Physical Presence vs Emotional Presence

Thank you Lord for this new day.  Thank you for another opportunity to share and be a blessing to someone’s life today.  Help me deliver this message effectively. In Jesus name. Amen.

Many times I’ve gone through life being physically present without being emotionally present.

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You may ask, what can cause a person to want to separate their emotions from their physical self?

Some situations that could cause someone to want some distance between their physical and emotional self are:

  1. Experiencing constant abuse of any kind be it physical, emotional or sexual.
  2. Experiencing domestic violence.
  3. The pain of losing a loved one is just too much.
  4. Constantly witnessing the abuse of a loved one.
  5. Life just seems to be too difficult.
  6. Constantly trying to please others. Therefore, making their happiness priority over your own happiness.
  7. Fear.

 

Some benefits of this skill include:

  1. The numbness that it provides.
  2. It disconnects you from the moment or experience. Hence, you don’t have to feel anything.
  3. It provides a feeling of security even in the midst of the chaos.
  4. It gives you a sense of control over you.

 

However, some drawbacks of this skill when it becomes your way of life include:

  1. You lose more and more of yourself over time.
  2. You get so accustomed to running away emotionally it becomes difficult to stay present.
  3. Running does not heal the hurt but rather conceals it momentarily.
  4. The numbness that it creates in us over time hardens the parts of us that were meant to know and experience love and life.
  5. It does not make you happy it just numbs you.

 

Over the years I found being physically present and emotionally present for every thing in my life was sometimes too painful and found difficulty coping with them. It took many years but I learnt to control when and where I wanted to feel.  However, as the drawbacks highlighted suggests there was a price.

Like everything in life, there are consequences for everything we do.  Thankfully, with prayer and time, I was able to heal and turn this preservation skill into a powerful tool to ensure my own peace of mind and happiness.

How do we use this skill to our benefit rather our demise?

  1. Talk to someone about what you’re going through.
  2. Some situations require you to leave the environment for the healing in your life, mind and body to take place.
  3. Learn to love yourself again.
  4. Forgive yourself, the person or people who hurt you.
  5. Pray and ask God to help you.
  6. Understand that you CAN and WILL get better but it will take a little time so be PATIENT with yourself.
  7. Remember, God loves you and wants to see you whole again.

 

My Prayer:

Heavenly Father, as I come before You this morning to give You thanks and praise for all that You are doing not only in my life but all those who read and visit my blog. 

I thank you for restoring what was lost.  I thank you for healing the broken places within me.  Thank you for loving me even in my brokenness and imperfections.  Thank you for touching my life and making me whole and one with You.  Thank you that the people who are reading this would be blessed by this post and share it with someone who may really need to read it. 

I know Heavenly Father that Your desire is for us to be happy not sad. Healed and not sick and broken.  Filled with Your joy, peace and a sense of security that comes from knowing You. Let us feel Your love washed over and through us as we read and agree that You are our Lord and Saviour.  Only You can fix the areas of our lives we have struggled with for so long. Give us the strength, wisdom, understanding and courage to DO what we have to do. We let go of our fears and ask for Your intervention and deliverance today.  As the song says, prove the doubters wrong. You are mighty and strong. In Jesus Name we pray, Amen!

It’s time to stop running and start living.  Make today better than yesterday.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

Health and Wellness Fridays – Create a Happier and Healthier US

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Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Today I’m keeping it really simple.  With the upcoming closure of one chapter of our lives to hopefully start another I thought it fitting to write something a little different.

This Health and Wellness Fridays segment was created out of a desire to be a healthier and happier me while sharing the knowledge and information gathered with others in the process.  “Knowledge is power”.  However, what we choose to do with that knowledge is where the real power comes from.

This segment has brought me so much joy and knowledge.  I know from the feedback that I get that it is also appreciated by so many of you and I am truly grateful that you take time to read it.

As we move closer to 2018, I have big plans for my life as do so many of you.   The thing is guys, if we don’t start taking better care of ourselves that is, mental health, physical health and emotional health – how good would any of our plans, hopes and dreams be to us or our families?

Make a proactive decision today starting in 2017 to DO RIGHT by YOURSELF!  Start with small changes or improvements but START.

I don’t have all the answers.  I don’t live a life free from challenges and obstacles.  I’m like many of you, wanting and desiring better but sometimes we let our comfort get in the way – making taking ACTION seem like a lot of work.  Aren’t we worth that investment of effort, time and money?  I believe we ARE worth it and it is time we do more about it.

We don’t need to be anybody’s vision of perfect. We just need to develop and foster within ourselves a passion and love for self that drives us to want and actively pursue a better, stronger and healthier version of ourselves.

From today onward, NO LONGER will we allow self-doubt, fear, negative people, negative thinking, lack of finances and excuses to hold us back from improving various aspects of our health and ultimately our lives.  It’s time to get creative and resourceful to think and work ourselves into a better way of living. 🙂

Make that decision with me today to seriously go after that better and healthier life that we deserve and I have no doubt that happiness will follow.

I wish us all good health, happiness, prosperity and clarity of mind and spirit.

Best wishes to you and your families today, tomorrow and for the New Year 2018. 🙂

As always, thank you for your continued support.

Christmas Vibes

It’s that special time of year, when those you love draw near

There’s just something magical about the atmosphere

That no other season can compare

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Maybe it’s the music, maybe it’s the food

Maybe it’s the beautiful decorations that get us in the mood

The presence of family and friends

Laughter and cheer is more than enough to remind us who really care

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Christmas time though is not all Ho! Ho! Ho! Ho! for everyone

For some Christmas is just no fun 🙁

As it is a reminder of those who have gone

The memories can hit us like a powerful mist

Often so strong we spend countless days trying to dismiss

 

Christmas brings us together for a few days in December

But we should always remember

We never stop loving our loved ones because they aren’t here

For they will always be special and dear

 

So never despair

Cherish the people you still have here

And let’s commemorate those who can’t be there.

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Best wishes for the season.   Have a wonderful evening.

Thank you for stopping by.  🙂

Music Reflection Mondays #6

Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays! I had a really hectic day so music is definitely going to be my choice tonight to unwind and relax.  Hope your day was not as intense as mine. 🙂

As you all know, music is my go to for relaxation and just improving my overall mood. I wrote this little piece about how music makes me feel. Hope you like it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Music is like a glass of wine at the end of a long day

If you listen closely your body might start to sway

However, not all music is designed to make you feel this way

Some are great at soothing the soul, others make you want to lose control

Creating some memories you don’t ever want re-told

The lyrics, the music, all make you connect

Sometimes to beautiful memories you don’t ever want to forget

So although some music is good for relaxation

There are some that are good to help with frustration

Whatever you’re going through there is a song out there for you

So if you ever feel sad and blue

Get a good song you could relate to

Because someone out there has probably been your shoe

Let the music lift you up

And as Michael Jackson said, “Don’t Stop Til You get enough” 🙂

 

Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful week.

Difficult Moments

During our most difficult moments there is often a lesson to be learnt, strength to be gained or a new purpose or direction to follow.

In such times it is easy for us to be consumed by our emotions but it is important that we not let the pain we feel swallow us up.

If we do, we might end up missing an opportunity for growth.

Cry if you have to, talk about how you feel, take a few days to reflect if you must but whatever you do:

DO NOT SHUT DOWN EMOTIONALLY!

DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP!

DO NOT GIVE UP ON LIFE!

Difficult moments are just that moments! Learn from them and move forward.