Tears

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Tears help cleanse our souls

They wash away the hurt and pain

That can sometimes drive some of us insane

Relieving the internal pressure on our brains

Making it easier for us to breathe again

 

Tears are one way of expressing our joy and sadness

The body’s way of easing the madness

So there’s no need to hold them back

They can be rather hard to control

As a matter of fact

 

So many times we’re often forced to fold

As the tears begin to roll down our cheeks

It’s clear by then that we’ve reached our peaks

So cry dear friend and let it out

Your heart is hurting, that’s nothing to be ashamed about

 

From our tears we can sometimes find strength

Surfacing from deep inside among the things we try to hide

For behind our tears there are often different fears

But never believe that no one cares.

 

So I’ll cry for me

You cry for you

We both cry when we hurt

This much is true.

 

Tears have a purpose and more often than not when we keep holding them back constantly we make it harder for ourselves emotionally.  When we allow ourselves to feel sometimes that’s the only way we can truly heal.

Have a good night.  Thank you for stopping by.

 

We’re so much more…

A special Good Monday morning to each of you!  🙂 I just wanted to share these words of encouragement as we start a new day and a fresh week.  It is easy to forget just how special and amazing we are and can be because we sometimes let life and its challenges get the better of us.  I pray and ask God to let these words be a reminder for each of us as take away from this post what we need as we read it.

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We’re so much more than our flesh and bones 

We love, we laugh, we cry, we hurt

We learn, we grow and are always eager to know

Because we’re more than just our flesh and bones.

We’re intelligent, creative and beautiful creatures

Filled with passion and one of a kind features

Sometimes drawn to the illusion that we’re not enough

Causes constant confusion but as we try to separate fact from fiction

 

As our minds begin to clear and we can finally hear 

Just how rare and special we are

No one quite like us near or far

Each created with purpose and all we need do is focus

Because we’re more than just flesh and bones.

We’re like miniature kings and queens placed on this Earth

Gifted with unique talents and mind-blowing intellect

Over flowing with creativity but sometimes too blinded by ourselves to see

 

We are more than simply you and me

We just have to open up our minds to see

That we are so much more but we must be willing to explore

Because we’re more than just flesh and bones.

 

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a wonderful Monday and an amazing week.  🙂

Review, Reflect and Reposition our thoughts

Saturday greetings to you all!  I hope this new day meets you all in good spirits.  After all it’s the beginning of the weekend short I know but sweet all the same. 🙂

Just wanted to drop in and leave a few reminders that I felt inspired to share with you guys today as we review, reflect and reposition our thoughts. 🙂

  1. It’s not always greener on the other side.  Sometimes our perception is often blinded and we often take for granted just how beautiful and brilliant our green really is. 
  2. When things get tough that’s not your sign to cut and run but rather a test of your resourcefulness and determination to get the job done.  🙂
  3. People come and go in our lives over our lifetime.  Let us be to others what we want and expect them to be to us.  If you want and expect loyalty – give it! If you want support – give it! If you want positive people in your life try to be a positive person.
  4. Happiness is not just for a chosen few but rather the few who are willing to pursue it.

Have a wonderful weekend! Stay blessed and not stressed.

Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

Where is your focus?

Focus.

Focus is a powerful word.  If channeled inwardly in a positive way we can do amazing things and can become the amazing people we were meant to be.

If re-directed toward others especially in a negative way – it can consume you.  Likewise, if you take that energy and direct it internally in a negative way by being highly critical and negative about yourself it can consume you as well.

Focus requires time, energy, effort, dedication and determination.

Use that mental power and asset to your advantage.  Use it to strengthen your core values or create new ones (if needed).  Don’t believe or give ear to the negative stuff people say.

  • You have the power to make things right!
  • You have what it takes to improve your situation!
  • The only story that is going to keep you back is NOT what people say about you but what you believe about YOURSELF!

I don’t have a crystal ball and no I don’t know what the future holds.  However, what I do know is what I want and don’t want for myself.  If you can say the same thing – then all you need to do is STAY FOCUSED and go after what you want.

