Hope in a Hopeless Situation

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What is hopelessness?

Hopelessness is that feeling deep down on the inside that tells you:

  • Don’t bother trying anymore!
  • What’s the point anyway!
  • It’s over!
  • You’re all alone!
  • No one cares!
  • Give up!
  • You’re done!

Hopelessness looks at the situations we’ve failed to get ourselves out of and convinces us it is over.  My friends, when we go through life without the knowledge of Jesus Christ, who He is, what He represents and how much He loves us, it is easy to get caught up in feelings of hopelessness.

The truth is, even in what may seem like a hopeless situation with Jesus Christ on our side, there is always the possibility of a favourable outcome.  With Jesus, there is always hope, because there is:

  • No situation too difficult for Him. 
  • No problem too big for Him. 
  • No such thing as impossible for Jesus Christ.

No matter how hopeless your situation may appear today, I want you to know that Jesus wants to help.  He wants to deliver you out of it.   He wants to show up in your life and do great things. Through Jesus, there is deliverance for all those who believe and trust in Him.

The facts:

  1. No matter where we are in our lives right now, Jesus Christ will meet us right where we are to take us where we’re meant to be.
  2. He loves us even though some of us don’t know Him.  His love for us is so great that He came to this world, to die for our sins and rose again so that we can have life and not death. This is true love.
  3. We have a choice to make, life or death?  Once we choose Jesus, we will not only have life but we will have it more abundantly.
  4. We must ask God to forgive our sins and surrender who we were. Choosing to walk in the truth of who we have become as we are now one with Him.

In closing, I leave you with this, hopelessness is a symptom of a deficiency in Jesus Christ.  The only way to cure hopelessness is through reading the word of God daily; meditating in it and applying it to our lives. Believing in it more than what is before your everyday senses of sight, hearing and touch.

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Don’t walk around anymore embracing the lie that hopelessness teaches us instead let us choose to embrace and hold on tightly to : truth, hope and love, that is, Jesus Christ.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

Have a great day and be blessed. 🙂

Health and Wellness Fridays: Benefits of Forgiveness

Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays! Today we’re going to be looking at the health and wellness benefits of forgiveness.

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What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness, is the action or process of verbally and emotionally releasing yourself or someone from a wrong that was committed.  It compels us to ‘let go’ of what was and make a conscious decision to move forward.

Why is forgiveness important?

Let’s look at this from a biblical standpoint.  Here are two verses that stress the importance of forgiveness:

  • Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord has forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)
  • For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive you your sins.  (Matthew 6: 14-15)

 

What can unforgiveness lead to?

From personal experience, unforgiveness can eat you up from the inside out. It can also promote the following side effects:

  • Feelings of anger and agitation especially whenever the guilty party is in your presence.
  • Have you in a state of emotional bitterness.
  • Leave you feeling upset with the world.
  • Steals your joy and your ability to truly enjoy your life.
  • Increase blood pressure.
  • Increase stress levels.
  • Puts a strain on your heart and mind.
  • Shorten your life span. The constant stressing out  and anger has the potential to trigger other aliments in your body which can make you sick.

 

Some benefits of forgiveness include:

The truth is, the act that brought us to this place of unforgiveness was terrible and unfortunate.  However, the place of existence that it keeps us in if we let it, is much worse.

The message today, is to start the healing process within yourself – no amount of veggie smoothies or lemon water can remove the bitterness trapped in our hearts.  If true health and wellness is what you’re looking for – start from within that secret place.

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Once you have done this difficult and yet so simple act, I believe your life will improve. Your health would improve along with the other areas of your life that unforgiveness has placed a barrier of progress on.

My prayer:

Thank you heavenly Father for Your forgiveness and mercy towards our transgressions against You and our fellow man.  Thank you for loving us through our stubbornness and ignorance.  Thank you that we have life today and another opportunity to make things right within ourselves, the person who may have hurt us and the persons whom we may have hurt along the way.  I trust that as we choose to forgive and let go of ALL the hurt and pain that we held close to our hearts that we will see and feel Your healing touch in our mind, body and spirit. We receive this victory over unforgiveness. In Jesus name, amen!

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

Have a wonderful weekend.

 

 

Health and Wellness Fridays: Importance of Moving Forward

Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!

