Health and Wellness Fridays: Benefits of Forgiveness

Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays! Today we’re going to be looking at the health and wellness benefits of forgiveness.

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What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness, is the action or process of verbally and emotionally releasing yourself or someone from a wrong that was committed.  It compels us to ‘let go’ of what was and make a conscious decision to move forward.

Why is forgiveness important?

Let’s look at this from a biblical standpoint.  Here are two verses that stress the importance of forgiveness:

  • Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord has forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)
  • For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive you your sins.  (Matthew 6: 14-15)

 

What can unforgiveness lead to?

From personal experience, unforgiveness can eat you up from the inside out. It can also promote the following side effects:

  • Feelings of anger and agitation especially whenever the guilty party is in your presence.
  • Have you in a state of emotional bitterness.
  • Leave you feeling upset with the world.
  • Steals your joy and your ability to truly enjoy your life.
  • Increase blood pressure.
  • Increase stress levels.
  • Puts a strain on your heart and mind.
  • Shorten your life span. The constant stressing out  and anger has the potential to trigger other aliments in your body which can make you sick.

 

Some benefits of forgiveness include:

The truth is, the act that brought us to this place of unforgiveness was terrible and unfortunate.  However, the place of existence that it keeps us in if we let it, is much worse.

The message today, is to start the healing process within yourself – no amount of veggie smoothies or lemon water can remove the bitterness trapped in our hearts.  If true health and wellness is what you’re looking for – start from within that secret place.

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Once you have done this difficult and yet so simple act, I believe your life will improve. Your health would improve along with the other areas of your life that unforgiveness has placed a barrier of progress on.

My prayer:

Thank you heavenly Father for Your forgiveness and mercy towards our transgressions against You and our fellow man.  Thank you for loving us through our stubbornness and ignorance.  Thank you that we have life today and another opportunity to make things right within ourselves, the person who may have hurt us and the persons whom we may have hurt along the way.  I trust that as we choose to forgive and let go of ALL the hurt and pain that we held close to our hearts that we will see and feel Your healing touch in our mind, body and spirit. We receive this victory over unforgiveness. In Jesus name, amen!

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

Have a wonderful weekend.

 

 

Music Reflection Mondays: Soul Piercing

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Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays!

Today, let’s look at what I like to call “Soul Piercing Music”.

What do I consider “soul piercing” music?

  • It’s the kind of music that touches you so deep inside that you find yourself crying.
  • It’s the kind of music that can get you so emotional you’re on the verge of tears.
  • The kind of music that compels you to take a good look at your life unearthing feelings you didn’t even realize you had.
  • The kind of music that leaves you wondering, ‘What was I crying about anyway?’
  • This kind of music can touch you in a way like no other. It has the power to heal a broken heart.
  • It makes you think.
  • It makes you feel.

Here are some of my favourites.

Let Your Power Fall – Deon Kipping

I Am Yours – Lauren Daigle

Hosanna – Hillsong

The Prayer – Donnie Mc Clurkin & Yolanda Adams

First – Lauren Daigle

I Give You My Heart – Hillsong featuring Holly Dawson

Broken Vessels – Hillsong United

Do you have any songs that touch you in that way?  Please feel free to share some with me below. I would love to add more to my playlist.

Never underestimate the power of music in your life.  The right lyrics, listened to at the right time, in the right place, among the right people could change your life.

So make an effort to listen to the words and allow them to flow in and through you and tell me if they don’t make you think about your life and how blessed and fortunate you really are.

Every day has the potential to be as good as YOU want it to be.  It could be as simple as creating a music playlist to start your day or end your day; to changing or adding to your current music selection. 🙂  Whatever you decide, don’t be afraid to try something new! Get something that makes you smile, sing, dance and get happy. 🙂

Be blessed.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

 

Health and Wellness: Go Beyond the Surface

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Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!

I trust that your day is going well and if it is not, I want you to trust that it WILL get better.  Don’t allow your emotions or joy to be sucked away because of something someone said, did or did not do.

Look beyond that moment into your point of happiness within yourself and flood your mind with it and hold onto that. Life is just too short to hold on to the negative so free yourself from it.

Stay close as I prepare to venture beyond the surface. That is, beyond our aches, pains, weight loss goals, eating habits, among other things we wish we could physically change about ourselves.  Many of us have been told over the years that in order to live healthier and happier lives that we need to do certain things such as drink more water, exercise, don’t eat too much of this or eat more of that and so on.

I must admit that I have been one of those people who would have said some of those very things. In my own journey to improve my health I have learnt more than I honestly expected.  So don’t get me wrong, we should pay attention to what we put into our bodies.  The fact is, our actions have a direct impact on our health and overall well-being.