Believe in yourself. We CAN do anything if we just put our minds to it.

Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

Helplessness

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For the past two days I have experienced some technical difficulties with my blog that had me going through a phase of helplessness.  This feeling  triggered other emotions such as frustration, annoyance and anger.

Some of you may know the feeling, that sense of there’s nothing you can do to fix the problem you’re facing no matter how hard you try.   That feeling you get when the people around you can’t seem to understand or fix the problem you’re going through.  The feeling of helplessness can pop up at any time and at any stage in your life leaving you stressed.

In my most recent dilemma, I sought technical support from various avenues because I was not sure where the problem I was facing had originated from – talk about frustrating! At one point, I was locked out and unable to use my blog and this had me very concerned to say the least.

I was eventually reconnected and this made me happy again.  I did not realise just how much this blog meant to me until the fear of possibly losing it.  It is an extension of myself that I am now able to share with people all over the world and I am very grateful for it.

That feeling of helplessness that I experienced humbled me because it reminded me that I do not have control over everything no matter how hard I try.  The good news is, I don’t give up easily!  At various points during this period of restlessness, uncertainty and fear – I had to talk myself down emotionally.

I had to take a deep breath okay a few deep breaths 🙂 to calm my thoughts and my emotions so I could think straight and not let my emotions continue to run wild.  After all, behaving like a crazy woman would not have resolved my technical issues so I had to be analytical, diplomatic and do some trouble shooting of my own until I got the results I needed.

Thankfully, it paid off but it was not easy.  I had to be patient, I had to trust and rely on someone else to do their job and do it well.  This experience if nothing else has reinforced for me a couple of things:

    1. Helplessness can only be overcome with perseverance.
    2. I will continue to back up my data regularly.
    3. Knowledge is power – where you don’t have the answers – look for it!  Seeking to understand the various aspects of my blog prior to these events made it easier for me to understand and follow the instructions given.
    4. Patience is key and thus doing things in anger and hastiness should be avoided when possible.
    5. Be your own emotional coach. Take deep breaths and clear your mind don’t let your negative emotions drive your actions. When no one else is around the only person you have is YOU.
    6. Don’t focus too much on the problem –focus your efforts and energy on finding solutions.
    7. It’s okay to not have all the answers.
    8. It’s wise to get help.
    9. Sitting back and doing nothing is definitely NOT the answer.
    10. See the situation as an opportunity to learn.

 

It feels good to be back. Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

How to find your gift?

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For as long as I could remember, I have always heard the term “gift” in relation to someone’s special talent or ability and wondered, what was my special gift?  What is that one thing outside of my physical attributes and personality that made me truly unique?  I never knew for sure what that special ‘thing’ was or how to find it and that sometimes left me feeling unfulfilled.

You see, despite holding various positions in different organizations over the years I could never shake the feeling that I was supposed to be doing something more with my life.  If you have ever been there or you are still trying to find yourself then you know how frustrating that can be.   I will share with you how I found my gift; some of the challenges I faced along the way and how I overcame them.

Definition – What is a gift?

When I use the term ‘gift’ here, I am referring to that unique ability or talent embedded within you that no one else can do the way you do It is what makes you – YOU! 🙂  It’s like a finger print – no one else in the world has your unique prints.  Whether that gift is singing, dancing, cooking, teaching, story telling, poetry, interior design, hair dressing or photography just to name a few – no one can execute it the way you do, no matter how hard they try.

Where does your gift come from?

Some say, that we’re born with it.  Others say that it is something you develop over time.  There is also the belief that, a ‘gift’ is a blessing from God.  I believe ALL of the above is true.

I believe that from as early as the womb we are blessed with  unique and special talents and abilities from God.  If we develop  them correctly can make us great and successful in this life.  Likewise, if the ‘gift’ is left undeveloped it could result in us feeling lost and unfulfilled in life.

This was something I struggled with for many years.  You see, I was not ready mentally and spiritually for the journey. My life was filled with all sorts of distractions such as negative and unhealthy relationships, poor view of myself and a poor attitude.  I lacked the drive and motivation to go after what I claimed I really wanted and often made a lot of excuses as to why I could not succeed.

