Different Interpretations of Truth

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Is there such a thing as ‘different interpretations of the truth’?

Truth is the ability to be honest with ourselves and others even when and if we are wrong. 

There are instances when the ‘truth’ can become blurry.  This can occur when two or more persons recall fragments of an event or events based on what and how they remember them especially if they were emotionally charged at that time.

Whenever this happens we often end up with (3) three versions of ‘truth’ emerging:

  • Your version (which is the ‘truth’ as you perceived it)
  • His or Her version (which is the ‘truth’ as the other person perceived it)
  • Reality (what actually happened – which sometimes does not have an audience to validate or confirm what in reality occurred)

Some may argue, that the ‘truth’ is the truth and there is no differentiation.  However, if that were so how can two or more people be present at the same event and some report events differently than others as to what actually occurred.  One explanation could be that some may be purposely lying or withholding details.

Likewise, another explanation could be when situations get heated our emotions can go on overdrive causing us to see and hear only bits and pieces of information because mentally we are so charged up playing back whatever upset us that everything else going on around us sounds like noise and distortion.  We are angry and hurt and unfortunately when we get like this very little matters after that.

So yes, there are different versions of truth because for each of us in that moment how we feel about our situations are real to each of us.   When it comes to feelings and emotions it is not always so easy to control.  What we can do however, is try not to do and say things out of anger for once this happens the words can’t be undone.

Remember, the truth is our ability to be honest with ourselves and others even when and if we wrong.   When dealing with difficult situations it is therefore important that we keep our minds open and be slow to speak.   Once we get too emotionally charged things can get blurry and we don’t want that.

If you happen to be a bystander in an event, it is important that you try to stay unbiased because the persons involved would need objectivity and a clear mind to help them resolve their issue(s).

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The Games We Play

The games we play

When we don’t know what to say

Other than the truth because

We often let our fears get in the way

 

The games we play

When we know how we feel

But let the complexities of life

Build and foster within us unnecessary strife

 

The games we play

As we pretend to others and within ourselves

That what is going on around us has no affect

When the truth is, it is making our hearts bleed

 

The games we play

When we let our selfishness get in the way

We don’t take the emotions of others into play

Causing fractures in our relationships

That sometimes lead to the sinking of the ship

 

Should you decide to play games

With the emotions of others

Don’t say I didn’t warn you

So be true to yourself and don’t do to others

What you don’t want done unto you.

 

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The struggle within

 

Daily Prompt: Detonate

It is building up more and more each day

Those unspoken words you refuse to say

Hoping silence would make those feelings go away

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The pain is more than you can bear

But you sit there refusing to share

Your heart is so dear

You’re afraid it would tear

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Don’t be controlled by your fear

There are still people out there who care

Denial will only help your spiral

As the pressure builds, it will slowly spill

Into your life causing strife

Even forcing you to question your life

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Whatever is consuming you inside

You can no longer run from or hide

Because like a grenade you will detonate

Leaving your surroundings desolate

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You can prevent this

This explosion or possible implosion

By healing the corrosion

The corrosion of the mind, body and spirit

You know the one you’re struggling with

It’s time to stand up and face it

Because running you will never shake it.

 

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Impact of our childhoods on our adult relationships

Until a few years ago I didn’t really understand and appreciate just how significant my childhood was in shaping who I am today.  My childhood was filled with different elements that made it good as well as some other elements that were not so good.  Overall, I would say compared to many people I had a good life.  There are people out there who have lived through childhood experiences that no child should ever have to endure.  Those who survived, what price does their adulthood now pay as a result of those experiences.

Do you realise just how much of an impact our childhood has on our relationships?

Relationships can be tricky.  You see, we are dealing with people’s feelings, emotions, expectations and even their past experiences knowingly and unknowingly.  Even the best relationships have problems and issues to deal with.  What makes them successful is not only how they treat with their problems but also their willingness and desire to remain with each other.

Some times  when a relationship fails we beat ourselves up over them while others are able to dust it off and move on almost as if it never happened.  Why is that?

I believe that some of our childhood experiences affect us as adults more than we think or would like to admit.  Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse.  How so?

  1. Someone who grew up seeing their parents deal with problems by running away or avoiding the issues would more than likely do the same thing when faced with problems until they learn to respond differently.
  2. Someone who grew up seeing a lot of violence in the home might create a similar environment in their household or might stay in an abusive situation because it feels ‘familiar’ or ‘normal‘.
  3. Someone who saw infidelity or saw how it broke up their home as a child might have difficulty trusting people.
  4. Someone who experienced abandonment growing up might have difficulty trusting others and would probably always strive to be self-reliant.

The above scenarios are just a small fraction of some possibilities that some of us would have endured as children growing up.  Let me say upfront, not because someone had a tough childhood means they would automatically repeat the same pattern.  What I would say however, is that the negative experiences do affect us in some way.   To what extent I can’t say because that would vary from individual to individual.

