One Day At A Time

Pleasant Good Morning to You All,

May this morning as the warm rays of the sun gently cover your body find each of  you full of life with a sense of purpose and peace as you go through your day.  May your disruptions be few and may you always have clarity of mind and spirit to overcome any obstacle or challenge that may come your way.  In Jesus name, Amen!

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One day at a time is how we learn and grow.  This is true for all of us.  From birth straight through to our adult lives and this is not limited only to our ability to move but our intellect and spirituality as well.

The thing is, no one person has ALL of the answers and those persons who have words of wisdom to share with others would have developed them from over years of learning from their own life lessons.

Each day will bring with it opportunities for growth, understanding and challenges which ultimately add up to lessons which help shape and develop us as individuals. Don’t beat yourself if you don’t get it right the first time or the even the second time.

When the situation seems bigger than YOURSELF and you can’t seem to find a way to overcome it. Pray for clarity of mind,  ask for God’s guidance and he WILL provide the answer.  You just have to listen not only with your ears but your eyes, heart and spirit.  Worrying and stressing about it will only cloud and block your ability to see and receive the very answers you are searching for.

So dear friends remember, take it one day at a time. Embrace each day as a potential lesson to be learnt. Be sure to apply a positive attitude as this would help to make your the journey much easier as you learn and grow along the way.

Make today a wonderful one.  Thank you for stopping by.

Take A Step Back

Would you believe I just wrote a whole post on this and I pressed the wrong key during formatting and everything vanished. 🙁  Why me Lord!  I thought to myself as I tried feverishly to recover my work.  Very upsetting as efforts proved futile!

I was so angry at myself for not making sure my work was saving as I went along.  I was so caught up in what I was doing that I neglected to pay attention.  I felt like giving up and then I remember what this post was all about and decided to try again. 🙂

Roda over at Growing Self actually inspired me to write this after reading her post called A Journey.

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No matter what the flood waters of life throw at you – don’t give up!  Stop looking at your problem through those tired eyes and stressed brain.  Try these tips.

  1. Take a step back to get a better view.
  2. Clear your mind by listening to some music or doing something fun to relax.
  3. Get creative.
  4. Get resourceful.
  5. Don’t listen to the negativity of others.  They are still caught up in their own mess and couldn’t help you even if they wanted to.
  6. Most important of all, don’t allow the frustration of it all to prevent YOU from unearthing a better outcome for YOURSELF.
  7. Change your position.  You’ll be surprised just how different or simple a problem can appear based on where you stand and how you choose to look at it.
  8. Monitor your attitude.  It’s hard to find the solution or breakthrough you’re looking for if your attitude is constantly negative.  Believe that you CAN and WILL overcome the challenge and work towards it.
  9. Believe in yourself.

 

Have a good night and thanks for stopping by. 🙂

 

Easier Said Than Done

It is usually easier to say to someone what they should do or how they should live their life until you are the one faced with your own situation or dilemma.

When the shoe is on the other foot and you are the person actually feeling the squeeze you realise it is not as easy sometimes as we think especially when it comes to feelings of the heart.

  • Sometimes in life those close to us just need us to listen and not judge or list all that is wrong with their lives. 
  • Sometimes they just need to know that we love and care about them no matter what. 
  • Sometimes they just need to be reminded about the things that make them the special and amazing people we know and love.

Empathize with them and if you do have personal experience in that area then simply share what your experience was, how it affected you and what you learned from it.  Let him or her decide for them self what they need to do.

The last thing you want or need is this person becoming resentful of you when all you’re trying to do is help and protect them.  Sometimes we can’t protect or prevent the inevitable.  If they have to go through this chapter of their life then there is nothing we can do about it.

It would be sad to see them in hurting especially if you were trying to save them from the possible pain but I’ve learnt as a survivor from a less than perfect situation that sometimes the experience is needed for us to blossom into the stronger, more confident individuals that we are supposed to be.   Sometimes in life there are just some lessons we all have to learn for ourselves.  The wisdom to be gained for each individual is different and so are the potential benefits to be achieved.

Don’t give up on them.  Don’t try to control their lives as this would only push them away.  Be a good listener if that is what they need at that time.  Be an unbiased advisor if they are seeking advice.  You need to be as objective as possible allowing them to make the final decision themselves.

Once they know you love them and mean well.  They will always come to you.  Be that support column or shoulder to cry on.  Share your knowledge and wisdom but don’t force it on them.  Lastly, pray for them.

 

Thanks for stopping by.

The Depths of Understanding

Understanding is not about ego.  It is not about who is right or wrong. It is not about who is more intelligent.

Understanding is about our ability to relate to each other or something.  It is our ability to find meaning in something, to show compassion, to empathize, to sympathize, to comfort and truly listen to each other.

Thanks for stopping by. I hope you’re having a great day.

Disappointments are blessings in disguise

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I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.

What do I mean byblessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life.   It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life;  achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.

God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows what is best for us and more importantly when to bless us with the things that we need and want.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.

God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.

However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us –  I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us.  Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.

In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.

Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:

  1. When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it!  Don’t delay and keep putting it off.  You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
  2. Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for.  When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
  3. Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
  4. Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives.  It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
  5. Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil.  Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
  6. God knows the things we struggle with even before we do.    He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere.  We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
  7. God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear.   Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
  8. It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
  9. Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
  10. We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.

What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now?     What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.

If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone.   Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be.  Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing. 

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Thanks for stopping. 🙂