Health and Wellness Fridays – Inspiration and Drive

Health and Wellness Greetings to each of you!

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Today I felt inspired to write about some of the things that typically inspire and drive some of us to take a different approach to our health and overall well-being.

  1. A visit to the doctor.  You go to the doctor for one thing and you end up with more feedback than you were expecting.  Sometimes he or she would have to recommend that we change or cut out some of our everyday habits.  We would probably even have to make changes to our diet and even increase or start taking exercising more seriously based on the findings.
  2. Looking in the mirror.  This one does not always inspire everyone.  For some a glimpse into the mirror is all they need to run and join a gym.  For others it just a reminder of the areas we should be working on.  I for one know the areas I need to pay closer attention to but I don’t let the mirror get me down.  Focus on the good, enhance your assets 🙂 and try to improve what you can.  Don’t spend anytime beating up yourself about where you’re at.  Focus on where you would like to be and make an effort to get there. 🙂
  3. Constant feedback from those around you.  Some people mean well but they often neglect the fact that their good intentions can have a negative impact on the same people they are trying to help.  We allinternalize criticism differently.  Some use it as a driving force to excel in life while others absorb it and let it eat away at their very core.  When the latter happens, this not only hinders growth it creates depression and can even make things worse.
  4. You reach your ‘enough is enough’ moment. This is the point in your life when you’re tired of the excuses and you just take control of your life. You pay attention to what you eat, you make an effort to get active and just choose to no longer be a bystander in your own life.
  5. Fear of death.  Many of us want to live for as long as we can so we try to educate ourselves on the Dos and Don’ts and try to implement healthier lifestyle choices all in effort to preserve and hopefully extend our lives. The reality is, we all will die eventually and we have no say in how we go ultimately but we can reduce our risks for the things within our control.
  6. Family and loved ones.   Sometimes just the thought of  dying and leaving our loved ones is enough to motivate us to take better care of ourselves and them. Eating habits are learnt and taught whether we believe that or not.  Our families eat what we provide so we ultimately set the tone for their lives.  We owe it to them and ourselves to make better choices.

In the end, for each of us there may be multiple reasons why we do what we do and a few why we don’t.    These health and wellness posts are for people like me who sometimes need the reminder or gentle push to do more for ourselves.  No matter what ultimately drives and inspires us to live better – the number one reason should be because we are WORTH IT! 

Do I have all of the answers to health and wellness? NO but I do understand how challenging it can be when you have gained the weight and you’re trying to get if off and keep it off.  The battle between what taste best and what is BEST for us is real.  For some this comes easy and others like myself, we just have to take it one day and even one meal at a time.

Happy Friday to you all. Make today a great one and have a wonderful weekend!

Thanks for stopping by.

 

What’s Up Wednesdays #8

Happy Wednesday to you all!  How has your day or week been thus far?  I’ve been running errands all day and I’m now getting some time for myself.  I’m feeling physically exhausted but I have refreshed myself and felt the need to get into my blog as it helps me relax after a long day sometimes.

You’re probably wondering what’s new? What’s up and what’s hot? 🙂 So I won’t keep you waiting let’s get to it.

What I’m eating this week:

You probably would not believe me if I told you but I had Pizza Hut again.  No it’s not a Wednesday thing but that’s what was ordered.   Today, I had Cheesy Bread sticks, Tuscani Chicken Alfredo Pasta and a large Super Supreme (ham, pepperoni, Italian sausage, beef, onions, mushrooms, green peppers, black olives and pork). No BBQ wings this time.  Thankfully, it was not stuffed crust because the pizza itself was already stuffed. 🙂

 

What I’m reminiscing about: 

Lately, I find myself reflecting on the days when my car was in better shape when I bought it so many years ago.  I own a Toyota Corolla and I was so proud to have purchased my first car.  It was previously owned but it was in good condition.  I loved the grey leather interior and navy blue paint job with wood grain finishes on the inside.

These days “Betsy” my car (yes, I refer to it as Betsy from time to time) is not as young and fresh as it used to be.  It needs some work done more than I care to invest at this time.  I think it maybe it’s time for an upgrade or maybe if I can find someone reliable, honest and skilled at their profession it can get a much-needed makeover.  We’ll see how it goes.

