Health and Wellness Fridays: The Beauty, Simplicity and Power of Giving Thanks

Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays! Glory to God for this new day, for we have another opportunity to give thanks and to pray for those we love, who love us and who need love.

I hope that today finds you in good spirits. If you’re not,  I ask the Holy Spirit to comfort you and lift you up by the end of this post. 🙂

Many times in life, we get distracted and consumed by all the things that are not going well in our lives or our bodies.  We might find ourselves constantly complaining about all the stuff that’s not right, ignoring the stuff that is.

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I believe that on our journey to better health and wellness that it is important to give thanks in the midst of the challenges, the pain, the discomfort even the illness.  The thing is, when we focus specifically on the things that are troubling us we miss the beauty and the joy to be gained from the things that we have been blessed with.

Praise God in spite of your pain.  As I write this post, I am not free from my pain or discomfort yet. However, I refuse to allow myself to let my pain stop me from enjoying and seeing the beauty and the blessings that exist in and around my life.  By God’s grace, my faith and my prayers I will continue to trust that God WILL take all that is wrong and make it right.

So, rather than focus on what hurts, I choose to give thanks for what does not hurt and what I am able to do in spite of the discomfort. I choose to thank God for the healing He has delivered to my body. That’s right, I spoke healing into my situation and you should too – put YOUR faith to work! 😉

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Each day, I give Him thanks for life.  I thank Him for ALL that I am able to do. For I am able to walk, care for my kids, write this post, and do so much more. Giving thanks allows us to not lose sight of the other things we need to be grateful for.  Being able to get up and walk to the bathroom may seem insignificant right now but God forbid the day we can’t do it on our own we would surely miss that independence.

I’m not telling you that your pain is not real because for many it is very real.  However, what I am suggesting is that we choose to look beyond what and how we feel and give God the praise anyway; honour Him anyway; give Him the glory anyway. For ALL the good He is doing and has done in our lives. Nothing is too small to show gratitude for. Give God the praise and let your loved one know how grateful you are for them and how much they mean to you.  It feels good to make someone else feel good – that is the beauty of it.  

God is not only going to restore and bring healing to our bodies but our relationships, our finances and any other area of our lives that need it. We should never take God or the people He has placed in our lives for granted.  We should never take our lives for granted even though the challenges may seem many.  The truth is we ALL have so much to be grateful for – that is the simplicity of it.

Health and wellness therefore goes beyond just our diet, exercise and adequate sleep. It requires us to look at how much attention and weight we put on the things that hurt us and how this emphasis can negatively affect our view of all the other areas of our lives.  While we work towards a better us, we need to look past what and how we feel and be grateful for what we have no matter how chaotic and problematic our lives may seem.

There is always someone worse off that you. Trust me, you don’t want their issues nor do you want to walk a minute in their shoes.  Thank God for your life and choose to work through your pain and trials. Praise His name for the victory He is bringing your way. This is the power of it!

Have a wonderful day and an amazing weekend. 🙂

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

Physical Presence vs Emotional Presence

Thank you Lord for this new day.  Thank you for another opportunity to share and be a blessing to someone’s life today.  Help me deliver this message effectively. In Jesus name. Amen.

Many times I’ve gone through life being physically present without being emotionally present.

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You may ask, what can cause a person to want to separate their emotions from their physical self?

Some situations that could cause someone to want some distance between their physical and emotional self are:

  1. Experiencing constant abuse of any kind be it physical, emotional or sexual.
  2. Experiencing domestic violence.
  3. The pain of losing a loved one is just too much.
  4. Constantly witnessing the abuse of a loved one.
  5. Life just seems to be too difficult.
  6. Constantly trying to please others. Therefore, making their happiness priority over your own happiness.
  7. Fear.

 

Some benefits of this skill include:

  1. The numbness that it provides.
  2. It disconnects you from the moment or experience. Hence, you don’t have to feel anything.
  3. It provides a feeling of security even in the midst of the chaos.
  4. It gives you a sense of control over you.

