The Truth about Stubbornness

Hear Nothing, See Nothing, Do Not Speak

Stubbornness is an unwillingness to change one’s attitude or position on something, even when the alternative is better.

Is there an upside to stubbornness? Not really but then again it depends on who you ask and where you fall in the equation.  Let’s take a look.

UPSIDE  to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. You get to stay exactly as you ARE  because you already KNOW the answers to everything.
  2. You automatically ‘win’ every disagreement because no one with a true understanding of the situation would expel much energy or effort trying to convince you otherwise.
  3. You don’t have to accept change.  Your way is the best way and there is nobody out there that can tell you different.

 

DOWNSIDE to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. Limits your growth not only in knowledge but also experiences.
  2. Makes accepting and implementing change difficult because you’re so stuck in your own ways.
  3. People tend to avoid any meaningful exchanges with you because they don’t want to end up in an argument.
  4. Blocks and limits understanding because of your unwillingness to show  understanding towards others.
  5. Hinders progress not only for yourself but others especially if you are in a position of power.
  6. It is a selfish way of interacting with the world around you.

There will always be someone out there with a different perspective, new ideas and concepts that challenge or may even improve our current way of doings things.   We don’t have to like or agree with everything that is shared with us but we should at least respect the fact that a contribution is being made and do the right thing and that is – to genuinely hear them out.

Open-mindedness should not be what we expect of others when it comes to our beliefs and opinions especially when we ourselves may be closed-minded to what others have to say. 

Stubbornness that blocks and disregards the opinions, thoughts and feelings of others is a building block to nowhere.

 

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a great day!

 

Hide and Seek

 

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This is a story about a forbidden relationship between two people called Denial and Truth who only played Hide and Seek.

Denial’s parents told him that he and Truth could NEVER be together because she would only hurt him so he should always avoid her.  Denial did not listen to his parents and would in his own little way interact with Truth through playing Hide and Seek.

Truth liked Denial very much but could never get close to him.  Hide and Seek was all she had and this made her little heart sad.  No matter how hard she tried Denial always managed to slip away.

Until one day, Truth finally caught up with Denial.  For the first time he was cornered and trapped.   His emotions started swelling up on the inside now his true feelings he could no longer hide.   Truth looked Denial in his eyes and said, ” You can avoid me all you want. You could even try to wish me away but I have news for you, I’m here to stay.  You constantly push me aside because your emotions you want to hide.  Can’t you see my love, you’re creating even more turmoil inside?”

Denial unable to control his emotions anymore starts weeping uncontrollably on the floor.  Truth sits down beside him attempting to console him.  She understands his heart is thin but this is a battle even he can’t win.  She then whispers in his ear, “I understand this hurts but avoiding me will only make the pain worse. Let’s face these things together because that is the only way you’ll feel better.”

Over time these two stopped playing Hide and Seek and decided to meet up once a week.

Denial finally understood that although he could avoid Truth he could not remove her from his life. He soon realised that facing her actually made him feel better.  He eventually built up enough courage to take her home to meet his parents. 🙂

You can just imagine his parents surprise to see their son Denial and Truth standing side by side.  It took them some getting used to but over time they learnt to accept and eventually love her too.

Remember, we may not always like the truth about something,  someone or ourselves but avoiding it does not make it go away.  I’ve learnt the only way to truly move forward is to face and accept the truth and chart a way forward.

Denial is only a short-term answer or response to our problems.  The time will come when we have to face what we’ve been hiding or running from.  It won’t be easy but the end result should you choose to embrace and see the process through is  greater clarity, your emotional burden will be lifted or lighter and the healing can finally begin – resulting in a much happier you.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a great day! 🙂

Awakening and Growth (originally posted 23.09.2017)

You used your words to break me down

And that turned my smile upside down

Blinded by my love for you

I forgot I had to love myself too

 

I allowed my ‘true’ self to be locked away

Not believing deep down I had some say

Or that one day I would find my way

My way back to my true self,

That special me I hid on a shelf

 

Now that my blood no longer runs cold

And a new purpose fills my soul

Not even you could keep me back in this world

As I turn my lessons into ink

I look to the future and can’t help but think

 

Thanks to you I have created a new path

Thanks to you I have made a fresh start

Thanks to you I have seen the light

And I’m happy to report it is beautiful and bright.

 

Thanks so much for stopping by.   Have a wonderful weekend!

 

What’s Up Wednesdays #12

Hello and welcome back to What’s Up Wednesdays! 🙂

How have you guys been?  What have you been up to?  I’ve been relaxing for the last 4 days and I’ll share more of that retreat with you today so let’s get into it.

