Good Morning and pleasant Monday greetings to you all.
I am sorry for my inactivity over the last few days but around this time of the year for my family and I it gets intensely hectic as we typically host our Annual Christmas Extravaganza.
I am pleased to report that the event was a success and just keeps getting better and better every year! Our supporters left happy and satisfied not only with their food and products but with the high quality of service they received. This made us so happy. A tremendous amount of work and time goes into the planning, decorating and cooking so it is always good to see and hear their satisfaction and appreciation for all we do.
We are very grateful for their continued support and we know that the first-time supporters would definitely be back next year. God has been and continues to be good to us and we just want to say, THANK YOU Lord for ALL you do, have done and will do in our lives as well as the lives of the people we are fortunate to be apart of.
This event would not be the success that it is without the amazing team we have. I am and will always be grateful for my family. I pray and ask God to continue to bless, protect and guide each and every one of us in all that we do.
Have a wonderful day everyone and remember to be grateful for everything you have no matter how little or insignificant you may think it is. To someone less fortunate your blessing is a big deal and would make a big difference in his or her life.
Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays! I trust that you had a pleasant day and if it didn’t start that way – you can still determine how it will end. 🙂
Tonight, I’m looking at new relationships. New relationships have that newness to them that just leave us so carefree, anxious and excited to see and be around that special someone. We can’t help but smile and enjoy each moment we’re in their company leaving us on a high that we never want to end.
I remember the long talks on the telephone that we never wanted to end. When we were in each other’s presence the connection was so much more than the physical. Just being in each other’s company was just all we wanted to do. The only destination was wherever they are. The more time you spend with them the more you want to spend. The more time spent getting to know them is the more you wanted to be apart of their life and they yours. That relationship made you feel love like no other relationship did.
Starving from Hailee Steinfeld and Symphony from Clean Bandit featuring Zara Larsson are two beautiful songs that just takes you back. We go through life and relationships thinking that the last relationship was the best life could ever get and then one day when we’re not looking and least expect it – life adds a new piece to the puzzle and changes your life forever. 🙂
I’ve learnt over the years that as one door closes another one opens. We must not be afraid to walk through, take a deep slow breath and with our eyes wide open and our senses fully alert take life one day at a time. We need to allow ourselves to open up to the possibility of receiving love and it would find us no matter where we are. So as Demi Lovato put it, feel free to Give Your Heart A Break . 🙂
Have a wonderful night and an amazing week. Thank you for stopping by.
Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays! It feels so good to be back. 🙂
Today I’m going to be talking about the effect toxic people can have on our health and wellness. Let’s first look at some traits of toxic people.
Here are 14 signs of a toxic person or relationship.
They are constantly negative towards you and others.
Verbal, physical and psychological abuse is the norm in the relationship.
They encourage and support you in negative behaviour.
They are non-supportive when you need them most.
They are manipulative.
They never apologize and if they do it’s not genuine as they repeat the same behaviour over and over.
They constantly expect you to prove yourself to them.
They are constantly trying to control you what you wear, who you speak to, where you go and more.
They don’t take responsibility for their own feelings or actions and blame you constantly for the way things are.
The focus is always on them and what they need and want never about your needs or feelings.
They leave you drained emotionally and physically.
They tend to want you to spend less and less time with the people who love and care about you such as your family and friends.
Your interactions with them leave you feeling stressed, depressed and or irritated.
Happy moments are far and few because you are always arguing with each other. Or rather you are always defending yourself.
I have experienced this and I can tell you that such an existence in this world is just that an existence because you’re not living and I for one was not happy. Any happiness I did experience was short-lived because of the constant drama and arguing.
Many times we allow ourselves to stay in toxic relationships and underestimate the impact these negative interactions can have on our health and overall well-being.
Did you know?
Some researchers have even looked at the correlation between psychological and emotional stress, and its relationship to increased risk of illness and disease.
Here are some possible side effects of trying to live within a toxic relationship or among toxic people.
Constant emotional turmoil – as you’re either stressed, angry, agitated or depressed.
Emotional distress can trigger other symptoms such as loss of appetite or over eating resulting in rapid weight loss or weight gain. It all depends on how you treat or cope with your stress.
The frustrations of the interactions could trigger an increase in other habits such as drinking and smoking.
Headaches or migraines.
High blood pressure
I’m sure the list can go on and on because the symptoms are different for everyone. Some are mild and others can be more severe as others may have thoughts of suicide or even suffer a heart attack. Stress especially the chronic type over time wears down not just the mind but the body and spirit.
What can someone do in such a situation?
I could say to you run like the wind and don’t look back but that’s what you’ve probably heard before and for some reason or another you’ve chosen to stay.
Why do we stay? For some, it’s love while for others it’s the fear and uncertainty of what life would be without that special someone, fear of starting over because they are unsure about themselves and their abilities.
When I stayed back then, I was blinded by my love for the other person so much that I did not allow myself to love me enough to get out of that damaging situation. I was also fearful and uncertain of how I would manage without him in my life but I did it!
It was different but each day got better and easier and I not only grew in self-confidence but my knowledge of myself, my true strengths and weaknesses. I could look into the mirror and finally see ME for the beautiful and amazing person that I am. 🙂
There’s nothing wrong with loving another human being just as long as we share and show that same love and more towards ourselves as well!
