Christmas Vibes

It’s that special time of year, when those you love draw near

There’s just something magical about the atmosphere

That no other season can compare

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Maybe it’s the music, maybe it’s the food

Maybe it’s the beautiful decorations that get us in the mood

The presence of family and friends

Laughter and cheer is more than enough to remind us who really care

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Christmas time though is not all Ho! Ho! Ho! Ho! for everyone

For some Christmas is just no fun 🙁

As it is a reminder of those who have gone

The memories can hit us like a powerful mist

Often so strong we spend countless days trying to dismiss

 

Christmas brings us together for a few days in December

But we should always remember

We never stop loving our loved ones because they aren’t here

For they will always be special and dear

 

So never despair

Cherish the people you still have here

And let’s commemorate those who can’t be there.

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Best wishes for the season.   Have a wonderful evening.

Thank you for stopping by.  🙂

Reflection

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The mirror shows the reflection of what is before it but the heart is a reflection of what is inside it.

What do you present in you reflection – love, loss, hurt, pain, shame, guilt, anger, joy?

Whatever, you’re struggling with know that we all have something to work through.

Through reflection hopefully, we’ll learn that our experiences help shape who we ARE but they don’t DEFINE  who we are.

Thank you for stopping by.  🙂

Tragedy

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In life there are going to be many things we don’t understand or like.

These events force us to ask questions like, what is the purpose of all this pain, suffering, and  loss? 

And of course, the big question of, why me?

Every setback, every obstacle, every loss and every encounter we’ve had was for a reason. Yes, it hurts and yes, some of it even gets us angry just thinking about it.

Believe it or not those events are meant to get us to a specific chapter in our lives not only for ourselves but often to someone else. Our lives are much bigger than ourselves.

Understanding and accepting that, is what gives us the clarity and ability to heal and move pass those trials into brighter and better days.

Tragedy can be tragic but out of it can come strength, healing, wisdom, purpose and growth.

You are NOT alone.  We ALL have our own internal wars going on inside.  Don’t be fooled by what you see on the outside.

We need to support and encourage each other to PUSH through the pain until we get to a point where we’re in control of our feelings and it is not the other way around.

We’re ALL in the process of finding our true ourselves but some of us don’t know it.  We have to learn to forgive and allow ourselves to emerge out of our PAST into our FUTURE.

Have a wonderful night. Thank you for stopping by.

Hide and Seek

 

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This is a story about a forbidden relationship between two people called Denial and Truth who only played Hide and Seek.

Denial’s parents told him that he and Truth could NEVER be together because she would only hurt him so he should always avoid her.  Denial did not listen to his parents and would in his own little way interact with Truth through playing Hide and Seek.

Truth liked Denial very much but could never get close to him.  Hide and Seek was all she had and this made her little heart sad.  No matter how hard she tried Denial always managed to slip away.

Until one day, Truth finally caught up with Denial.  For the first time he was cornered and trapped.   His emotions started swelling up on the inside now his true feelings he could no longer hide.   Truth looked Denial in his eyes and said, ” You can avoid me all you want. You could even try to wish me away but I have news for you, I’m here to stay.  You constantly push me aside because your emotions you want to hide.  Can’t you see my love, you’re creating even more turmoil inside?”

Denial unable to control his emotions anymore starts weeping uncontrollably on the floor.  Truth sits down beside him attempting to console him.  She understands his heart is thin but this is a battle even he can’t win.  She then whispers in his ear, “I understand this hurts but avoiding me will only make the pain worse. Let’s face these things together because that is the only way you’ll feel better.”

Over time these two stopped playing Hide and Seek and decided to meet up once a week.

Denial finally understood that although he could avoid Truth he could not remove her from his life. He soon realised that facing her actually made him feel better.  He eventually built up enough courage to take her home to meet his parents. 🙂

You can just imagine his parents surprise to see their son Denial and Truth standing side by side.  It took them some getting used to but over time they learnt to accept and eventually love her too.

Remember, we may not always like the truth about something,  someone or ourselves but avoiding it does not make it go away.  I’ve learnt the only way to truly move forward is to face and accept the truth and chart a way forward.

Denial is only a short-term answer or response to our problems.  The time will come when we have to face what we’ve been hiding or running from.  It won’t be easy but the end result should you choose to embrace and see the process through is  greater clarity, your emotional burden will be lifted or lighter and the healing can finally begin – resulting in a much happier you.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a great day! 🙂

Heart to Heart

This post was inspired by a piece I read called “I’m scared” written by Elsie over at Elsie LMC blog.  She rekindle in me some feelings I get whenever I think of a loved one leaving me before I could share with them all I have to say.

