Music Reflection Mondays #21 – New Relationships

Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays!  I trust that you had a pleasant day and if it didn’t start that way – you can still determine how it will end. 🙂

Tonight, I’m looking at new relationships. New relationships have that newness to them that just leave us so carefree, anxious and excited to see and be around that special someone. We can’t help but smile and enjoy each moment we’re in their company leaving us on a high that we never want to end.

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I remember the long talks on the telephone that we never wanted to end.  When we were in each other’s presence the connection was so much more than the physical.  Just being in each other’s company was just all we wanted to do.  The only destination was wherever they are.  The more time you spend with them the more you want to spend.  The more time spent getting to know them is the more you wanted to be apart of their life and they yours.   That relationship made you feel love like no other relationship did.

Starving from Hailee Steinfeld and Symphony from Clean Bandit featuring Zara Larsson are two beautiful songs that just takes you back.  We go through life and relationships thinking that the last relationship was the best life could ever get and then one day when we’re not looking and least expect it – life adds a new piece to the puzzle and changes your life forever. 🙂

I’ve learnt over the years that as one door closes another one opens.  We must not be afraid to walk through, take a deep slow breath and with our eyes wide open and our senses fully alert take life one day at a time.  We need to allow ourselves to open up to the possibility of receiving love and it would find us no matter where we are.  So as Demi Lovato put it, feel free to Give Your Heart A Break  . 🙂

Have a wonderful night and an amazing week.  Thank you for stopping by.

 

 

Healing Starts With US

We’ve all experienced emotional, psychological or physical hurt at some point in our lives.  They all hurt. However for me, the most painful of them ALL was not the physical hurt.  You see, the physical hurt eventually heals it’s the memory of it that is harder to forget.

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The emotional and psychological hurts STAY with us for as long as we WISH to carry them around.  They dance around our minds and torment us every chance we LET  them.  They STIFLE our happiness and we allow them to negatively impact our relationships.  They create within us feelings of unworthiness, anger, resentment, sadness and depression.

These hurts don’t just go away on their own.  If they did, we would be a happier society.  I can definitely tell you that wishing them away, ignoring them or even medicating to repress them won’t help.  Although they may appear to be lying dormant inside of us  they are quietly eating away at us – constantly weakening our core and feeding us LIES about ourselves.

The sad thing is, we actually believe those lies making them our truths although FALSE we make them real and this is what eats at us. This is what creates the INTERNAL CONFLICT and disconnect within our very being.

How do we break free and allow ourselves to heal from those experiences?

  1. Ask God for the STRENGTH to see this process through.
  2. Pray for the COURAGE to face your fears, hurts and pains.
  3. Forgive OURSELVES.
  4. Dig deeper and FORGIVE the people who help get us in this mess in the first place.
  5. Have POSITIVE talks with ourselves about ourselves.
  6. STOP holding on to the memories of the moments that have negatively affected us.  Write ALL of them down on a piece of paper and then burn it.  Choosing both in your mind and heart to let the flames free you and release you from that prison those memories have kept you in for so long.
  7. OPEN our hearts and minds to positive experiences, people and thoughts.
  8. START believing and discovering some POSITIVE truths about yourself.  I AM  worthy.  I AM talented.  I AM creative.  I AM one of a kind.  I AM one of God’s gifts to the earth.
  9. SEARCH within yourself for your STRENGTHS and BOLDLY and PROUDLY  acknowledge them.  If you are lost for words, ask people close to you what some of your strengths are.
  10. LOOK into your mirror and REFUSE to continue accepting the LIES you’ve been told about yourself.   “You are not a failure.”  ” You are not a waste of time.”  “You are not a mistake.”
  11. STOP trying to run from yourself.  We do this by ignoring the issues and trying to drown ourselves with denial.  We’ve been running long enough.  It’s time to face the music and take CONTROL of our lives.
  12. UNDERSTANDING and PATIENCE. We need to understand that healing is a process and won’t happen overnight. So let’s be patient with ourselves as we work towards the breakthrough we’ve been searching for.

So dear friends and faithful readers, remember healing is not automatic but is in fact a process that we MUST initiate and FOLLOW THROUGH with if we are to achieve the FREEDOM so many of us long for.  The ultimate healing we can receive would come from within bringing – peace of mind, body and spirit.

