, compassionate, considerate, courageous, handsome, courteous, creative, cute, diligent, generous, passionate, pretty, persistent, reliable, resourceful, sincere and witty just to name a few.  How many more words can you add to this list?

Some negative words include: arrogant, boastful, bossy, cruel, deceitful, dishonest, harsh, selfish, irresponsible, lazy, unattractive, mean, unreliable, ruthless, ugly, resentful, rude, self-centred and untrustworthy just to name a few. There are so much more but why focus on the negative?

I can honestly say that I have identified with a few of these words at one point or another but I didn’t stay there and neither do you.   I chose a different path and created a better version of myself.  It did not happen overnight but each day I made a choice to improve and I did just that.

Pay close attention to the labels you choose to associate and identify with. Take corrective action where you think necessary.  Even though we aren’t perfect that does not mean we should not try to be better human beings.

Words are just words. The meaning and power words have is what we give to them.

This is important because the words we choose to identify with can either strengthen and reinforce our core or they can weaken our very foundation.

Make some time for yourself this week to write down all the positive words you can that identifies you as a person, if you’re not happy where you’re at today, you can write out words that describe who you would like to become.

Have a blessed day!  Thanks for stopping by.

Moving On

Moving on

Often easier said than done

Until you are the one

Feeling the pain in your chest

As your heart aches

And your mind races

Playing over and over in your head

Things said and done

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You can’t sleep or get any rest

Because the person you loved

And you thought loved you

Decided to move on without you in their life

That is a tough pill to swallow

But acceptance eventually comes but it takes time

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You’ll be angry, sad, depressed and sometimes just

Damn confused about why and how this could even happen

I can tell you it gets better

After you cry your eyes out

Maybe even give a good scream and shout

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For each of us the recovery time varies

But you CAN and WILL overcome this

You can’t see it now but it is for the BEST

One day at a time, make the decision

To be your best self

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The brokenness you’re feeling won’t last

Smile even when you don’t feel like it

Talk to someone,

The worst thing you could do is shut everyone out

You will love and be loved again

You will smile, laugh and create even better memories

You will be happy again

 

The love of your life is still out there

If you give up now, how is he or she going to find YOU 🙂

Failure is a choice!

Of all the words that we could use to describe ourselves why would we choose “failure”.

Failure is a word that is given meaning as a result of something that has happened or perhaps did not happen the way it was intended.   It is sometimes used to describe an event, a thing and even people.

Are you a failure?  You are what YOU believe and how you behave!

You are only a “failure” when and if YOU accept that title.  For a failure is someone who has accepted defeat.  They refuse to fight for what they want.  They lack perseverance and a burning desire to overcome their obstacles. 

Failure as it relates to people,  is a type of attitude and a behaviour.  It is a choice.

So why not, choose differently?  Let’s choose to persevere!  No matter how tough things get, no matter what negative talk they throw at us, even when we’re standing alone.  It is the will to persevere that would bring us through anything.

There is no shame in failing at something especially if you have given it your best. 

Failure is just a word never let it define YOU.  You define who you are by your actions and behaviour.

Failure should NEVER be allowed to stop us from trying for that is when we truly fail.

Helplessness

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For the past two days I have experienced some technical difficulties with my blog that had me going through a phase of helplessness.  This feeling  triggered other emotions such as frustration, annoyance and anger.

Some of you may know the feeling, that sense of there’s nothing you can do to fix the problem you’re facing no matter how hard you try.   That feeling you get when the people around you can’t seem to understand or fix the problem you’re going through.  The feeling of helplessness can pop up at any time and at any stage in your life leaving you stressed.

In my most recent dilemma, I sought technical support from various avenues because I was not sure where the problem I was facing had originated from – talk about frustrating! At one point, I was locked out and unable to use my blog and this had me very concerned to say the least.

I was eventually reconnected and this made me happy again.  I did not realise just how much this blog meant to me until the fear of possibly losing it.  It is an extension of myself that I am now able to share with people all over the world and I am very grateful for it.

That feeling of helplessness that I experienced humbled me because it reminded me that I do not have control over everything no matter how hard I try.  The good news is, I don’t give up easily!  At various points during this period of restlessness, uncertainty and fear – I had to talk myself down emotionally.

I had to take a deep breath okay a few deep breaths 🙂 to calm my thoughts and my emotions so I could think straight and not let my emotions continue to run wild.  After all, behaving like a crazy woman would not have resolved my technical issues so I had to be analytical, diplomatic and do some trouble shooting of my own until I got the results I needed.

Thankfully, it paid off but it was not easy.  I had to be patient, I had to trust and rely on someone else to do their job and do it well.  This experience if nothing else has reinforced for me a couple of things:

    1. Helplessness can only be overcome with perseverance.
    2. I will continue to back up my data regularly.
    3. Knowledge is power – where you don’t have the answers – look for it!  Seeking to understand the various aspects of my blog prior to these events made it easier for me to understand and follow the instructions given.
    4. Patience is key and thus doing things in anger and hastiness should be avoided when possible.
    5. Be your own emotional coach. Take deep breaths and clear your mind don’t let your negative emotions drive your actions. When no one else is around the only person you have is YOU.
    6. Don’t focus too much on the problem –focus your efforts and energy on finding solutions.
    7. It’s okay to not have all the answers.
    8. It’s wise to get help.
    9. Sitting back and doing nothing is definitely NOT the answer.
    10. See the situation as an opportunity to learn.

 

It feels good to be back. Thanks for stopping by.  🙂