Today we’re going to be looking at the importance of being able to move forward.

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More often than not, we can sometimes find ourselves getting distracted and discouraged by what we’re not doing right.  It’s normal to be disappointed when we fail or fall short.  However, holding on to the disappointment long after is unhealthy. Other times, we may allow the opinions and views of others to eat away at us resulting in the accumulation of anger, self-doubt, guilt, sadness and sometimes depression.

Constantly holding on to things emotionally can make us sick over time as it could have us feeling stressed out and overwhelmed.  Some symptoms we might suffer from include: constant headaches, loss of appetite, feeling constantly fatigued, some people may over eat to compensate, while others may even experience hair loss.

Not choosing to move forward has a cost.  Peace of mind, happiness and your health.

The thing is, if we’re honest with ourselves, I think we could all agree that there are areas in our lives that we can improve on no matter how physically healthy we may appear to be.  The truth is, we should be more focused on finishing the ‘work’ needed on and in ourselves rather than pointing fingers at each other.  I think if we can do this, then we all would be living healthier, happier lives.

How do we  move forward?

  1. LET GO of negativity.
  2. STOP comparing ourselves to other people.
  3. STOP beating ourselves up about who we are at this stage in our lives.
  4. TAKE responsibility for where we are right now. We got ourselves here but the good news is we CAN get ourselves better.
  5. MAKE the decision for ourselves to do better and STICK with it.
  6. FORGIVE ourselves for our weaknesses while working towards a better, brighter tomorrow.
  7. NEVER accept that our shortcomings or failures define us.  They are merely a manifestation of who we’ve been.  Tomorrow is a new day and we have a say in how we choose to participate in it.
  8. WORK on developing, improving and healing ourselves from the inside out.  Too often we get caught up thinking if I just lose the weight I’ll feel better.  If I just fix this or that about myself maybe I’ll feel better.  Look at the underlying causes or factors that have not been resolved emotionally and seek to address those areas. A flat stomach would make you look great on the beach but your heart would still be breaking inside.
  9. CHANGE our focus.  If we can adjust our thinking from ‘ I’m dieting to lose weight’ toI’m eating my way to a healthier life’ then we would not only maintain the changes we implement but enjoy them.’ It would not happen overnight but with the right attitude anything is possible.

Moving forward can be challenging but it is necessary for peace of mind, growth, your health and overall well-being.  I don’t know what your situations are but trust me moving forward is the only answer to finding happiness.

There are too many people in this world going through life unhappy and stuck in their emotions unable to truly enjoy their lives because they have not been able to move forward.  Take control of your life by taking control of your emotions not masking them but treating with them in a healthy manner.

My Prayer:

Heavenly Father, I come before You tonight to say thank you for another wonderful day.  Thank you that I am able to enjoy the simple pleasures of life that so many of us often take for granted.  Thank you for always providing for me and protecting me.  Thank you for loving me in moments when I don’t love myself.  Thank you for forgiving me for my shortcomings. 

As I go forward in my walk with You daily I pray that You help me to overcome the weak areas in my life that I struggle with.  I ask that You heal the parts of my heart that I try to ignore.  I ask that as I make a conscious effort to live better and be better that You would bring about positive change in my life, mind, body and spirit.  I receive your blessing in my life. In Jesus name. Amen.

Don’t base your happiness on being the ‘ideal’ weight. Your happiness is determined by your attitude towards life and the types of relationships you strive to have with others.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

Have a wonderful weekend.  See you next week. 🙂

Music Reflection Mondays : Heart and Happiness

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Beautiful Monday Morning to each of you!

I hope you made time this weekend to rest and enjoy some moments of time for yourselves.

Although my morning has started off cold and rainy I can feel in my heart that today and this week is going to be great not just for me but for ALL of us willing to not only see but receive God’s favour and blessings in our lives.

However, for us to receive God’s blessings in our lives we need to first take a closer look at what’s going on in our hearts.  I’m not referring to what is on the surface but what is deep within us that we often try to hide from ourselves and others.  The ‘real’ us under all the smiles and jokes.  The hurting us, that nobody sees. The longing us, that just wants to know and experience true love and happiness.

