Health and Wellness Fridays: Slow Down Before You Go Down

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Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!

Fridays, for many of us, signify the end of the work week and we just want to kick back and relax. This is normal, healthy and understandable. The hustle and bustle of everyday life can often leave us feeling exhausted and stressed out. However, even after working hard some of us have difficulty making and taking time for ourselves to truly rest and recuperate.

I will admit I’ve been guilt of this in the past. How many of us look forward to the weekend but then have anxiety step in because of all the thoughts in our minds of what must be done and the limited time we have to complete them? This often causes a love/ hate relationship with the weekend for many.

So we take a deep breath and try to enjoy whatever little ‘me’ time we can get at the end of it all. Unfortunately, sleep time does not count but it is essential for the body and mind. Before we know it, the weekend is over and it is back to work. We start our new work week not completely rested but push through anyway because we have to.

Eventually, I came to this realization, ‘all of this constant running around week after week is physically and mentally draining you. This current pattern leaves you with just enough time for the basics of life – to eat and sleep. Where is the joy and the fun? You better slow down, before you go down.’

Talk about a revelation. I had to sit down and really review my life especially the recreational aspect of it. Why? It was non-existent.

This new pattern of behaviour is what my self-talk eventually resulted it.

  1. Starting my day with prayer and worship music. I have found that talking to God first thing each morning helps sets the tone for the day. I feel at peace and I’m more relaxed.
  2. Making sure to start my day with a healthy and nourishing breakfast. I found that skipping meals not only affected my mood but also caused me to make unwise food decisions later in the day that only made me feeling guilty afterward.
  3. Make doing something or going somewhere fun a mandatory experience on the weekend. Indoors or outdoors it does not matter once I’m enjoying it and have the kids participate.
  4. I started doing more of my chores like (washing and cleaning) during the week and this freed up my weekend and my mind from those chores.
  5. Creating a period within the day where I have at least 45 minutes to an hour for myself where I do nothing but relax. Sit down and read a chapter or two, catch up my reading of blogs or listening to music. Whatever you decide but no work and no stressing out. If you have kids make sure they are properly supervised first and just take this time to clear your mind and rest your body.

This new routine I have implemented in my life has honestly given me a sense of clarity, joy and peace that my life was lacking before. If you are, like I used to be, then I suggest you slow down before you go down.

You have to create the time for YOU. That is the only way you would be able to truly relax and unwind. I didn’t know what to do with my time to tell you the truth when I got it but I have learnt to create moments of happiness whenever and wherever I can.

I look forward to the weekend now because I have a different attitude, approach and perspective. I’m no longer letting my weekend dictate what I do but instead I determine where and what I would like to do with my time and schedule life around that. That way I’m not just existing within my life but actually living it.

However, you choose to spend your weekends try to ensure you get time to enjoy what YOU love.

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Thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

Make this weekend a great one. 🙂

You’re not alone..

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There have been times in my life when I wished and even prayed for a simple answer to some of my problems that would clearly say, “Cherylene, do this or do that.”

There were also times when I didn’t feel like I would ever find the answers or my way out of some of the situations I found myself in.

I blamed everyone and everything for what was happening around me.  The bank, my ex, my family, the economy, work and ultimately life.  I honestly believed that the universe was just ganging up me and would not give me a break. The people around me didn’t seem to be faced with as many obstacles as I was and this made me angry and even a little resentful.  It is sad to say but I was not in a good place.

Everything just seemed to be falling a part.  Whenever I thought I had finally had a breakthrough something else would happen.   I was stressed out, frustrated and angry and one day I just hit my peak.  You know, the straw that broke the camel’s back kind of scenario.   I can tell you this now but I never told anyone else. Well, now the world will know but maybe this could help someone who is where I was.

I sat in my room and just started crying and crying like never before. I’m usually someone who holds her shit together and would just keep everything inside but this time was different.  This time I cried out to God because I realized that I was really angry with myself and God for ‘allowing’ me to get where I was.

I knew I could do better and be better but I just did not know how or where to start.  I  don’t know how long I sat there crying and just asking God why this was all happening to me and why he wouldn’t help me.

Then all of a sudden I felt a sense calm and peace fill me and my room.  I then heard a voice say, “You never asked for my help. You complain and complain about your problems but you never once asked me directly for my help.”

I sat there on my bed in shock and even doubting I heard anything because there was no one else around.  I was home alone just me, myself and I and yet I felt ashamed of myself.  I kneeled down beside my bed and prayed and ask God to forgive me.  I asked for his guidance and direction in and over every aspect of my life.

Over the next few days, months and years I learnt to stop complaining about what was not right in my life and learned to give praise and thanks for what was right.  I had to trust in God’s plan for my life and demonstrate that trust through my words and actions and not stress over the stuff I did not have the details for.

My life has changed and improved more than I thought possible  thanks to the favour and mercy of God in my life.  The good news is,  I know God is not done yet.     I had to make a conscious decision to change the way I was going about life – my thinking,  the words I would speak over my situations even some of the people I surrounded myself with. It was in no way easy but I see now that it was necessary.  I took that step of faith towards a new beginning and a better, happier life and I have no regrets.

I wish I had done it sooner but I recognise now that everything had to happen the way it did for me to truly appreciate where I am today.

It’s never too late.  If you’ve been crying out to God for help and direction and have not seen improvements in your life maybe, just maybe you’re not looking close enough to the answers or signs he has given you to get you where you need to be.

God gives us signs we just need to open ourselves up to seeing and receiving them.

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You’ve made it this far. You are more blessed than you know. Just had to stop by and tell you so.  Don’t give up!

Thank you for stopping by.  Make today and the rest of the week a great one. 🙂

This is only temporary

via Daily Prompt: Temporary

“This is only temporary”, said the unemployed mother

To her hungry son and frail daughter

As she gives them the last of the bread

And a half cup of water

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“This is only temporary”, she says to the landlord

Who after much consideration

Decided not to add to the frustration

And now provides free accommodation

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“I have an interview tomorrow,”  says the mother with a smile

As she tries to mask her sorrow inside

She was a woman once filled with pride

Replaying her situation sometimes

Give her thoughts of suicide

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As the landlord leaves, the mother rolls up her sleeves

Fighting the urge to quit

She decides to bruise her knees a bit

Holding back her tears, she kneels to pray about her fears

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“Dear Lord, do not leave me

Please deliver me from this misery

I understand that this is only temporary.”

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She woke up the next day

All her fears had been taken away

Now filled with purpose,

She was focused

She aced the interview

And learned to humble herself too

Within no time she was back on her feet

And oh how the victory was sweet.

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Disappointments are blessings in disguise

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I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.

What do I mean byblessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life.   It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life;  achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.

God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows what is best for us and more importantly when to bless us with the things that we need and want.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.

God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.

However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us –  I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us.  Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.

In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.

Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:

  1. When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it!  Don’t delay and keep putting it off.  You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
  2. Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for.  When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
  3. Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
  4. Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives.  It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
  5. Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil.  Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
  6. God knows the things we struggle with even before we do.    He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere.  We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
  7. God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear.   Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
  8. It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
  9. Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
  10. We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.

What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now?     What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.

If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone.   Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be.  Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing. 

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