Healing Starts With US

We’ve all experienced emotional, psychological or physical hurt at some point in our lives.  They all hurt. However for me, the most painful of them ALL was not the physical hurt.  You see, the physical hurt eventually heals it’s the memory of it that is harder to forget.

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The emotional and psychological hurts STAY with us for as long as we WISH to carry them around.  They dance around our minds and torment us every chance we LET  them.  They STIFLE our happiness and we allow them to negatively impact our relationships.  They create within us feelings of unworthiness, anger, resentment, sadness and depression.

These hurts don’t just go away on their own.  If they did, we would be a happier society.  I can definitely tell you that wishing them away, ignoring them or even medicating to repress them won’t help.  Although they may appear to be lying dormant inside of us  they are quietly eating away at us – constantly weakening our core and feeding us LIES about ourselves.

The sad thing is, we actually believe those lies making them our truths although FALSE we make them real and this is what eats at us. This is what creates the INTERNAL CONFLICT and disconnect within our very being.

How do we break free and allow ourselves to heal from those experiences?

  1. Ask God for the STRENGTH to see this process through.
  2. Pray for the COURAGE to face your fears, hurts and pains.
  3. Forgive OURSELVES.
  4. Dig deeper and FORGIVE the people who help get us in this mess in the first place.
  5. Have POSITIVE talks with ourselves about ourselves.
  6. STOP holding on to the memories of the moments that have negatively affected us.  Write ALL of them down on a piece of paper and then burn it.  Choosing both in your mind and heart to let the flames free you and release you from that prison those memories have kept you in for so long.
  7. OPEN our hearts and minds to positive experiences, people and thoughts.
  8. START believing and discovering some POSITIVE truths about yourself.  I AM  worthy.  I AM talented.  I AM creative.  I AM one of a kind.  I AM one of God’s gifts to the earth.
  9. SEARCH within yourself for your STRENGTHS and BOLDLY and PROUDLY  acknowledge them.  If you are lost for words, ask people close to you what some of your strengths are.
  10. LOOK into your mirror and REFUSE to continue accepting the LIES you’ve been told about yourself.   “You are not a failure.”  ” You are not a waste of time.”  “You are not a mistake.”
  11. STOP trying to run from yourself.  We do this by ignoring the issues and trying to drown ourselves with denial.  We’ve been running long enough.  It’s time to face the music and take CONTROL of our lives.
  12. UNDERSTANDING and PATIENCE. We need to understand that healing is a process and won’t happen overnight. So let’s be patient with ourselves as we work towards the breakthrough we’ve been searching for.

So dear friends and faithful readers, remember healing is not automatic but is in fact a process that we MUST initiate and FOLLOW THROUGH with if we are to achieve the FREEDOM so many of us long for.  The ultimate healing we can receive would come from within bringing – peace of mind, body and spirit.

Thank you for stopping by. Best wishes to you all.

What’s Up Wednesday #14

Hello and welcome back to What’s Up Wednesdays!

Always a pleasure to have you guys drop by, share your thoughts and comments.  This week I have a mouthful but I’ll try to keep it short and sweet because I still have some packing and organizing to do before my flight in the morning.

Let’s get into what I’ve been up to. 🙂

What I’m eating this week:

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Today I actually skipped breakfast and as a result I ended up having KFC for lunch. It was finger licking good. 🙂 For dinner I had BBQ chicken with fries and macaroni salad.

What I’m reminiscing about: 

      

The lovely stay I had at both the Salybia Nature Resort and Spa and the Radisson Hotel here in Trinidad.

What I’m loving:

I’m heading off to my final getaway tomorrow. Where you ask? Miami 🙂 a special treat just for me.

What I’ve been up to:

Cleaning, repacking and lots and lots of cleaning.  The tiling work at home is incomplete but I believe the guys will get it done.  I just want to see this project completed before the start of school next week.  I had no idea that redoing the floor would have been so messy.

What I’m dreading:

Honestly, coming back from my trip and the tiling is not completed. Deep, slow breaths.  I praying and trusting God that everything will work out.

What I’m working on:

I finished packing my suitcase so it’s just to get to bed and spend the last few hours I have left leaving some voice notes for the kids although I plan to call them.  I know my youngest son would love that. 🙂

What I’m excited about:

Getting this me time! I’m really excited because it is actually few and far in between when I get to have an outgoing or a trip just for me without the kids.    Can you believe that I miss them already and I have not even left yet?  🙁  I need this time away though so I’m sure I’ll get over it. 🙂

What I’m watching:

Nothing in particular. Mostly cartoons with the kids this week. Orphan Black probably has been watching me more than I have been watching it. Just too tired these nights.