 

However, some drawbacks of this skill when it becomes your way of life include:

  1. You lose more and more of yourself over time.
  2. You get so accustomed to running away emotionally it becomes difficult to stay present.
  3. Running does not heal the hurt but rather conceals it momentarily.
  4. The numbness that it creates in us over time hardens the parts of us that were meant to know and experience love and life.
  5. It does not make you happy it just numbs you.

 

Over the years I found being physically present and emotionally present for every thing in my life was sometimes too painful and found difficulty coping with them. It took many years but I learnt to control when and where I wanted to feel.  However, as the drawbacks highlighted suggests there was a price.

Like everything in life, there are consequences for everything we do.  Thankfully, with prayer and time, I was able to heal and turn this preservation skill into a powerful tool to ensure my own peace of mind and happiness.

How do we use this skill to our benefit rather our demise?

  1. Talk to someone about what you’re going through.
  2. Some situations require you to leave the environment for the healing in your life, mind and body to take place.
  3. Learn to love yourself again.
  4. Forgive yourself, the person or people who hurt you.
  5. Pray and ask God to help you.
  6. Understand that you CAN and WILL get better but it will take a little time so be PATIENT with yourself.
  7. Remember, God loves you and wants to see you whole again.

 

My Prayer:

Heavenly Father, as I come before You this morning to give You thanks and praise for all that You are doing not only in my life but all those who read and visit my blog. 

I thank you for restoring what was lost.  I thank you for healing the broken places within me.  Thank you for loving me even in my brokenness and imperfections.  Thank you for touching my life and making me whole and one with You.  Thank you that the people who are reading this would be blessed by this post and share it with someone who may really need to read it. 

I know Heavenly Father that Your desire is for us to be happy not sad. Healed and not sick and broken.  Filled with Your joy, peace and a sense of security that comes from knowing You. Let us feel Your love washed over and through us as we read and agree that You are our Lord and Saviour.  Only You can fix the areas of our lives we have struggled with for so long. Give us the strength, wisdom, understanding and courage to DO what we have to do. We let go of our fears and ask for Your intervention and deliverance today.  As the song says, prove the doubters wrong. You are mighty and strong. In Jesus Name we pray, Amen!

It’s time to stop running and start living.  Make today better than yesterday.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

Music Reflection Mondays : Heart and Happiness

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Beautiful Monday Morning to each of you!

I hope you made time this weekend to rest and enjoy some moments of time for yourselves.

Although my morning has started off cold and rainy I can feel in my heart that today and this week is going to be great not just for me but for ALL of us willing to not only see but receive God’s favour and blessings in our lives.

However, for us to receive God’s blessings in our lives we need to first take a closer look at what’s going on in our hearts.  I’m not referring to what is on the surface but what is deep within us that we often try to hide from ourselves and others.  The ‘real’ us under all the smiles and jokes.  The hurting us, that nobody sees. The longing us, that just wants to know and experience true love and happiness.

Many times we base our happiness on what our eyes can see and what we’ve been told. The truth is the key to happiness lies within our hearts.

With this in mind, my prayer for us today is that God creates within us a clean heart so that we can truly enjoy our lives not limited because of all the hurt, hate, sorrow, sadness and anger that so often consumes us stealing our joy and happiness.

Heavenly Father, we come humbly before You today to thank you for this new day that we are blessed to be a part of. We thank you for Your unwavering support, protection, guidance and mercy in our lives.  We thank you for Your love, grace, strength, wisdom and understanding. 

As we proceed to do ALL we have been called to do today and for the rest of the week we ask that You reveal to us the things within our hearts that are unpleasing to You.  We acknowledge that these feelings have been restricting us from receiving Your FULL blessing and favour in our lives. 

Help us to heal and remove whatever You reveal to us so that we can draw closer to You.  As You break and release us from these emotional constraints on our hearts may we find peace and joy within ourselves as we become the men and women You have called us to BE.  In Jesus name. Amen. 