Many times we base our happiness on what our eyes can see and what we’ve been told. The truth is the key to happiness lies within our hearts.

With this in mind, my prayer for us today is that God creates within us a clean heart so that we can truly enjoy our lives not limited because of all the hurt, hate, sorrow, sadness and anger that so often consumes us stealing our joy and happiness.

Heavenly Father, we come humbly before You today to thank you for this new day that we are blessed to be a part of. We thank you for Your unwavering support, protection, guidance and mercy in our lives.  We thank you for Your love, grace, strength, wisdom and understanding. 

As we proceed to do ALL we have been called to do today and for the rest of the week we ask that You reveal to us the things within our hearts that are unpleasing to You.  We acknowledge that these feelings have been restricting us from receiving Your FULL blessing and favour in our lives. 

Help us to heal and remove whatever You reveal to us so that we can draw closer to You.  As You break and release us from these emotional constraints on our hearts may we find peace and joy within ourselves as we become the men and women You have called us to BE.  In Jesus name. Amen. 

We ARE BLESSED and HIGHLY FAVOURED.  Don’t you forget it! The sooner we realise and declare this can we experience the wonder that is all around us.  I am pleased to report that the rain has stopped and the birds have all come out to enjoy the brillant sunshine that has come out. 🙂

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Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

I leave you with these songs that would help lift your spirits as they have mine. Take time to listen to the lyrics. Enjoy.

Wonder by Hillsong United

How Can It Be by Lauren Daigle

O’Lord by Lauren Daigle

One Minute by Mary Mary

 

STOP PUSHING AND START PULLING

Many times we go through life constantly trying to fix, repair, arrange and change everything and everyone around us.  We’re always PUSHING.  However, when life PUSHES us we naturally PUSH back. The end result is not always in our favour.

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The thing is, the majority of us struggle in this area because we are always trying within our own strength, understanding and wisdom to PUSH and fix, change or manipulate the world around us without once considering improving the world within ourselves first.

As a result, we 9 out of 10 times end up feeling frustrated, depressed, angry, stressed out and unhappy. We will always fail when we try to go after or try to sustain happiness outside of ourselves. So, how do we begin the transformation process needed within ourselves?

I have initiated certain steps in my own life that I use today and WILL use tomorrow and the next day in my journey towards a better me.   Let’s take a look.

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Step One – STOP PUSHING and START PULLING

Acknowledge and recognise that we cannot in our own strength fix ourselves.  We NEED a power greater than ourselves to repair, heal and fix those areas within us that we are unable to fix. That power is called Jesus Christ.  When we stop pushing God away and keeping Him out of our daily lives and start pulling Him closer – something amazing happens. 😉

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Step Two – SEEK FORGIVENESS

Genuinely confess and ask for God for His forgiveness for ALL the wrong we have done with all of our heart.  I believe that when we do this, this opens up the door for God to work miracles and do other wonderful works in our lives.  This process helps lighten the load and weight that so many of us carry with us emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

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Step Three – PRAY AND READ THE BIBLE DAILY

Actively seek God daily through prayer and reading the bible (His word). When we practice this we are building and strengthening our relationship with God as we gain understanding and knowledge of Him.  This takes our lives to a whole other level.  Our eyes, ears and hearts are suddenly open. I would like to refer to this feeling as the “level up or power up through Jesus Christ”.

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Step Four – BE HUNGRY AND THIRSTY FOR GOD AND SEEK HIM DAILY

Talk to God every day because our relationship with Him should not be a Sunday thing or one day a week when we go to church. It should be a conscious daily walk with Him.   Why? The challenges that we faced before accepting Jesus Christ as our Lord and Saviour would not just disappear overnight.  However, it is through His guidance and grace would we not only see our situations differently but get His divine intervention to bring us through them every single time.  🙂

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Step Five – LET GO, TRUST AND BELIEVE

We can become successful in our areas of ‘discomfort’ if we learn to LET GO of the worry and fear that so often accompanies them.  However, in order for us to do that we must TRUST God’s plan for us and BELIEVE that He would not leave us to suffer or fail.

We can’t simply talk the talk as true believers in Jesus Christ but we must walk the walk

It is our faith and trust in God that opens up the Heavens and allows the favour and blessings of God to flow in our lives.  This is where our success, power and ability to succeed in our circumstances comes from.  We must never forget that.