However, what we often miss or rather overlook, is the not so obvious things inside of us that also affect our health and overall well-being.  Many times our desire to become ‘healthy’ and ultimately improve our outward appearance tends to shift the focus away from some very important and real issues that we need to address inside of ourselves.

These underlying issues are often buried within us hiding among the physical issues that also plague us some known and unknown.   Some of these issues may include: anger, sadness, resentment, hatred, bitterness, regret, stress, and so much more.  Most of which often go unresolved, unchecked, dismissed or archived because we don’t want to deal with them or don’t have the time.

These emotions and unresolved issues within us cause more harm than drinking a sugar beverage or eating a piece of fried chicken in my humble opinion.  If we don’t address and actively treat with these issues we would be slowly killing ourselves no matter how many fruits, vegetables, smoothies or high fiber foods we eat.

So today, I’m asking God to help us with these unresolved issues within us that we’ve either avoided, neglected or ignored hoping that they would just go away. We all know that ignoring them does not make the pain and hurt go away.  It merely numbs us temporarily.  Let’s instead choose to go after a resolution that is more permanent as we ask God to heal our heart and create in us a new spirit.  Allow God to free us from the memories, limits and pain that have eaten away at us for so long.

Heavenly Father, as I come before today, I want to thank You for another opportunity to be a blessing in someone’s life.  I ask Oh Lord that every person reading and hearing this message that may have health and wellness issues beyond what the eyes can see be blessed and the healing process initiated in their life.

I ask for your intervention, your grace, your healing and mercy in our individual situations today.  Create within us a clean hearts Oh Lord and help us free ourselves from those shackles on our hearts and souls so that we can experience true health and wellness in our lives today and everyday.  In Jesus name, Amen.

 

 

 

 

Accepting and Understanding Control

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Many times we let ourselves get upset over the decisions and choices that those we love and care for make that we don’t support.

Many times like broken records we try to tell others why the path they’re on is wrong and why our way would be better.

Many times we see what’s wrong in the lives of others and pay little attention to what we need to fix in our own lives.

Many times we don’t realize or rather refuse to accept that some of us just have to learn some lessons in our own time because if we skip the steps we stand the risk of repeating the same mistakes.

Many times we are angry and upset but don’t admit to ourselves the real cause or root of what we feel and why.

Many times there are periods in our lives when even though we are surrounded by people we may feel alone.

Many times we often hide our true feelings out of fear, pride or uncertainty.

The thing is, there will be many instances when there are things and people we don’t understand, agree with or even like.

We have to sometimes accept that is how they are – at least, at this current moment in their lives.  We can’t fix nor is it our job to everyone or everything. It is only through understanding and learning to recognize that we can’t and will never control everything around us will we be able to better handle such situations.  

Our strength and power comes from understanding that the only control we need to have is over ourselves, our thoughts, our emotions, our words and our actions. When we don’t practice control over our mind, body and spirit we leave ourselves open to whatever and whomever wants to manipulate and control our lives.

Make a conscious decision today to use the power within you wisely! 🙂

May the New Year bring you joy, happiness, love and a way forward to a better, brighter and stronger YOU.

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a wonderful weekend. 🙂

Health and Wellness Fridays : Self-control

Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Hope you all are having a wonderful Friday. Tonight, I want to talk about the challenges most of us have in exercising self-control especially as it relates to our eating habits.

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Let me first start off by saying that this is an area I personally struggle with.  I know all the right foods to eat and all the unhealthy foods to avoid and yet in spite of all of this knowledge and wisdom – it can be really tough to walk away sometimes.  I know for a fact that I’m not the only person with this issue but let’s keep the focus on me. I don’t want you guys feeling bad or guilty. So just hear me out. 🙂

Self-control means that not only do we have the POWER to control ourselves, our choices and our decisions but that we actually USE that power in our best interest.

I believe we all have self-control the challenge is applying it to the areas of our lives that we have relinquished control – for some it is their finances, others their relationships, and so many other areas but mine is junk food. 🙁

Do I have self-control? Yes! Is it effectively applied to every area of my life? No. Food is one of the most challenging areas for me. Sure, I have the good stuff like my fruits, veggies, nuts, multivitamins, and so on but I also have occasional fries, fried chicken, pizza and Chinese food from time to time.  I know what I have to do and yet there are times when I decide to just throw it out the door and just have what I want and not necessarily what I need.

Do I love myself enough to do better? Yes!  So what’s holding me back from committing fully to the process?  Let’s find out.

