Disappointments are blessings in disguise

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I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.

What do I mean byblessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life.   It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life;  achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.

God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows what is best for us and more importantly when to bless us with the things that we need and want.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.

God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.

However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us –  I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us.  Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.

In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.

Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:

  1. When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it!  Don’t delay and keep putting it off.  You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
  2. Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for.  When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
  3. Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
  4. Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives.  It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
  5. Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil.  Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
  6. God knows the things we struggle with even before we do.    He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere.  We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
  7. God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear.   Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
  8. It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
  9. Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
  10. We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.

What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now?     What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.

If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone.   Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be.  Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing. 

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Thanks for stopping. 🙂

 

 

 

The Benjamins and the Hopefuls

 

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Lea by: Firkin

Let me tell you a story about two families – the Benjamins and the Hopefuls.   The Benjamins were a very wealthy family. They had two sons Sam and Samuel both of whom attended private school.  Mr. and Mrs. Benjamin spent all of their time working and had little time to spend with their children.  Their sons were usually left in the care of their nanny Elsa. She was an old woman who was always very nice and kind to them.

Mr. Benjamin learnt from an early age that he had to work hard for what he wanted and he honestly believed that the sacrifice he was making would spare his sons the tough lessons he had to learn growing up.

He was proud of his accomplishments and his sons but he would never tell them. Instead, whenever Mr. Benjamin and his sons would cross paths in the hallway of their home he would always stop them and say, “Everything I’m doing, is for you” and they would always shake their heads and answer, “Yes, father. We understand“. Then they would all continue on their way to wherever they were going as they would try to stay out of each other’s way.

The truth is, Sam and Samuel didn’t understand.  In fact, the more time that passed the more resentful they became. They did not understand why having money and riches didn’t make them happy.

The Hopefuls on the other hand, were simple people. They were crop farmers and owned a modest piece of agricultural land.  They had twins a boy and a girl, Adam and Angelina.  Mr. and Mrs. Hopeful were hard-working, kind and humble people. They were not rich in material things but found value in each other.  They made the most of everything they had and always believed in teaching their children about the value of a dollar, good manners, responsibility, life skills, independence, respect, integrity, gratitude and forgiveness.

Mr. Hopeful was a very serious man but when it came to his children his heart would melt like butter. He would play with them in the field, go swimming and even take them hunting.  He treated his children equally.  Mrs. Hopeful would help them with their homework and would encourage them to assist with the chores around the house.  At bedtime she would read to them and kiss them on their foreheads. Before she would leave the room she would always say to them, “It does not matter where you start in this race called life; all that matters is how you finish.”

Adam and Angelina were always well-behaved and well-mannered.  They knew their parents loved them. Even though they did not have all of the things the other children had they never felt as though they lacked anything.  They always supported and looked out for each other.

As time went by the children in both families grew up and eventually took over the respective businesses their parents had left them.  Mr. Benjamin eventually died from a heart-attack.  Mrs. Benjamin died from a broken heart soon after.   It seems the death of her husband was too much for her.   Mr. and Mrs. Hopeful unfortunately died in a car accident later that year.

Sam and Samuel could not cope with the death of their parents. They felt alone and did not feel they were equipped to run the family business.  Sam, the younger of the two started doing drugs and hanging out with the wrong people while Samuel turned to drinking and gambling. Needless to say, the once respected Benjamin name within two years had crumbled to nothing.  The banks seized all of their properties and they had to file for bankruptcy.  Sam was eventually imprisoned for drug possession and Samuel died in a car accident. The pressures of life seemed too much.

Adam and Angelina both missed their parents terribly but knew they had each other. They stuck together and worked hard to build and grow the family business.  They had done so well that they were featured in the town’s newspaper.  They eventually expanded and opened ‘The Hopeful’s Vegetables and Poultry Market’.  All the lessons they had learnt as children growing up had prepared them for life.

Their once modest agricultural land had expanded into two and a half acres.  As they sat on the porch looking at the beautiful sunset and all the blessings they had received they could not help but remember those words their mother would recite to them before bed, “It does not matter  where you start in this race called life; all that matters is how you finish.”

This was my first short story. Hope you enjoyed it. 🙂