What I’m eating this week:

I’ll be honest with you, this morning for breakfast I had a cup of tea with 2 slices of Hawaiian leftover pizza from Pizza Hut.  Yes, that’s right.  I said pizza for breakfast.

For lunch I had a burger from Burger King and for dinner tonight I had two Chinese Veggie Spring Rolls.  I know what you’re thinking, too much junk food and you are so right.  I promise to do better.

What I’m reminiscing about: 

      

      

Some of the pleasant memories from my stay at the Salybia Nature Resort and Spa.

What I’m loving:

Gearing up for part 2 of the experience I’ve planned for the family.  Tomorrow we’re off again to another mini-vacation getaway on the island.  I’ll take pics and share with you upon my return next week.

What I’ve been up to:

Rest! Rest! Rest!

What I’m dreading:

The flu! 🙁  Yesterday, I was not feeling so well and this morning I woke up with flu symptoms – sneezing, stuffy nose, congestion and watery eyes just to name a few.  This is awful because I feel miserable and sick.  It might even be allergies either way terrible timing. Thankfully, I have been medicating and trying to rest.  I’m hoping and praying for a speedy recovery.

What I’m working on:

Not a damn thing! I’m honestly trying to just enjoy my vacation time with the kids while I can before the other home improvement project starts next week.

What I’m excited about:

Seeing the projects we’ve set out to do get completed one at a time. It is such a good feeling to finally see these things get done.  They were long overdue. No more procrastination or delay.

What I’m watching:

I’m pleased to report that I have started Season 2 of Orphan Black and I’ve completed episodes 1 to 5. I can’t wait to see the rest. I’m hoping to finish the rest of season 2 before I leave tomorrow.  Wishful thinking. 😉

Who/ What I’m listening to:

Shape of You – by Ed Sheeran

What I’m wearing/ Let’s Go Shopping:

Check out some of the accessories I stumbled upon at Aliexpress.com.  They have a wide variety for both men and women even some unisex pieces.

Earrings:

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Rings and Necklaces:

a.   b.   c.   d.   e.

What I’m doing this weekend:

Enjoying relaxation time while creating fun memories with loved ones. 🙂

What I’m looking forward to the next month:

My birthday! 🙂

What else is new?

My car.  It was time for an upgrade.  I have not forsaken the old for the new.  I plan on having some restoration work done on the Corolla or maybe sell for the right price. We’ll see how it goes.

Sorry guys but there will be no Health and Wellness post this Friday. Family time.  I will definitely post next week Friday. That’s all for now.

Stay blessed and not stressed.

Thanks for stopping by and your continued support. 🙂 Have a great night.

Difficult Moments

During our most difficult moments there is often a lesson to be learnt, strength to be gained or a new purpose or direction to follow.

In such times it is easy for us to be consumed by our emotions but it is important that we not let the pain we feel swallow us up.

If we do, we might end up missing an opportunity for growth.

Cry if you have to, talk about how you feel, take a few days to reflect if you must but whatever you do:

DO NOT SHUT DOWN EMOTIONALLY!

DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP!

DO NOT GIVE UP ON LIFE!

Difficult moments are just that moments! Learn from them and move forward.

 

Mistakes = Opportunities for Learning

“Mistakes” are not merely poor decisions that can affect our happiness. They can be opportunities to gain knowledge and wisdom.

How many mistakes have you made in life that have allowed you to learn something new about someone, something or even yourself?

More often than not when we make a mistake we beat ourselves up or the person who is guilty of it.  Instead, maybe we should consider taking a different approach to such situations.

Rather than focus on the fact that you or the person made a mistake look for the lesson to be learnt from it. 

Let’s look for the wisdom that the circumstance has brought to our attention.

We’ll be wiser for doing so.

 

People Change

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People change and that’s inevitable

Because no one stays the same

Causing relationships to get a little strange

Sometimes it’s for the better

Sometimes for the worse

This of course can hurt us the most

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As love and friendship can sometimes become a stranger

Well intended communication can turn a disaster

As distance becomes the new comfort zone

Because no one wants to pick up the phone

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Silence and avoidance now the common preference

In an effort to make my heart sore

You used your words to pierce my core

So now our time shared is no more

Maybe it’s me, maybe it’s you

Maybe all of it is true

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Positive change is great; making you want to celebrate

But negative change can really make you sad

In times like that, you can only speak your mind

And hope that in time, betterment they will find

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I’ve learnt that change is necessary

Although difficult to accept at times

It can bring with it growth and wisdom

Even freedom and salvation.

 

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas