“I wish my house was bigger. It is just too small.” said Sam.
“Well, I wish I had a bigger swimming pool.” said Brian.
“I wish we had more money.” said Adam.
“You rich kids have life so easy. You live in the best part of town. You go to the best private school money can buy. You’ll probably never have to work for your bread and butter as long as you live and yet you sit and complain.” said George.
George had only lived in the town a few months. He was a new member of the elite group he was criticizing. He was disgusted by their greed and lack of humility. George’s family was not always wealthy and they worked very hard to acquire the wealth they now enjoy.
George was humble, kind, thoughtful and more than anything he was grateful for the blessings his family now enjoyed. He remembers when they did not have food to eat. When his parents could not pay the bills and how difficult things were. He is glad that he had those experiences because they remind him not to be wasteful and ungrateful.
Adam, Brian and Sam had never had anyone speak to them like that before. George hit a nerve, so much so that Sam and Brian made efforts to correct their attitude and behaviour. The three boys became very good friends.
Adam however, was set in his ways and distanced himself from the group. As years went by, the three boys grew into men and joined their family businesses into successful enterprises that not only benefited themselves but others. They were all happy and had beautiful families to share their success with.
Adam also grew up to be successful as well. However, unlike the others he did not have a family to share his success with. He had acquired all the wealth he had dreamed of. Unfortunately, he could not find love because he was convinced that everyone was after his money so he did not get close to anyone.
He eventually died of a heart attack. All the riches he had acquired could not be taken with him in death. His only legacy would be the enormous mansion he built for himself.
George, Sam and Brian to this day would always tell their kids,
“Money is just a medium you use to buy things. Never let it define you. Always let your words and actions define who you are. When the money is gone all we have is each other. ”
I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.
What do I mean by “blessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life. It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life; achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.
God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows whatis best for us and more importantly whento bless us with the things that we need and want. I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.
God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.
However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us – I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us. Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.
In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.
Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:
When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it! Don’t delay and keep putting it off. You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for. When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives. It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil. Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
God knows the things we struggle with even before we do. He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere. We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear. Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.
What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now? What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?
I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.
If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone. Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be. Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing.
Do you know what Oprah Winfrey, Stephen King, Richard Branson, Thomas Edison, Jay-Z and Steven Spielberg have in common? Let’s get to know them a little better first.
Oprah Winfrey– was repeatedly molested as a child. She ran away from home. She in her early teenage years gave birth to a baby boy who unfortunately died. Although forced to endure unimaginable circumstances in her early childhood, Winfrey persevered. She excelled as an honour student and eventually secured a full scholarship to college. She is now one of the most successful and richest people in the world today. According the Forbes, Winfrey is worth an estimated $3 billion.
Stephen King– had his first novel “Carrie” rejected 30 times by publishing houses. His wife encouraged him to try one more time and he was eventually able to get it published. King sold over 350 million copies and even had it made into motion pictures. According the The Richest, he is worth an estimated $400 million.
Richard Branson – despite the difficulties and challenges posed by his acknowledged dyslexia, Branson used his personality and business talents to become the success he is today. According to Forbes, Branson is worth an estimated $5.1 billion.
Thomas Edison – failed a number of times before successfully creating the lightbulb. The exact number of tries has been debated but some say as much as 10,000 attempts. Can you imagine? His perseverance paid off and bought us not only the lightbulb but the phonograph as well.
Jay-Z-had big dreams to make it big as a rapper. Unfortunately, he had difficulty convincing record labels to sign him. This however, did not deter him in fact, he persevered and now owns his own record label. Jay-Z is not just a rapper but a businessman who has investments in clothing lines, real estate, sports teams, record labels, and more. According to Forbes, his estimated worth was $610 million in 2016.
Steven Spielberg – was rejected twice from the University of Southern California (USC). Spielberg did not allow this rejection to crush his dreams. He went on to attend California State University in Long Beach. USC eventually awarded him a honorary degree in 1994 and he even became a trustee of the university in 1996. According to Forbes, Spielberg is worth an estimated $3.7 billion.
The commonality among these people was a burning desire to move pass the obstacles in their lives. They did not allow a scarred childhood, disappointment or repeated rejection to prevent them from achieving the success they wanted for themselves. They all chose to look beyond their circumstances and worked hard to secure a better life for themselves.
They are just a small number of successful people who overcame obstacles in their lives to be where they are today. Some other people who persevered and came out on top are: Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Jim Carrey, Benjamin Franklin, Henry Ford, Walt Disney and Sir James Dyson just to name a few.
They are proof that no matter how bad things might look in the moment; no matter how many attempts we might have to make to get it right – we can overcome the obstacles. We just have to want it bad enough and we must work for it.
Our past will always remind us where we came from. Some people however, choose to use their past as an excuse; while others may try to use your past against you or as a means to discourage you. Let us instead choose to be the exception – let us use our past as a motivator to propel us into greatness.
Don’t allow any negativity from the past or current situations to keep you from achieving your dreams. Although our past may influence some aspects of our future it does not control it. We do!
Whenever, you feel like giving up or you feel defeated remember some of these people we looked at today and all the obstacles and failures they had to overcome to make it. Never give up on yourself! Let their stories give you hope and fuel your fire to succeed.