Who/ What I’m listening to:

Ne-yo – So Sick

What I’m wearing/ Let’s Go Shopping:

Tonight I’m in sleep attire shorts and a spaghetti trap top cotton of course. It’s all about comfort.

What I’m doing this weekend:

I’m hoping to do a little shopping in Miami.

What I’m looking forward to the next month:

My birthday and it’s on September 4th! 🙂

What else is new?

The way I see my living space.  Since this tiling project I was forced to empty the space and wow I have a lot of wasted space just hidden by the clutter and junk I convince myself I needed. I look forward to redecorating it.  I’ve already repainted so I excited about that.

Well, it’s time for me to go to bed and get some much needed rest before my flight in the morning. Sorry in advance for my absence guys but this is one opportunity I can’t afford to pass up.  A special thank you to my amazing family for this early birthday gift. Love you all very much. 🙂

I will definitely provide details and pictures on my return.  Have a great week and a wonderful weekend.

See you guys next week.   🙂 As always thanks for stopping by.

Let’s Create

Daily Prompt: Create

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Let’s create music

Let’s create joy

Let’s create memories

Let’s create stories

Let’s create just for the fun of it

Let’s create out of love and admiration

Let’s create as an expression and celebration

A celebration of life, love and family

Because to create, is to be free.

What I’ve learnt about blogging?

Daily Prompt: Volume

In the short time I’ve been here

I’ve learnt so much that I care to share

Blogging is about expressions

Content, perception and connections

It about being yourself, even with your limitations

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The internet is a big place

With many bloggers trying to find their space

For some it’s a race

But in my world there’s no 1st, 2nd or third place

Because I’m going at my pace

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Blogging is an opportunity to be free

Free in my thoughts and words

Free in my space to practice my craft

Make a few friends and share a few laughs

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With every post I grow each day

Learning more about myself and others along the way

Through my writings

I might get sightings

Causing some to ‘like’ and ‘follow’

And this will help my blog grow

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Sometimes the journey may seem slow

As you watch other blogs volume grow

But there’s one thing you should know

Blog because you love it and never forget it!

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Don’t waste time comparing

Because there are posts you should be writing

Blog success would come

So in the mean time just have fun!

 

 

 

 

Who’s directing your steps?

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It’s a constant struggle at times to keep my bearings
He tries to control me because he gave me this ring
and these diamond earrings
I can hardly remember what I was like before we met

Some say full of life before I became his wife
I look in the mirror and all I see is my silhouette
How much did I allow myself to forget?

Always flexing and changing, never doing my own thing
In an effort to please him, I hide how much I’m hurting
Maybe it’s me, always trying to be ‘me’
I never thought our ‘unity’ meant losing my identity
His fight for control is unhealthy I’m told

He is my husband should I not do what I’m told
He says,” I am the potter and you are the clay
I am going to mold you and you’ll thank me one day.”

I hide to talk to my friends and family
For if he knew, he would be most unhappy
I feel so alone in this prison I call home
So I pray and I pray that God will show me the way
The blind leading the blind no more, no way.

God wants me to be happy and he wants me to know his love
This abuse will not continue!” declared my Lord above
My home-made prison is now a home filled with love
My controlling husband is now a peaceful dove

Thank you Heavenly Father
For answering my prayer from up above.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

This is not my reality.  However, there are women out there in situations similar and some even worse.  I was inspired to write this for them.  Abusive relationships of any type are unacceptable.   Pray and talk to God about your challenges and ask for guidance.

 

Hidden Realities

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” She is so beautiful!,” they often whisper

Just under their breath because she’ll surely fret

Little do they know what lies beneath her beauty

Are tales of mistreatment and untold cruelty

She does not believe the kind words of others

Especially about such superficial  matters

She dismisses the matter as simple child-like chatter

Because she knows words do not really matter

As she heads home in despair

Thinking no one knows, no one cares

The voices in her head, wishing she were dead

But instead with haste she rushes home, “I can’t be late, I can’t be late”

She missed the bus, oh what a fate!

And now almost to tears she faces her fears,

As she cautiously enters the room she utters, “Honey, I’m home!”

Greeted with silence by what was once her loving partner

She braces herself for what might come after

He gestures to hit her but laughs at her manner

Hitting and belittling his wife was a laughing matter

With his words and fists, he would keep her in check

For NO wife of his would show disrespect

She is allowed to explain

As he twisted her arm inflicting pain

“This is my last chance”, she thought

Her chance to be free, free from this violence and misery

So she kisses him good night and goes to bed without a fight

For soon, she will take flight, in the middle of the night.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

Moral: Do not judge people by how they look or even by the words that come out of their mouth. You have no idea what’s really going on in their lives or in their minds.  Be grateful for the life you have.  

I felt inspired to write this poem let me know what you think.