What is real beauty? It seems everywhere we turn we’re bombarded with images and perceptions about what signifies or identifies as ‘beauty’ and this is largely based on how someone or something looks.
However, over time I have come to realise that real beauty is sometimes deeper than just the physical attributes of someone as well as it can be based on personal preferences of the person doing the assessment that is to say, what might be beautiful to me may not be beautiful to you and vice versa. Hence the popular saying, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
How many couples have you looked at and thought, “What an interesting combo?” or “How did he or she end up with him or her?” How many people have you met that did not meet up to your standards of beauty or attractiveness that turned out to be great people who you now have beautiful friendships or relationships with? Or rather how many people have you not allowed yourself the opportunity to interact with because they did not meet your standards based on their appearance?
If we limit ourselves to just what our eyes can see then we can potentially be missing out on many beautiful things and people out there in the world around us.
I am not advocating that we stop admiring or complimenting people based on their appearance. What I am suggesting however, is that we not limit or avoid interactions with others because of their outward characteristics because sometimes “what you see is not necessarily what you get” and this can prevent us sometimes from learning and experiencing someone or something truly special.
I for one have met and interacted with all types of people and there have been times when I met people who I deemed beautiful or attractive in their outward appearance and later found out that they lacked inward beauty – that is, their character, personality or values did not match up with their outward beauty and I suddenly did not find them as beautiful after that.
As children through stories like “The Ugly Duckling” and “Beauty and the Beast” we’re taught “you should not judge a book by the cover.” We all know the stories so ask yourself this, who really loses in scenarios where we make assumptions or judgements about others based on their appearances – the person being judged or the person making the judgement?
A diamond is a diamond whether we think it is beautiful or not. Our like or dislike for it does not change what it is. This is how we must see ourselves and others as well. We are all beautiful and special and this is how we need to see our differences because whether people like us or not would not change or take away from what makes each and every one of us special, unique and beautiful.
Real beauty to me is not limited to just the physical attributes of someone or something but the non-physical attributes that compliment that person or thing. It is what makes it truly special and beautiful giving those that come into contact with it a sense of joy, happiness and pleasure to be around.