What I’m loving:

Craft, craft, craft.  We are getting good reviews from the kids and the parents about the stuff we’ve worked on so far.  Every week we’re trying to bring something new and beautiful that the kids enjoy and can also feel proud of.

Making new items out of simple everyday materials feels so rewarding. We’ve never made any of these items before so we’re all very proud. I’ve taken more pictures to share with you below.  Hope you like them as much as we do.  🙂

What I’ve been up to:

Paper butterfly – made using coloured paper which we folded and then painted the outer portions of her wings. (Her friends are incomplete but they should be joining her soon.)

    

6 unit Stationery holder #1 – made using toilet paper rolls which we covered in colourful paper and an empty CD case for the base.  This still has to be decorated but you get the main idea.

   

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Single unit Stationery holder #2 – same toilet paper rolls used but this time we added a little design to the front.

What I’m dreading:

All of my fears, ok not all, but most of my fears were realised this week with tons of running around to do and meetings to attend.  I’m hoping that the rest of the week is not as fast paced.

Truth be told although my week has been very hectic it has been very productive.   I guess that is the price we pay for progress.

What I’m working on:

Finances!  Don’t you hate how some if not most of these financial institutions have high interest rates on the money you owe them but small interest pay outs on the money you invest with them. They are winning at every turn.

I plan on getting more involved in how my resources work for me no matter how big or small.  Are you getting maximum returns on your investments?  Have you checked lately?  We should not take it for granted that everything is adding up.  Get involved and ask questions, it’s your money.

What I’m excited about:

        

This remains unchanged.  If anything it should be in bold. 🙂 I’m excited about getting to relax, enjoy a change of scenery and eat delicious food. 🙂

What I’m watching:

This week I’ve been cat napping more than anything else when I can. I’ve been too tired to be honest to really sit down and watch television the way I would like. Hopefully, later this week or this weekend I can pick up where I left off and finally start my Season 2 Orphan Black DVDs.  What are you watching these days? Anything interesting?

Who/ What I’m listening to:

Stand By You  and Fight Song by Rachel Platten.  I love these!

What I’m wearing/ Let’s Go Shopping:

Today, we’re going shoe shopping at Shoedazzle.com .  🙂  Let me remind you guys, I prefer sandals most days but even I have to admit there are events that call for a little more.  Here are some of my favourites.

                  

What I’m doing this weekend:

Hopefully, some browsing and shopping for clothing and shoes for both casual and work.  I’m keeping my fingers crossed. 🙂

What I’m looking forward to the next month:

Catching up on much-needed rest.  I’m looking forward to waking up late but most of all creating some fun memories with the kids.

What else is new?

I’m going into writing territories I’ve never done before by participating in contests and blogging challenges that are not my typical style of writing content wise. I’m taking my advice and investing in myself so let’s see where it takes me. 🙂

If I’m fortunate to win that would be awesome even if I don’t win this time I’ll still take part in challenges that interest me as they push and challenge me to be a better blogger and writer.  You can visit my contributions by clicking on the links below.

Thanks so much for stopping by. Have a great night and a blessed week.

See you guys next week. 🙂

 

 

 

Find and develop your own talents

Once upon a time there lived two sisters Sarah and Samantha both in their early twenties who lived in the country side.  Sarah was a very quiet person and did not have many friends but she was happy. She found joy in her paintings and writing poetry. She loved her sister and often wished she could be more like her fun and outgoing with lots of friends.

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Samantha was the total opposite.  She always liked being the centre of attention and was very popular.  She was secretly angry and jealous of Sarah because she did not have her talents.  She would always be negative with Sarah in hopes of discouraging her.

Their mother always told them growing up to love and support each other but Samantha always feared that if she did that Sarah would just get better and better at her talents and would eventually go off to the big city and leave her there all alone.