We ARE BLESSED and HIGHLY FAVOURED.  Don’t you forget it! The sooner we realise and declare this can we experience the wonder that is all around us.  I am pleased to report that the rain has stopped and the birds have all come out to enjoy the brillant sunshine that has come out. 🙂

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Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

I leave you with these songs that would help lift your spirits as they have mine. Take time to listen to the lyrics. Enjoy.

Wonder by Hillsong United

How Can It Be by Lauren Daigle

O’Lord by Lauren Daigle

One Minute by Mary Mary

 

Health and Wellness Fridays: Slow Down Before You Go Down

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Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!

Fridays, for many of us, signify the end of the work week and we just want to kick back and relax. This is normal, healthy and understandable. The hustle and bustle of everyday life can often leave us feeling exhausted and stressed out. However, even after working hard some of us have difficulty making and taking time for ourselves to truly rest and recuperate.

I will admit I’ve been guilt of this in the past. How many of us look forward to the weekend but then have anxiety step in because of all the thoughts in our minds of what must be done and the limited time we have to complete them? This often causes a love/ hate relationship with the weekend for many.

So we take a deep breath and try to enjoy whatever little ‘me’ time we can get at the end of it all. Unfortunately, sleep time does not count but it is essential for the body and mind. Before we know it, the weekend is over and it is back to work. We start our new work week not completely rested but push through anyway because we have to.

Eventually, I came to this realization, ‘all of this constant running around week after week is physically and mentally draining you. This current pattern leaves you with just enough time for the basics of life – to eat and sleep. Where is the joy and the fun? You better slow down, before you go down.’

Talk about a revelation. I had to sit down and really review my life especially the recreational aspect of it. Why? It was non-existent.

This new pattern of behaviour is what my self-talk eventually resulted it.

  1. Starting my day with prayer and worship music. I have found that talking to God first thing each morning helps sets the tone for the day. I feel at peace and I’m more relaxed.
  2. Making sure to start my day with a healthy and nourishing breakfast. I found that skipping meals not only affected my mood but also caused me to make unwise food decisions later in the day that only made me feeling guilty afterward.
  3. Make doing something or going somewhere fun a mandatory experience on the weekend. Indoors or outdoors it does not matter once I’m enjoying it and have the kids participate.
  4. I started doing more of my chores like (washing and cleaning) during the week and this freed up my weekend and my mind from those chores.
  5. Creating a period within the day where I have at least 45 minutes to an hour for myself where I do nothing but relax. Sit down and read a chapter or two, catch up my reading of blogs or listening to music. Whatever you decide but no work and no stressing out. If you have kids make sure they are properly supervised first and just take this time to clear your mind and rest your body.

This new routine I have implemented in my life has honestly given me a sense of clarity, joy and peace that my life was lacking before. If you are, like I used to be, then I suggest you slow down before you go down.

You have to create the time for YOU. That is the only way you would be able to truly relax and unwind. I didn’t know what to do with my time to tell you the truth when I got it but I have learnt to create moments of happiness whenever and wherever I can.

I look forward to the weekend now because I have a different attitude, approach and perspective. I’m no longer letting my weekend dictate what I do but instead I determine where and what I would like to do with my time and schedule life around that. That way I’m not just existing within my life but actually living it.

However, you choose to spend your weekends try to ensure you get time to enjoy what YOU love.

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Thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

Make this weekend a great one. 🙂

Farewell and Thank You 2017

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Today is the 31st of December, officially the last day of 2017 and I just wanted to give thanks for the ALL that I endured, learned and achieved over the last few months.

2017 without a doubt had its challenging moments for the majority of the year right up to June to be exact.  However, I refused to lose faith and hope and believed with all my being that things just had to get better.

Giving up was just not an option I could afford. My efforts to improve my situation just seemed to never be enough so I turned to God.  I got to a point where I believed only a miracle could resolve all of my problems.  I prayed and prayed and declared over my life that this year was going to be the beginning of a new chapter, a better and brighter chapter of my life and ALL that was holding me back would be no more.