So ask yourself the questions and be honest with yourself.

  1. How much of your childhood affects how you parent?
  2. How much of your childhood affects how you love others and yourself?
  3. How much of your childhood affects how you receive love?
  4. How much of your childhood affects how much you trust other people?
  5. How much of your childhood affects your ability to let others get close you?
  6. How much of your childhood affects why you like what you like or don’t like certain things or certain people?
  7. How much of your childhood affects your ability to forgive?

The fact is, only you can honestly answer those questions.  I’ve learnt that no matter how long ago the pain or hurt occurred in our childhood once it was never addressed or given closure it affects us and our relationships.

We can pretend it does not bother us or act like it never happened but in our subconscious and conscious mind it is there. The memories may be in the corner covered up but they’re still there.  Ignoring them won’t make them go away.  When you think you’re over it, life has a way of bringing it to the surface and because we have never dealt with it, there is often chaos and drama.

Many times when we enter relationships we only enter with the knowledge of what we’ve seen or been told by that special someone.  The average person does not lay out all their hurt for the world to see.   We bury it in an effort to forget so that we can function and have some measure of normalcy in our lives.  We call it self-preservation and our brain does that to help us initially but we can only hide for so long.

When relationships fail, it’s not always because of what is seen on the surface but sometimes the issue is much deeper.  No, it’s not our job to fix the person we’re with!  We have your own issues to address before we can help anyone else.  They must be willing and ready to face their own truths and address them one at a time.  That is the hard truth.

Some people over the years have been able to work through their childhood experiences to live better, happier lives. Facing some of those memories can be tough but it is possible to find peace within ourselves so we can truly move forward.

There is no doubt in my mind that our childhood can and does impact our adult lives.  How we let it impact our relationships is up to us.  When relationships fail it can be a tough pill to swallow.  After all, we’ve invested our time, our hearts and resources into the experience.   Cherish the good memories from your childhood and get help in working through the challenging ones so they don’t keep you stuck.

May you find the strength and courage to address the pain and hurt that you are dealing with.  Those of us that have children owe it to them to get resolution of our own issues so we don’t repeat the cycle of  pain.  We can’t help them until we help ourselves.

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Uncertain

You say you “love” me

Sometimes I wonder if this true

Because your words should have deeper meaning

For me and for you

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You say you “miss” me

But I can’t help but wonder

Is it really me you miss?

Or just my sweet kiss

Maybe it’s the way I move my hips

Being with me brings you such sweet bliss

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You might say, I’m over reacting

Reading too much into everything

But I can’t help shake the feeling

That there is something you’re concealing

Is it just paranoia, I’m feeling?

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When I say, “I love you”

I feel it in my heart

When I say, “I miss you”

You feel it like a spark

When you say I’m, “over reacting”

I have to protect my heart.

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

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Reflections

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When you look into the mirror

Beyond your smile and the blank stare in your eyes

Are you someone who is happy?

Or someone who is pretending to be?

Your face sometimes depicting an image

That is so far from your reality

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As the tug of war on your emotions, play out mentally

Often conflicting, with who you are meant to be

Denial you accept, almost peacefully

Now don’t get cross with me

For merely questioning a possibility

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I am in no way suggesting

That you walk around manifesting,

Everything you’re feeling

I’m was just simply asking

How you treat with what you’re truly thinking and feeling?

Because pretending and masquerading

Will only hinder your healing

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Your happiness is important!

Don’t label it insignificant,

Make it your business!

To chip away at any bitterness,

One day at a time,

So your happiness can truly shine.

 

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

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Difficult People

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Difficult people we can’t escape them

Sometimes they are our friends and even members of our family

These people we accept and even show empathy

However, there are some difficult people we work with that force us to ask,

“Why me, Lord? Life is tough enough already.” 

It seems difficult people can’t help it sometimes

It’s just who they are, maybe even their purpose in life

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How would our lives be without them?

Happy? Stress free?  Who knows for sure, not me!

Some of them force us to stop and think

Others can just make us get really stink

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Despite the negative emotions they can sometimes get into motion

They can sometimes force us to be better

Even motivate us to work harder

I know sometimes it’s hard to see the big picture

As we take deep breaths to keep our composure

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We must not lose self-control

We must continue to show restraint

Because if we were to get loose, those around us might faint

Not ready for the picture our words might paint

So we often conceal our feelings and quietly seek self-healing

As we accept that difficult people are everywhere

Placed in our lives for a reason and will only endure for a season

So face them like any test and let perseverance do the rest

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If however, you find the pressure becomes too much

Then dear friends you should speak up

With a clear head and not emotion led

Speak your piece and hopefully it brings peace

Just take it one day at a time and in the end you’ll be fine.

By: Cherylene Nicholas