Sarah felt most creative near the water – the river was her favourite place to paint and write her poetry.  Today was no different as Sarah set off to her favourite place.  The birds were chirping, the bees were buzzing and the air was fresh and clean.  Sarah found her spot under the huge cherry blossom tree and began painting taking periodic deep breaths trying to take in the beauty of the place and centre her mind as inspiration was everywhere.

She was half way into her painting when she heard a car pull up and stop on the road behind her.  When she looked up she noticed a tall, handsome young man waving to her as he approached her.  She had never seen him before and was a bit concerned.  As he got closer she could hear his deep, strong voice, “Hello Miss, can you please tell me where Sarah Joline lives?”

“Sarah Joline, why do you want to know?” asked Sarah even more concerned that he was looking for her.  “It’s a private matter, do you know where I can find her it is urgent? My name is Adam, by the way.”  Sarah smiled and replied, “I am Sarah Joline, what is this about?”

Adam was happy that he had found her so easily and was pleasantly surprised at how beautiful she was.  He reached into his coat and handed her a white letter sized envelope.  “What is this about ?” Sarah asked again holding the envelope in her hand convinced that Adam had the wrong person. He then said, “You’ll see. It was a pleasure meeting Miss Joline I look forward to seeing you again soon.” He then turned and walked back to his car and drove off with a smile on his face.

Sarah was scared, nervous and excited all at the same time.  She was too scared to open the envelope herself and quickly packed up and headed home.  When she got home the first person she saw was her mother.  Her mother took one look at her and knew something was troubling her.  “What’s wrong Sarah?” asked her mother same time Samantha walked in from spending time with her friends.

“I met this really handsome guy down by the river and he gave me an envelope because he was looking for me.  Can you believe it?” said Sarah.

“Yeah right, it’s just her crazy imagination again?” said Samantha. “Be quiet Samantha. Let me see the envelope Sarah,” said mother.  Sarah handed her the envelope and sat on the step anxiously waiting for her to read it.  Samantha walked off toward the kitchen pretending not to be interested but stood behind the door listening attentively as her mother read out the letter.

” Dear Miss Sarah Joline,

You’ve been selected to take part in the National Art Scholarship Programme based on your submission and recommendation from your teacher Mrs. Jane Oliver.

Should you choose to accept please be advised that this is a two-year programme and you would be required to move to New York city.  We will be providing room and board for you.  You would be given an internship opportunity that would allow you to earn a stipend while here.

Please note that we must receive your decision within the week.

We look forward to meeting you and working with you.

Kind Regards,

Mr. John Hamshire
Director”

Sarah was speechless.  She knew that her teacher was very fond of her work and always encouraged her to explore and develop her talents further but she did not believe her work was good enough.  This letter however, was proof that her work was more than good enough.

Her mother cried tears of joy and began hugging and kissing her on her cheeks so much that her face was now red and numb. Her mother looked at her with so much pride and told her that she always knew she would be great in whatever she did.  “We have to prepare there is so much to be done before you leave,”  said her mother.

“You’re going to let me go?” asked Sarah. Her mother looked at her confused and asked, “Don’t you want to go?  This is an opportunity for you to do what you love.”  Sarah sighed and responded, “What about you and Samantha? Samantha is the only sister I have.  I would be alone in New York.  I know our relationship is not ideal lately but I love and forgive her. I know deep down she loves me too.”

Samantha heard everything. At first when she heard the acceptance letter she was furious that Sarah was leaving and that her talents were not just good but excellent.  She also heard what Sarah said and for the first time in a long time she felt sad and ashamed at how she had treated her sister who despite everything she had done loved her still and was genuinely concerned about her.

She saw her reflection in the stainless steel cookie jar on the counter and realised that she did not recognise who she had become because she had allowed jealousy and envy to consume her.  She wept uncontrollably as she sank to her knees in the kitchen.

Both her mother and sister heard this and ran in to see what was wrong. They hugged her and she looked Sarah in the eyes and apologised for being mean and jealous of her and asked for her forgiveness.  Sarah forgave her and told her that she loved her.  Samantha knew it was true and confessed that she loved her also.