Thank you for stopping by. Best wishes to you all.

Tragedy

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In life there are going to be many things we don’t understand or like.

These events force us to ask questions like, what is the purpose of all this pain, suffering, and  loss? 

And of course, the big question of, why me?

Every setback, every obstacle, every loss and every encounter we’ve had was for a reason. Yes, it hurts and yes, some of it even gets us angry just thinking about it.

Believe it or not those events are meant to get us to a specific chapter in our lives not only for ourselves but often to someone else. Our lives are much bigger than ourselves.

Understanding and accepting that, is what gives us the clarity and ability to heal and move pass those trials into brighter and better days.

Tragedy can be tragic but out of it can come strength, healing, wisdom, purpose and growth.

You are NOT alone.  We ALL have our own internal wars going on inside.  Don’t be fooled by what you see on the outside.

We need to support and encourage each other to PUSH through the pain until we get to a point where we’re in control of our feelings and it is not the other way around.

We’re ALL in the process of finding our true ourselves but some of us don’t know it.  We have to learn to forgive and allow ourselves to emerge out of our PAST into our FUTURE.

Have a wonderful night. Thank you for stopping by.

Hide and Seek

 

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This is a story about a forbidden relationship between two people called Denial and Truth who only played Hide and Seek.

Denial’s parents told him that he and Truth could NEVER be together because she would only hurt him so he should always avoid her.  Denial did not listen to his parents and would in his own little way interact with Truth through playing Hide and Seek.

Truth liked Denial very much but could never get close to him.  Hide and Seek was all she had and this made her little heart sad.  No matter how hard she tried Denial always managed to slip away.

Until one day, Truth finally caught up with Denial.  For the first time he was cornered and trapped.   His emotions started swelling up on the inside now his true feelings he could no longer hide.   Truth looked Denial in his eyes and said, ” You can avoid me all you want. You could even try to wish me away but I have news for you, I’m here to stay.  You constantly push me aside because your emotions you want to hide.  Can’t you see my love, you’re creating even more turmoil inside?”

Denial unable to control his emotions anymore starts weeping uncontrollably on the floor.  Truth sits down beside him attempting to console him.  She understands his heart is thin but this is a battle even he can’t win.  She then whispers in his ear, “I understand this hurts but avoiding me will only make the pain worse. Let’s face these things together because that is the only way you’ll feel better.”

Over time these two stopped playing Hide and Seek and decided to meet up once a week.

Denial finally understood that although he could avoid Truth he could not remove her from his life. He soon realised that facing her actually made him feel better.  He eventually built up enough courage to take her home to meet his parents. 🙂

You can just imagine his parents surprise to see their son Denial and Truth standing side by side.  It took them some getting used to but over time they learnt to accept and eventually love her too.

Remember, we may not always like the truth about something,  someone or ourselves but avoiding it does not make it go away.  I’ve learnt the only way to truly move forward is to face and accept the truth and chart a way forward.

Denial is only a short-term answer or response to our problems.  The time will come when we have to face what we’ve been hiding or running from.  It won’t be easy but the end result should you choose to embrace and see the process through is  greater clarity, your emotional burden will be lifted or lighter and the healing can finally begin – resulting in a much happier you.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a great day! 🙂

Heart to Heart

This post was inspired by a piece I read called “I’m scared” written by Elsie over at Elsie LMC blog.  She rekindle in me some feelings I get whenever I think of a loved one leaving me before I could share with them all I have to say.

Family is sometimes all we have and those of us who are still fortunate to have people we love in our lives should never take them for granted.  This is to my family.

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So many times I stop and think

We could be no more with just one blink

No more laughter, no more talks

No more browsing on our little walks

So as I prepare this heart to heart

Let’s remove all bitterness from our path 

Agreeing to put petty differences aside

Especially those entangled with our pride

Our love for each other we should never hide

So many times I stop and think

How much time was wasted between you and me?