And you know what, God delivered me and my family from the constraints, obstacles and limitations that seemed to plague us for years.  He gave us a clean and fresh slate. No we didn’t win the lottery but honestly I prayed that we would but God had different  plans for us.  I’m just as satisfied with the alternative.

2017 has given me so much to be grateful for.

  1. I started my very own blog on January 31st 2017 titled livingvsexisting.com.  This has given me much joy and greater purpose in my life.
  2. God created a way out of financial debt when I could not see any.   With God nothing is impossible.  No problem is too big or too small for Him. Trust me. 🙂
  3. God through his grace has blessed my family with a new vehicle.
  4. God brought me to this blogging community and gifted me with the pleasure of meeting and learning from some very amazing, talented and special people who I would probably not have met if I had not taken that step on January 31st 2017 to join.
  5. God has blessed my family with so much this year after years and years of obstacles, challenges and limitations that at some points I thought he had forgotten about us.  I realize now that he needed us to endure and work through the pain and not lose faith and hope.  He was testing our commitment to the process and ultimately to Him.
  6. The strength and power that comes from having a strong support system encouraging and cheering for your success.  My family has definitely been that force in my life and for them I am forever grateful.
  7. God’s protection throughout the year not only over myself but each and every member of my family and our dwellings.  His precious blood, favour and mercy has kept the enemy at bay and we are truly grateful for this.
  8. The woman who I am becoming. 🙂
  9. My writing skills and material has improved and grown so much in this time.
  10. The wisdom and knowledge that I have acquired that has helped to not only improve my life but the lives of those who read my posts.
  11. The support and encouragement I have received from this blogging community as well as other supporters of my blog.  I am genuinely thankful for each of you. May God continue to bless you all.
  12. Seeing God’s favour at work in my life.

You see my friends no matter how challenging 2017 was I’ve learnt that we have to trust in the bigger picture.  The challenging moments are meant to prepare us for what is to come.  You need to persevere!  Sometimes in order to do that we need to look past the difficulty and look towards a brighter and better future. Don’t see yourself as stuck but rather as passing through.

As we leave 2017 behind let us leave the negative experiences behind choosing to take with us the lessons learnt along the way and the happy moments we’ve had.

May 2018 be everything God wants for you and more. God has not forgotten about you.  Trust in Him and He WILL see you through.

Have a wonderful day. Happy New Year in advance from my family to yours.

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Joy

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Joy can come not only from what we get but rather what we can give or do for someone else. 

It is triggered by that selfless act that takes us to a point where we look beyond ourselves and focus on improving the lives of the people who need someone to take action and care just as much as they do about what happens to them. 

Joy does not have to be expensive.  It could be as simple as a kind word, a smile, being helpful, showing compassion or an act of selflessness. 

Create some joy in someone’s life today. 

Have a wonderful night and a Merry Christmas!  Thank you for stopping by. 🙂

Tears

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Tears help cleanse our souls

They wash away the hurt and pain

That can sometimes drive some of us insane

Relieving the internal pressure on our brains

Making it easier for us to breathe again

 

Tears are one way of expressing our joy and sadness

The body’s way of easing the madness

So there’s no need to hold them back

They can be rather hard to control

As a matter of fact

 

So many times we’re often forced to fold

As the tears begin to roll down our cheeks

It’s clear by then that we’ve reached our peaks

So cry dear friend and let it out

Your heart is hurting, that’s nothing to be ashamed about

 

From our tears we can sometimes find strength

Surfacing from deep inside among the things we try to hide

For behind our tears there are often different fears

But never believe that no one cares.

 

So I’ll cry for me

You cry for you

We both cry when we hurt

This much is true.

 

Tears have a purpose and more often than not when we keep holding them back constantly we make it harder for ourselves emotionally.  When we allow ourselves to feel sometimes that’s the only way we can truly heal.

Have a good night.  Thank you for stopping by.