Health and Wellness Fridays : Self-control

Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Hope you all are having a wonderful Friday. Tonight, I want to talk about the challenges most of us have in exercising self-control especially as it relates to our eating habits.

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Let me first start off by saying that this is an area I personally struggle with.  I know all the right foods to eat and all the unhealthy foods to avoid and yet in spite of all of this knowledge and wisdom – it can be really tough to walk away sometimes.  I know for a fact that I’m not the only person with this issue but let’s keep the focus on me. I don’t want you guys feeling bad or guilty. So just hear me out. 🙂

Self-control means that not only do we have the POWER to control ourselves, our choices and our decisions but that we actually USE that power in our best interest.

I believe we all have self-control the challenge is applying it to the areas of our lives that we have relinquished control – for some it is their finances, others their relationships, and so many other areas but mine is junk food. 🙁

Do I have self-control? Yes! Is it effectively applied to every area of my life? No. Food is one of the most challenging areas for me. Sure, I have the good stuff like my fruits, veggies, nuts, multivitamins, and so on but I also have occasional fries, fried chicken, pizza and Chinese food from time to time.  I know what I have to do and yet there are times when I decide to just throw it out the door and just have what I want and not necessarily what I need.

Do I love myself enough to do better? Yes!  So what’s holding me back from committing fully to the process?  Let’s find out.

  1. Cravings – old habits where you can’t help but want what you want even after you’ve implemented new habits.
  2. Enablers – the people around me who love the same stuff I love so it’s easy to fall back into it.
  3. Self-talk – where I convince myself I’m in control and I walk into an establishment leaving self-control at the door as the aroma of food fills the air.  He better not watch me crossed eyed when I’m walking back out with my fast food in tow so he can pout all he wants.  🙂
  4. Emotional eating – if I am feeling stressed out  you could believe that I am going in search of my comfort food KFC (Kentucky Fried Chicken) or a good BBQ. It does help to be honest but I do feel guilty after so all I end up doing is transitioning from one emotion to another.
  5. Not eating on time.  This is a major factor in me making poor food choices as I let my sense of smell and sight along with my hunger pains determine what I eat and how much.
  6. The belief that because I make healthy food choices most times that  I can have occasional ‘feel good food’. Life is just too short for diet rigidity.

All of the above factors make self-control over eating habits more challenging.  How do we overcome them?

  1. Eating on time. I try to add little snacks like yogurt, fruit or even nuts to help me not feel as hungry since I’m often stuck behind a desk.
  2. Try to monitor my stress levels and try to distract myself with music to take my mind off of whatever is attempting to throw me off.
  3. Monitor the self-talk. If I feel like convincing myself to go through the drive thru I would try to give myself reasons why I probably shouldn’t go – the line is just too long, the chicken might not even be fresh or the fries might be hot.  It works most times.
  4. As for the enablers, I just started saying NO especially if I already indulged once or twice for the week then anything after that is a no. I end up talking down their cravings as well. Of course, they’ll be a little disappointed and I’ll probably have to provide an alternative but at least we saved ourselves from overindulging.
  5. Cravings – I try not to stifle my urges entirely because food makes me happy. I have made an effort to regulate how often I would indulge for the week and month and try to stay within or under that goal making sure not to exceed it. Example, I might have KFC 2 -3 times for the month rather than 2-3 times for the week.
  6. Being honest with myself about what my weaknesses are and trying to put things in place to improve them for the betterment of ME.

Self-control is inside of each of us we just have to tap into it meaningfully. We all stumble from time to time and that’s okay. We need to support and encourage each other especially in areas of weakness – so let’s pick ourselves up and keep pushing forward. When we give up on ourselves self-control walks out the door.

Our health and wellness is just as important as those other areas of our lives that we apply self-control to if not more so.  It is there to protect us but it can’t work if we don’t use it.

Have a wonderful night and an amazing weekend.  Thank you for stopping by.

What’s Up Wednesdays #13

Yes, it’s Wednesday. I’m sure some of you are thinking it took its time getting here while the rest of us are probably saying, “Wednesday already!” 🙂

What have you guys been up to?  All work, I hope not! Stressing out that is awful. Hopefully you’ve made time for yourself and loved ones trying to create a balance between work and your personal life.  Easier said than done for many but sometimes guys we just have to make that time because we don’t get it back.

I have been missing for the last four days and don’t tell me you didn’t notice. 🙂 I was on Part Two of my mini vacation with the family.  I’ll share a little more about that as we get into our What’s Up Wednesdays segment.

What I’m eating this week:

Today for lunch plan on getting a Presto Chicken Penne Pasta which consists of Herb Chicken Breast, Penne Pasta, Red & Yellow Peppers, Broccoli, Parmesan Cheese, Mushroom, Sun Dried Tomatoes, Basil and Herb Lime Vinaigrette. I’ll add a picture when I pick it up. 🙂

I love these and the food is so fresh and delicious!  It’s especially great when I’m pressed for time and I want something healthy and fulling to eat.

What I’m reminiscing about: 

       

    

Our stay at the Radisson Hotel in Trinidad.  It was relaxing.  The room was cozy and the staff were all very friendly, pleasant and helpful.  I’ll give them 5 out of 5 for the level of customer service I received. We were always greeted with a smile.