The PROCESS –  here are some things I did  to help me through this.

  1. Freed myself from all the negative people in my life. I recognized how their contributions only held me back and decided it was time I moved on.
  2. I decided “enough is enough”.  No more self-doubt and self-pity. It was time to stand up and take an active role in shaping my happiness.
  3. I started to monitor my thoughts.  The saying “words have power” is so true especially when they are coming out of your mouth.  I was sometimes the negative voice in my head, so I told myself to “SHUT UP”.  “Starting from today, if you have nothing good to say about yourself or others just be quiet!”
  4. Improve my attitude.  Many times we often underestimate how important our attitude is to our success – not only in finding our gift but in our everyday lives as well.  To discover your gift, I’ve found that gratitude, humility, patience, positivity, determination and perseverance are key elements that we should foster to not only find our gift but develop it.
  5. I limited and removed any negative distractions.  The distractions I am referring to included: watching too much television, excessive gaming on my devices, excessive partying, hanging out with people who are constantly negative and any addictions. Don’t let your distractions continue to have control over your mind, body or spirit.  Take control of your time and you’ll take control of your life.
  6. I created a list of the things  that I ‘loved’ doing versus what I ‘liked’ doing.  These are the things that made me happiest when I was doing them.  Please note , that nothing is insignificant, trivial or unimportant, if it is something you LOVE doing, be sure to list it.
  7. I confided in someone I trusted and whose opinion I respected. Please note, that this would ideally be someone who has known you at least 5 or more years. This person should be someone who is constructive in their feedback.  If you feel you don’t have anyone, I would suggest keeping a journal.  List your thoughts, aspirations and fears.  Be your own best friend!
  8. I regularly prayed and talked to God.  God is always with you, don’t be afraid to reach out to him through prayer and he will provide the answers you need.  Ask him for guidance, strength, patience or courage whatever you feel you need and he will grant it to you.  Open your mind and don’t limit yourself to only what you can see and imagine for yourself.  THINK BIG!
  9. Don’t let FEAR of the unknown or what people might think paralyze you and keep you stuck.  I used to be concerned about what people might think about my new pursuit but when I weighed who stood to benefit the most when I succeeded – I didn’t care about those people anymore.
  10. I started believing in myself and my abilities.   We ALL have something uniquely specific to us that can ADD VALUE to the lives of others.  Explore and nurture it!
  11. I had to learn to be patient with myself. I found everything was taking too long and wondered if I would ever have my breakthrough.   I had to focus more on improving myself and my thinking and spend  less time worrying about the days that went by. Remember, it’s a process!
  12. No matter what that little ‘voice of doubt’ might chant as it sits in the corner of your brain.  Don’t ever give up! 
  13. Don’t focus on what others are doing or saying.  Your success, your happiness and your future should be your primary focus. The focus of this exercise is YOU no one else.  I understand how difficult it could be at times when we look at other people lives and it seems to be so much better than ours but trust me, they have their own crap and issues that they are dealing with too.  Stay focused!
  14. Power of forgiveness.  Unforgiveness has kept me stuck for a long time and it was only through forgiving those people in my life that wronged me that I was able to really grow and find happiness.  Until I released myself from the hurt, pain and anger they caused me, I could not really move forward.  It is time to set yourself FREE, this is not about them.

Many of us go through life without purpose and direction and it does not have to be that way.  If you are tired of doing the same old, same old and you are really ready to shake off fear and go after your passion, then there is no time like the present to take action. I am happy to say that my gift is writing and helping others.  This blog makes me happy.  The feedback from my readers encourage and motivate me.

When I use my gift it does not feel like work because I enjoy doing it so much.  I don’t get tired of doing it because there is a passion and love for what I am doing.  Your gift should  benefit others – always bringing joy, pleasure and happiness when you use it. I believe once your gift meets that criteria you are on the right track.

 Stay strong and keep pursuing your dreams.