She also went on to tell her the truth about how wonderful her paintings and poetry were and that she should go to New York.  “Sarah you are a great sister and talented artist and I am proud to call you my sister.”

This brought tears to both Sarah and her mother’s eyes. After that day, Samantha and Sarah grew closer and became the best of friends always supporting and encouraging each other to be their best.

Samantha eventually found her own talent.  All this time she thought she was not good at anything – turns out she was a great musician and eventually went on to do great things.  She realised that she was wasting time being angry and jealous of her sister’s talents when she had her own talent that she was not developing because she was too busy being envious and almost lost her opportunity to find happiness within herself.

Sarah learnt that she needed to believe in herself and her abilities more.  She was also grateful that she did not give up on her sister because now they have a beautiful relationship.  Sarah was happy with who she was and who she was becoming and allowed herself to explore other opportunities for happiness outside herself and her work as she and Adam eventually became very close.

In the end, both sisters agreed that sometimes you need to create your own happiness. Don’t waste time comparing yourself to others, focus on developing your own talents because it is there you will find true happiness.

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Don’t let your PAIN hinder your GROWTH

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Everything happens for a reason both the good and the bad. Some people come into your life to build you up while others try to break you down.  Every encounter has a purpose ultimately it is up to you to use it to make you better, stronger and wiser.

How many of you can say that you’ve never been hurt emotionally, physically or psychologically by another human being?  I’ve been hurt and I don’t feel bad acknowledging this because even Jesus had his share of hurt, pain and disappointments.

How many of you can say that when you were hurt that it did not negatively affect you?   Whenever, I feel hurt sometimes it affects my mood, my appetite and even my interactions with others. The fact is, we all react to pain differently but we all react nonetheless. 

PAIN is a part of life.  There is no way we would be able to go through this life and have everything and everyone in our lives be perfect 24/7.  It is unrealistic because life itself is unpredictable.  We have to learn to handle our pain and emotions in a manner that does not leave us feeling defeated, helpless and broken.

The circumstance may have labelled you the “victim” but you can determine if you accept or reject that label. Take a note of the following, DON’T LET YOUR PAIN… 

  1. STEAL YOUR FUTURE.
  2. HOLD YOU BACK IN LIFE.
  3. PARALYZE YOU.
  4. KEEP YOU STUCK.
  5. FEED YOU EXCUSES FOR STAYING WHERE YOU ARE.
  6. BLIND YOU FROM YOUR TRUTH.
  7. DENY YOU JOY AND HAPPINESS.
  8. SHUT THE PEOPLE OUT WHO REALLY LOVE AND CARE FOR YOU.
  9. SMOTHER YOU ANYMORE.
  10. CONTROL YOUR LIFE.

Some facts I thought you should know:

  1. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND THAT’S OKAY. NO ONE IS!
  2. YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR CIRCUMSTANCE – SO DON’T JUST SIT BACK AND ACCEPT THAT’S HOW IT IS.
  3. YOUR FUTURE IS ULTIMATELY UP TO YOU. 
  4. USE THE PAIN TO YOUR ADVANTAGE – LEARN FROM IT – GROW WISER AND STRONGER. 
  5. PAIN IS NOT OUR WEAKNESS. IT JUST MEANS WE ARE HUMAN.
  6. DON’T GIVE UP.

Time for the healing to begin. Find your purpose.  You were not put on this earth to be mediocre and unhappy.  You have a purpose and you have to find it.  Don’t let your pain stop your growth or keep you stuck in a rot.

Over the years with every situation I realized there was a lesson to be learnt. Not only about the people involved in it but about myself as well.  Ask yourself what is the ‘lesson’ to be learnt from this experience?  What good can you take from these lessons? Find it, so you can move forward.

You’ve made it this far!

What does it really mean “to love yourself”?

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We all hear and make the statement “love yourself” from time to time and I stopped and asked myself what does that really mean?  To “love yourself ” can mean different things to different people. For some it means not taking any crap from anyone; for others it could mean taking good care of their bodies and their health; and for the rest it could be as simple as liking and accepting the person steering back at them in the mirror. 🙂  All of these acts are expressions of self love.