Toxic relationships both in the short-term and long-term can deplete us on every level imaginable, if we give them the power, space and freedom to. Read the questions below and answer them honestly.
Ask yourself, is this situation worth your life?
Are you trulyhappy with the way things are?
Who are the two or more most supportive people in your life?
If you were looking at your life from the someone else’s shoes – what would be your advice be to them?
If this negative person does not change their behaviour towards you, are you willing to do something about it?
It’s your life, your health, your happiness and your decision. Whatever you do, choose to love yourself enough to reposition yourself into a situation that is healthier and happier for YOU.
What words are you using to describe yourself or identify with?
Are they positiveor negative?
Some positive words we can use include: adaptable, adventurous, beautiful, ambitious, amiable, compassionate, considerate, courageous, handsome, courteous, creative, cute, diligent, generous, passionate, pretty, persistent, reliable, resourceful, sincere and witty just to name a few. How many more words can you add to this list?
Some negative words include: arrogant, boastful, bossy, cruel, deceitful, dishonest, harsh, selfish, irresponsible, lazy, unattractive, mean, unreliable, ruthless, ugly, resentful, rude, self-centred and untrustworthy just to name a few. There are so much more but why focus on the negative?
I can honestly say that I have identified with a few of these words at one point or another but I didn’t stay there and neither do you. I chose a different path and created a better version of myself. It did not happen overnight but each day I made a choice to improve and I did just that.
Pay close attention to the labels you choose to associate and identify with. Take corrective action where you think necessary. Even though we aren’t perfect that does not mean we should not try to be better human beings.
Words are just words. The meaning and power words have is what we give to them.
This is important because the words we choose to identify with can either strengthen and reinforce our core or they can weaken our very foundation.
Make some time for yourself this week to write down all the positive words you can that identifies you as a person, if you’re not happy where you’re at today, you can write out words that describe who you would like to become.
Welcome back to What’s Up Wednesdays. Hope you guys are having a great week thus far. It has been very rainy here for the past few days but the sun has decided to grace us with his presence for the moment so I’m enjoying it. Let’s get into it.
What I’m eating this week:
Today for lunch I had macaroni pie, lentil peas, vegetable rice and baked chicken. Sorry I didn’t take a picture of the meal before I ate it. I’ll do better next time I promise. Those of you not familiar with West Indian food this is what a macaroni pie looks like above.
Yes, there were two sets of carbs on my plate. The good news I did not take large portions and I even had bottled water as my side beverage. 🙂 Later for dinner, I’m not sure what I’m feeling for much less for the rest of the week. We’ll probably have takeout – Chinese food. I’m taking a break from cooking today.
What I’m reminiscing about:
Nothing! Too busy living in the moment.
What I’m loving:
I love how in tune I have become with myself. My likes and dislikes. This feeling of self-awareness over my life feels good.
What I’ve been up to:
“Spring” cleaning! That’s right. I usually wait until later in the year to go through our stuff to see if there is anything (clothing and toys) we’re not using and more importantly in good condition that we could donate. It feels good to give to others and makes more room in my life and closet for other things. This way later in the year, I won’t feel so overwhelmed.
What I’m dreading:
Ironing! I like to iron my son’s school uniform in advance for the week because getting up to iron every day is a definite no, no. I liked the idea of buying extra school shirts so he would have one week of uniforms inside if I didn’t feel like ironing that week. The problem is now I have to iron two weeks of uniforms to get that break should I need it. The numbers game is killing me more than the actual ironing but I’ll get it done.
What I’m working on:
Currently, I’m working on my What’s Up Wednesday post. Later today, I’ll start researching my topic for Health and Wellness Fridays.
What I’m excited about:
I’m excited about going on vacation in the next two months. I’m looking forward to just relaxing. I have no idea where I’m going but at least I’ll be on vacation.
What I’m watching/reading:
These days I’ve actually reduced my TV time. I was inspired by lifeofangela to read more. So I’m going to try to increase my reading of novels. She gave an extensive list of books so I’ll let you know how that goes. I’ll probably start small with Harry Potter and build from there. 🙂
What I’m listening to:
The tapping sounds of my fingers on the keys as I write this post. When I get into the car, I’ll probably be shaking my head and singing along with Beres Hammond.
What I’m wearing:
More than her that’s for sure lol! I’m wearing full length dark brown pants and a teal solid blouse.
What I’m doing this weekend:
I’ll be helping my eldest son with some projects for school. I have to bring out my Art and Craft supplies for this plus we have to do some research. Regrettably, I’ll have no choice but to give the housework a break this weekend. 🙂
What I’m looking forward to the next month:
That’s a little difficult to say, June just started and who knows how this month is going to end. I’m optimistic so I’m hoping and praying for the best. I’m going to take it one day at a time.
What else is new?
Believe it or not Orphan Black! It’s new to me. I’ve never heard of it until Angela mentioned it. Yes, I’m bowing my head in shame. I understand from her review that I’ve been missing out. I plan on getting caught up as quickly as possible. 🙂
That’s all for now guys. Hope you have a great week!