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In my own journey to become the woman God needs me to be I pray that He continues to transform my life, my heart, my mind and spirit as He takes me to places and new levels I’ve never even dreamed of. Opening doors, creating opportunities and washing my life inside and out with His favour, mercy and grace as I obey His word and place my trust in Him. In Jesus name. Amen.

Don’t take my word for it. Pray and talk to God for yourself and as you humble yourself before Him ask for his guidance in your affairs and thank Him for being apart of your life.  Stop doing things your way, stop depending on anyone else but God for your happiness, deliverance, wisdom, strength, courage, healing, understanding, favour and blessing.  Make this investment in YOU today.

If you have read through this post in its entirety then I believe God has already awoken something deep inside of you but only YOU can let Him in.  If you are already a believer then there may have been something here He needed you to see.  Talk to God today and ask Him to help you BE all He needs you to be.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

Have a blessed day.

 

Check Your Alignment

Heavenly Father as I get ready to share this post guide and direct my words, help me deliver this post in a manner that would benefit all who read it.  Help us align ourselves to Your will and not our own so that we can see and experience the breakthroughs we so desperately need in our lives today. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen!

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Alignment speaks to the positioning or lining up of something.

In life many times when things or life does not go our way it could throw off our alignment.  However, more often than not I have noticed that it was my lack of alignment in the first place that got me into some of the situations I found myself in.

Take a look at some examples of my own situations and how lack of alignment affected my life.

  • My lack of respect and value for money lead me to misuse and abuse the money I had that behaviour and lack of discipline resulted in me acquiring large debt.
  • My lack of self-control and discipline saw me over indulging in unhealthy eating habits that resulted in an unhealthy and unhappy me.
  • My desire to find happiness everywhere else but within me and through God found me in unhealthy relationships and situations that did me more harm than good.
  • My lack of gratitude and appreciation for the small things in my life caused me to miss those blessings when they were gone.
  • My unwillingness to forgive myself and others kept me stuck in a cycle of unhappiness for a long time. This type of existence left me feeling alone, ashamed, regretful, angry, resentful and sad. I would portray a smile to the world but inside I was lost and hurting.
  • I would feel compelled to go to church sometimes but I would not go.
  • I would sometimes give the opinions, thoughts and perspectives of others more weight than my own thoughts or beliefs.  I soon learnt that when in doubt I should turn to God not man.
  • The words of defeat and negativity that I would have thought and spoken over my life became my reality because through my own thoughts and words I gave that possibility life.

I’ve shared experiences to highlight how our actions and sometimes our inaction could affect our alignment.  This lack of alignment can negatively affect our joy, happiness, peace of mind, relationships, health, business, families, success, behaviour, and spirit.

There is a tug- of- war over control for alignment that goes on inside of each of us daily.  To regain control of our lives and correct our alignment of mind, body and spirit we have to pray and put our trust in God daily.  It is not a one off-thing.

Take stock today, look at the various areas of your life, your thoughts, your words that you speak over yourself and others, your heart (is it filled with unforgiveness, resentment and anger) all of these areas affect your alignment in life and with God.

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We would not put a seed into an empty box then place it in the refrigerator and expect it to blossom into a tree and bear fruit.  Through the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of how seeds grow we know we must place it in nutrient rich soil, water it and make sure it gets sunlight for it grow.

We are like seeds planted here on earth and if we are to become the magnificent trees God has planted in our souls then we must align ourselves to get ALL that we need so that we can blossom here on earth.

Seek His face, His power, His forgiveness, His strength, His understanding, His wisdom, His courage, His mercy, His favour, His healing and His alignment to get yourself positioned where you need to be in your life.

Am I where I need to be? I’ll let you know when I get there. 🙂 Everyday I choose to submit to God’s will and my own I get nearer and nearer.  I can feel and trust that God is aligning me and positioning me to be exactly where He needs me to be. I am continually praising Him and asking Him to align my heart, body and soul so that I am where and who He needs me to become.

Thank you Lord for using me today.  Let this post be a blessing to all who read.

As always, thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

 

12 Reasons Unhappiness can Linger

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We get up every morning and go through life doing what is expected and required of us most times. 🙂  We go to work, go home, take care of our families, and go to school, do chores and any other thing that we have given ourselves as a task to complete.

Does completion or pursuing these tasks make us happy? 

If we were to remove everything off of our ‘To Do List’ and we had nothing but time – with and for ourselves would we be genuinely happy right now where we are in life at this very moment?

Many of us would probably quietly utter, No.  Not because we don’t love our families or appreciate our jobs but probably because we have unresolved things deep inside of us that we’ve never truly dealt with.

Over the years and many sermons later, I’ve come to learn that unresolved issues create limits to our happiness.  What limits have you set on your happiness? I’ve listed some limits that I allowed in my past to keep me unhappy until I learnt the truth.

Let’s take a look.

  1. We become dependent on other people to make us happy.
  2. We have taken on more than we could handle leaving us with feelings of anger, regret, stress and sometimes even depression.
  3. We’re too focused on our disappointments and failures.
  4. We don’t believe that we can be happy because we believe the stories and the lies that we have heard and lived all these years.
  5. We’ve developed and encouraged a spirit of fear or laziness that has kept us from  evening try.
  6. We’re so caught up in pointing fingers and laying blame that we don’t make time to create our own joy and happiness.
  7. We don’t recognize, understand or appreciate that our ability to be happy  and more importantly sustain happiness resides inside of us.  We keep missing it because we’re focusing on obtaining happiness from entities outside of us.
  8. We allow ourselves to remain mental and emotional prisoners of our past.
  9. We give our mouths and our minds freedom to speak and think negative things that only hold us back and keep us stuck in a pit of unhappiness.
  10. We have accepted unhappiness as our way of life.
  11. We really don’t know how to get out of this bed of unhappiness.
  12. We are merely existing in our lives and not actively living in them.

How did I overcome these?

It was not easy. Happiness is a choice and I had to make that decision daily not to allow anything or anyone from my past, present or future to control or dictate how much joy or happiness I am able to enjoy.

However, before I could get to that point, I had to forgive those people from my past through my words (through prayer and some face to face interaction.  I had to alter and correct my thinking. I had to pray and ask God to cleanse my heart and my spirit before the changes I needed could be activated.  Crucial to this however, was making the conscious decision once and for all to let go those painful experiences in order for me to free myself from the prison I had kept myself in all those years. 

It is an amazing feeling when you choose allow yourself to let go of all the stuff that has had you limited, constricted, angry,  guarded and restricted for so long. 🙂

Now that I’ve listed my top 12 reasons why unhappiness can linger, now what?

Well for starters, we’re going to wake up each morning and put a smile on our faces and in our hearts. Secondly, we’re going to actively seek God through prayer and reading His word, giving thanks for His mercy and favour in our lives.

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We’re going to ask Him to heal what is broken within us.  We going to ask for His strength to move pass the obstacles that we have allowed to keep us prisoners in our own lives.

We’re going to ask Him for the strength to forgive because forgiveness is never easy in the beginning.  We have many reasons why forgiving those people who hurt us would be hard but we have to forgive them to free ourselves from that hurt and pain before we can move forward and experience true happiness.

We’re going to declare victory over every area in our lives we’re struggling with. There’s no limit to what God can do be it: unresolved childhood wounds, financial breakthroughs, challenges in our relationships, issues with our kids, problems at work, issues at school, maybe you’re looking for work,  you have health concerns or just want to improve your relationship with God. Bring them before God!

We have the ability to improve our mental state and happiness but we must be willing to heal the fragile sections of our hearts and in so doing repair the scars that some of our life experiences have gifted us with.

It is a process. There’s no denying that and it requires practice and a shift in our thinking and behaviour. Once done from the heart with God as our guide and comforter – we won’t be the same people we use to be.  

We would have gained peace of mind, clarity, focus, joy, happiness and a sense of freedom that we’ve never had before.  Once freed from those self-imposed prisons we would be able to live and experience life to the fullest.

The only thing I had to be fearful of was remaining the same.  One step, one day, one moment at a time choose happiness – you can’t overcome your battles alone. Whatever our hearts desire all we have to do is ask and trust God to help us overcome them.

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Talk to God, He wants to help. The truth is, He is the only person who can help us obtain and sustain true happiness.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.