  1. Cravings – old habits where you can’t help but want what you want even after you’ve implemented new habits.
  2. Enablers – the people around me who love the same stuff I love so it’s easy to fall back into it.
  3. Self-talk – where I convince myself I’m in control and I walk into an establishment leaving self-control at the door as the aroma of food fills the air.  He better not watch me crossed eyed when I’m walking back out with my fast food in tow so he can pout all he wants.  🙂
  4. Emotional eating – if I am feeling stressed out  you could believe that I am going in search of my comfort food KFC (Kentucky Fried Chicken) or a good BBQ. It does help to be honest but I do feel guilty after so all I end up doing is transitioning from one emotion to another.
  5. Not eating on time.  This is a major factor in me making poor food choices as I let my sense of smell and sight along with my hunger pains determine what I eat and how much.
  6. The belief that because I make healthy food choices most times that  I can have occasional ‘feel good food’. Life is just too short for diet rigidity.

All of the above factors make self-control over eating habits more challenging.  How do we overcome them?

  1. Eating on time. I try to add little snacks like yogurt, fruit or even nuts to help me not feel as hungry since I’m often stuck behind a desk.
  2. Try to monitor my stress levels and try to distract myself with music to take my mind off of whatever is attempting to throw me off.
  3. Monitor the self-talk. If I feel like convincing myself to go through the drive thru I would try to give myself reasons why I probably shouldn’t go – the line is just too long, the chicken might not even be fresh or the fries might be hot.  It works most times.
  4. As for the enablers, I just started saying NO especially if I already indulged once or twice for the week then anything after that is a no. I end up talking down their cravings as well. Of course, they’ll be a little disappointed and I’ll probably have to provide an alternative but at least we saved ourselves from overindulging.
  5. Cravings – I try not to stifle my urges entirely because food makes me happy. I have made an effort to regulate how often I would indulge for the week and month and try to stay within or under that goal making sure not to exceed it. Example, I might have KFC 2 -3 times for the month rather than 2-3 times for the week.
  6. Being honest with myself about what my weaknesses are and trying to put things in place to improve them for the betterment of ME.

Self-control is inside of each of us we just have to tap into it meaningfully. We all stumble from time to time and that’s okay. We need to support and encourage each other especially in areas of weakness – so let’s pick ourselves up and keep pushing forward. When we give up on ourselves self-control walks out the door.

Our health and wellness is just as important as those other areas of our lives that we apply self-control to if not more so.  It is there to protect us but it can’t work if we don’t use it.

Have a wonderful night and an amazing weekend.  Thank you for stopping by.

Different Interpretations of Truth

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Is there such a thing as ‘different interpretations of the truth’?

Truth is the ability to be honest with ourselves and others even when and if we are wrong. 

There are instances when the ‘truth’ can become blurry.  This can occur when two or more persons recall fragments of an event or events based on what and how they remember them especially if they were emotionally charged at that time.

Whenever this happens we often end up with (3) three versions of ‘truth’ emerging:

  • Your version (which is the ‘truth’ as you perceived it)
  • His or Her version (which is the ‘truth’ as the other person perceived it)
  • Reality (what actually happened – which sometimes does not have an audience to validate or confirm what in reality occurred)

Some may argue, that the ‘truth’ is the truth and there is no differentiation.  However, if that were so how can two or more people be present at the same event and some report events differently than others as to what actually occurred.  One explanation could be that some may be purposely lying or withholding details.

Likewise, another explanation could be when situations get heated our emotions can go on overdrive causing us to see and hear only bits and pieces of information because mentally we are so charged up playing back whatever upset us that everything else going on around us sounds like noise and distortion.  We are angry and hurt and unfortunately when we get like this very little matters after that.

So yes, there are different versions of truth because for each of us in that moment how we feel about our situations are real to each of us.   When it comes to feelings and emotions it is not always so easy to control.  What we can do however, is try not to do and say things out of anger for once this happens the words can’t be undone.

Remember, the truth is our ability to be honest with ourselves and others even when and if we wrong.   When dealing with difficult situations it is therefore important that we keep our minds open and be slow to speak.   Once we get too emotionally charged things can get blurry and we don’t want that.

If you happen to be a bystander in an event, it is important that you try to stay unbiased because the persons involved would need objectivity and a clear mind to help them resolve their issue(s).

Thanks for stopping by. Have a great day. 🙂

The Games We Play

The games we play

When we don’t know what to say

Other than the truth because

We often let our fears get in the way

 

The games we play

When we know how we feel

But let the complexities of life

Build and foster within us unnecessary strife

 

The games we play

As we pretend to others and within ourselves

That what is going on around us has no affect

When the truth is, it is making our hearts bleed

 

The games we play

When we let our selfishness get in the way

We don’t take the emotions of others into play

Causing fractures in our relationships

That sometimes lead to the sinking of the ship

 

Should you decide to play games

With the emotions of others

Don’t say I didn’t warn you

So be true to yourself and don’t do to others

What you don’t want done unto you.

 

Thanks for stopping by. Make today a great one!