Family is sometimes all we have and those of us who are still fortunate to have people we love in our lives should never take them for granted.  This is to my family.

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So many times I stop and think

We could be no more with just one blink

No more laughter, no more talks

No more browsing on our little walks

So as I prepare this heart to heart

Let’s remove all bitterness from our path 

Agreeing to put petty differences aside

Especially those entangled with our pride

Our love for each other we should never hide

So many times I stop and think

How much time was wasted between you and me?

Silence left to pass the time

Because of foolish pettiness

We’ve now reduced our time

So many times I stop and think

If you were to leave me now

My heart would surely sink

For without you in this world

I would feel so empty and cold

As the tears and grief would fill my soul

So I’ve made my decision and with careful precision

I will take the first step because I don’t want to leave this world with regret

Besides I never want you to forget,

I love now and forever

To my mother, father, sister, brother, sons and niece

Knowing each of you in this life

Has truly brought me so much peace

I know we’ve had our moments

But life is short so no more postponements

Live your life and cherish it

Remembering to show your love

While learning to receive it

So let’s put any differences aside

Removing all bitterness and pride

Loving and praying for each other everyday

Because when that day comes there’s only so much we can say

I love you all

Have a blessed day.

 

 

Be Careful What You Ask For!

Be careful what you ask for, you just might get.

Life has a funny way of giving us what we want just not always in the way we want it.

  • Sometimes we experience love through loss.  In other moments through loss we find love.
  • Sometimes only through overcoming our failure can acquire success.  Other times when we acquire success this can result in our failure.

Over the years I’ve learnt that life is something that we cannot control. However, we do have the power to determine how life events affect and impact our lives.

We can choose to learn from them gaining wisdom, knowledge and strength to move forward or we can allow ourselves to be swallowed up by the experience becoming lost but not forgotten.

Life can be complicated at times but there are times when it can be really simple. Let us choose us to make the most and best use of it.

Thanks for stopping by. Make today a great one!

 

Dangers Of Playing It Too Safe

Playing it safe from time to time could save us a lot of hurt in certain situations.  I used to ‘play it safe’ and still do in some aspects of my life.  However, there is a difference between playing it safe and playing it too safe.

In fact, playing it too safe is probably one sure way of increasing the odds that very little happens to you.  You’re probably wondering, how is this a bad thing and what makes it so dangerous?

Some dangers ofplaying it too safeinclude:

  1. We limit our experiences and by extension our learning.  If you are unwilling to try new things or do things differently from time to time how would you learn and grow your knowledge.  Reading knowledge from a book is great because you get a point of reference but actually attempting something or trying something new gives you that experience that you will carry with you for a lifetime – no book could give you that!
  2. We can cause others to naturally exclude us from events.  If you are invited to events from time to time and your answer is always NO eventually people would stop asking.  Of course, I’m referring to people you are familiar with and feel safe being around.  I’m in no way suggesting you put yourself in any situation that can be potentially harmful to your well-being.
  3. We let our fear of uncertainty prevent us from truly enjoying life.  Life is full of uncertainties that is a given however, if we allow ourselves to stay out or away from everything, are we enjoying our lives?  Take small steps, do little things and enjoy the air and breath that you wake up each day to enjoy.
  4. We pass on this way of thinking and living to our children making them fearful of the world.  As parents, our job is to protect our children but we should do so objectively.  Yes, we have to warn them of the potential dangers out there but we should also show them that the world still has in it good things as well that can and should be enjoyed.
  5. We limit the knowledge we have about ourselves such as likes, dislikes, true strengths and weaknesses because we don’t want to try anything new.  When we avoid anything that is new or different how do we really know if we like it or dislike it without even trying.  I’ve never done drugs but what I know of it and seen I know without a doubt that is not something I want to be messing with.  There are just some experiences we don’t need to mess with. Pick your battles, stay safe and stay smart!  
  6. We can end up isolating ourselves.  Sometimes being too safe could cause us to share little of ourselves with others.  It’s okay to say hi or just flash a smile from time to time. Sometimes when a stranger says “Good morning or Hello” it is just that, they are simply being nice and courteous.
  7. We have difficulty accepting change.  We want things how we want it, the way we’ve known it and don’t want to try anything else.  It is good to change up your routine from time to time.  Take a different route home, try a different brand it is good to have options.

All in all, life is just too short to be stuck doing things one way all the time.  We are here to enjoy life, to learn, to love and share with each other while having some fun along the way.  Create memories that put a smile on your face and brings joy to your heart.  Be brave but not reckless. Share the moments with the people you love.

Stay blessed.  Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

Have a great day!