Silence left to pass the time

Because of foolish pettiness

We’ve now reduced our time

So many times I stop and think

If you were to leave me now

My heart would surely sink

For without you in this world

I would feel so empty and cold

As the tears and grief would fill my soul

So I’ve made my decision and with careful precision

I will take the first step because I don’t want to leave this world with regret

Besides I never want you to forget,

I love now and forever

To my mother, father, sister, brother, sons and niece

Knowing each of you in this life

Has truly brought me so much peace

I know we’ve had our moments

But life is short so no more postponements

Live your life and cherish it

Remembering to show your love

While learning to receive it

So let’s put any differences aside

Removing all bitterness and pride

Loving and praying for each other everyday

Because when that day comes there’s only so much we can say

I love you all

Have a blessed day.

 

 

Music Reflection Mondays

Come Travel With Me was a new segment I wanted to introduce to you guys today but I was inspired to do something else.  I call it, Music Reflection Mondays since music was the inspiration for this piece.

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In some of my less than terrific moments in my life there were various singers who through their music helped me cope during some difficult times, gave me clarity, joy, peace of mind even helped me release some of the anger I felt in a healthy way. They made me feel better.

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Natalie Imbruglia is one of those singers. She was there at a time in my early teenage years when I was very angry and depressed.  Her song Torn touched me in a special way.  I felt as though she had heard me and was singing exactly how I felt. I played and replayed that song over and over until I got what I needed from it.  What did I get?

I eventually realized that I did not want to be “torn” anymore I wanted to be whole and happy. I chose to forgive because it was the only way I could move forward.  It took tremendous courage and strength but I did it.

From my teenage years to present, I can honestly say that the healing power of music to the mind is powerful and should definitely be explored. Of course, I’m just suggesting it as a form of therapy, to relax and unwind and clear your mind.  It is definitely a pick me upper and can be a stress reliever if you choose the right type of music and artiste that appeals to you.

Music Reflection Mondays is not going to be about me bringing my personal preferences to you but rather about us sharing with each other – music and artistes that we love.  I am open to discovering someone new.  Are you? 🙂

There are so many to choose from.  We should never limit ourselves to just one thing. It hinders our growth and limits our learning.  My taste in music is wide from different periods both past and present. I’ve found that variety is good and it works for me.

Music preferences vary and that’s cool that we all have different taste. Thankfully, because of that we get amazing artistes creating music and songs that will be forever etched in our minds and hearts.

I think that no matter our preferences we all can agree that music has the power to provoke feelings and emotions some good and some bad.   How we choose to use this often overlooked medium can make a big difference in how we feel, heal and cope with various things in our lives.

John Legend

John Legend is amazing!  Let’s just say, that when he came out with his music it was perfect timing for all I was dealing with in my life. He has been there for me both in the good and bad times.   I had his CD in my car for months just playing it over and over. The kids even learned a few songs. 🙂 I have more than one favourite when it comes to him but some that stand out are All of me, Stay with You, Used to Love You, Love Me Now and When It’s Cold Outside.  Do you have any favourites from him?

From oldies to present day the appeal of music remains.   There are some singers and bands that have songs that still make you tear up, dance your socks off when you hear it or just take you back to a different time in your life almost like a time machine. Do you agree?

Do you have a singer, musician or band that provided you with comfort when you needed it most?  Please share. 🙂

Who are your three all-time favourites singers or groups?

I look forward to seeing some of your favourites below.  Have a great week. See you guys next week as we continue Music Reflection Mondays.

Hope you enjoyed it.

 

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The struggle within

 

Daily Prompt: Detonate

It is building up more and more each day

Those unspoken words you refuse to say

Hoping silence would make those feelings go away

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The pain is more than you can bear

But you sit there refusing to share

Your heart is so dear

You’re afraid it would tear

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Don’t be controlled by your fear

There are still people out there who care

Denial will only help your spiral

As the pressure builds, it will slowly spill

Into your life causing strife

Even forcing you to question your life

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Whatever is consuming you inside

You can no longer run from or hide

Because like a grenade you will detonate

Leaving your surroundings desolate

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You can prevent this

This explosion or possible implosion

By healing the corrosion

The corrosion of the mind, body and spirit

You know the one you’re struggling with

It’s time to stand up and face it

Because running you will never shake it.

 

Thank you for stopping by.