What is self love? Self love is when we choose to love, care and nurture our minds, bodies and spirits through our thoughts, experiences and our relationships. Self love does not happen in a bubble or in isolation. It impacts our self-image and self-worth.

Can we say we truly love ourselves when:

  1. We allow people who are constantly negative with us to remain major players in our lives.
  2. We constantly over indulge in activities that can be harmful to our health.
  3. We are the negative voices in our own heads feeding doubt, fear and insecurity.
  4. We do things that are against everything we stand for.
  5. We stay in relationships that constantly cause us pain.
  6. We don’t make time for ourselves to rest or relax.

Self love looks at the big things and the little things we often take for granted.  How we let the people in our lives speak and treat us can affect our self love and our self-image.  I have heard it said that “respect is something you earn” and I agree with this statement. However, I also believe there are times in life when you have to demand respect as  a human being.

I show myself ‘self love’ in some ways but not all.  So I too am guilty of not truly loving myself the way I should.  I make time to relax.  I remove myself from toxic people and relationships.  I am yet to master the caring for my body the way I should.  I love to eat but I am not as active as I should be but I am trying to live better one day at a time because I am worth it!

Nobody is perfect but we should strive to always do what is right, healthy and best for us especially in negative and unhealthy situations.  Take it one step at a time. Look at the three main areas for self love: mind, body and spirit and try to incorporate positive behaviour and thoughts to start loving yourself more and more each day.

 

Mind- clear the negativity from your mind and your life. Meditate, pray, go on a weekend retreat, have a spa day just try and relax to clear your mind. Remove the negative elements from your life. You know who and what they are!

Body- pay closer attention to the foods you eat. It’s all about balance, quality and quantity. Exercise a few days a week for a few minutes – go jogging, walking, running, dancing, swimming whatever form you feel like enduring – go for it!  I am no fitness guru but I started exercising and I have started feeling better.

Spirit – this one is all about what you believe in.  Fill your mind, heart and life with so much inspiration, motivation and positive stuff that you just want to burst.  Music, scripture, church, books or poetry. Whatever positively drives you to be better hold onto that because that is where the nurturing comes from.

So let’s promise to love ourselves a little more each day.

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Motivation and Inspiration

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For most of my life I have felt lost and unfilled and often wondered what I was really meant to do.  A few months ago, I had an unexplained urge to write a book titled, “What is Your Gift?”   I wrote it and shared it with my best friend and sister, Candice.  She is my main go to person when I need advice.  She tells me like it is and I can trust her to tell me the truth.

She read my draft and gave me her reviews.  Now let me remind you, I had NEVER done any previous writing of this nature before and had just decided to document my thoughts and ideas and ended up with a book.  My sister’s reviews that night changed my life. She said, that she had no idea that I could write like that and if she did not see me working on it herself she might have doubted that I actually did it.  She found the work quality to be very good and the messages very helpful.  You should have seen my face beaming with pride.  As our eyes met at one point they were almost to tears because we both knew my life story and she was proud of me.  She always tells me how great I am but that night she said, “Cherylene, I believe you have finally found what makes you happy.”  My eyes lit up and it was as if I had been set free.

At that moment, we started talking about starting a blog so I could reach people, share stories, ideas and hopefully make a positive difference in someone’s life.  I loved the idea of writing because the more I did it, the more I wanted to do it and the more I wanted to share it with the world.  Writing for me is a tool for expressing  and  communicating with others my perspective on life and the world at large.

As can be expected with trying anything new, I was a bit intimidated at first but I knew that if I really wanted to become a writer I had to write and publish my work.   The experience and constructive feedback would only improve my writing.   The truth is, some people will like it and some people may not.   However, that would not hinder my contribution it just pushes me to present my best self.

Motivation and inspiration my friends can come from anywhere, at anytime, from anyone. Sometimes we just need to open not only our eyes but our minds to get what we really need.   Do not limit yourself to your personal circles for encouragement sometimes you just have to dig deep and jump-start within yourself those creative juices that started your passion in the first place.

Stay focused. Stay in touch.  Let me know what or who motivates you.