What I’m loving:

 

Being back home.  Now don’t get me wrong, I loved my getaway and definitely need to do it more often but I also missed home a little.  You know the saying, “There’s no place like home.”

 

What I’ve been up to:

    

Feeding and entertaining the kids for the last four days.  We took the kids out a few times while at the Radisson but they preferred staying in and ordering room service.  No surprise there! 🙂  I did manage to take them for lunch at Trader Jack’s restaurant the pictures above are from there.

They definitely enjoyed their time away from home. I even got to sleep during the middle of the day  and in my household unless I’m sick that’s not happening. I got to catch up on much-needed rest.

 

What I’m dreading:

This week we started our third home improvement project – Tiling.  We have various sections of the house we want to have re-done because the work done some years ago was less than what we expected.

I thought moving the stuff out of the rooms was bad but now I’m dreading having to move the items back when they’re done. 🙁   The good to be gained out of this inconvenience is newly tiled floors and I get to use this as an opportunity to re-organize my space. 🙂

What I’m working on:

Actually, I was just going through my home improvement projects list to see how many of our goals we’ve accomplished.  We’ve achieved a lot in the short space of time we had.

We’re hoping to have this tiling exercise completed within the next 2-3 weeks.  Our painting of the house is on pause while these other projects get done.  No worries though, I know we’ll get it all done in time.

 

What I’m excited about:

Me time! 🙂 After entertaining the kids for the past month and a half I would be getting some me time as a treat from my family. A few days just for me to enjoy. 🙂 Just in time for my birthday too! I look forward to it and yes this one involves me getting on a plane. Yay!!!!

What I’m watching:

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I found myself watching all sorts of Lifetime Movie Network movies during my stay at the hotel. If you know Lifetime you know how addictive it can be. 🙂  I look forward to watching out my Orphan Black Season 2 and starting Season 3 soon.

Who/ What I’m listening to:

That’s What I Like – by Bruno Mars

 

What I’m wearing/ Let’s Go Shopping:

Today, we’re going shopping for gym attire and I’ve been eyeing some outfits I’ve seen on television from Fabletics.com.  They have some amazing designs that promise comfort and make you look great. Here are some of my favourites although I wish I could get them all.  They make me want to go the gym.

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The best part of it is that they cater to different sizes ranging from XS to 3XL. They have a variety of styles, colours and patterns to suit your style and body type. They even pair up outfits for you be it for yoga, the gym, tennis, running whatever you’re into. I’ll be adding some of their outfits to my wish list. 🙂

What I’m doing this weekend:

My relaxation and fun must come to a pause for the time being because  I have some sorting and painting to do around the house so that will keep me busy this weekend.

What I’m looking forward to the next month:

By God’s grace, my birthday which is coming up in the next few days.  I’m looking forward to it. 🙂

What else is new?

Other than the tiles in my bedroom not much for the moment.  I’ll take some pictures when they’re done to share with you. 😉

That’s all for now. Thanks as always for making time to stop by.   Have a great day and a blessed week.

 

 

 

Healthy is not a number but a lifestyle

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As women it seems our weight is always an issue not only for ourselves but more so for those around us.   We’re either too big or too thin.  If we’re in the middle, we need to tone up.  Everybody has their own idea as what sexy and beautiful should look like and wonder why we’re not trying to get with the programme.

Some of us have come to terms with our bodies and our differences and have chosen to tell such people “to piss off or mind your own business”.  Nobody likes to be constantly compared or reminded that they don’t match the world’s ideal body type.  We’re all different and we should embrace our differences regardless of whether we’re a XS, S, M, L,  XL, XXL, XXXL or higher.

I’m not totally satisfied with my weight and I’ve procrastinated about doing something about it.  The decision to do something about it comes from my discomfort about how I feel at times.  Oh yes, I have my noise makers who so freely point out that I’m not as small as I used to be but I try not to let their words bother me.  I often have to point out that they too have much-needed work to be done in their own lives and suggest they focus on getting their own act together. Amen! 🙂

My goal is not to make myself pleasing or more pleasing for others but rather to get healthier because it is in my best interest to do so.  If my getting healthier through improving my eating habits and getting more active results in some weight loss and dropping a few inches here and there and better health overall – then great!

I found in the past that I just lacked the drive to actually follow through with the workout routines and diets.  It’s hard to lose weight on your own unless you have a strong will. Now with a change in my attitude and a different outlook on life I have come up with the following for 2017.

I made the following promises to myself:

1. I’m going to focus on getting healthier such as eating and juicing more fruits and vegetables.

2. I’m going to start slow and not be too drastic in my eating decisions. Be realistic.

3. I’m going to follow through with this and I’m not going to give up.

4. I’m going to stop making excuses.

5. Try and recruit other people interested in achieving the same goals.  This way we are able to support and motivate each other.

6. Get more active. Go walking, jogging, running, climbing stairs, dancing, buy some weights or maybe even a bike. Either way, I need to be doing more than I’m doing now.

7. I’m not going to let other people’s negativity impact on how I see and feel about myself.

So let’s forget about our weight and focus on being healthy. Let’s do things that help our bodies not hurt them. Ultimately, it’s about balance, moderation and self-control.

I am making a promise to love myself more by taking better care of my body inside and out.  Do you love yourself enough to make those tough decisions?

 

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