Health and Wellness Fridays – Inspiration and Drive

Health and Wellness Greetings to each of you!

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Today I felt inspired to write about some of the things that typically inspire and drive some of us to take a different approach to our health and overall well-being.

  1. A visit to the doctor.  You go to the doctor for one thing and you end up with more feedback than you were expecting.  Sometimes he or she would have to recommend that we change or cut out some of our everyday habits.  We would probably even have to make changes to our diet and even increase or start taking exercising more seriously based on the findings.
  2. Looking in the mirror.  This one does not always inspire everyone.  For some a glimpse into the mirror is all they need to run and join a gym.  For others it just a reminder of the areas we should be working on.  I for one know the areas I need to pay closer attention to but I don’t let the mirror get me down.  Focus on the good, enhance your assets 🙂 and try to improve what you can.  Don’t spend anytime beating up yourself about where you’re at.  Focus on where you would like to be and make an effort to get there. 🙂
  3. Constant feedback from those around you.  Some people mean well but they often neglect the fact that their good intentions can have a negative impact on the same people they are trying to help.  We allinternalize criticism differently.  Some use it as a driving force to excel in life while others absorb it and let it eat away at their very core.  When the latter happens, this not only hinders growth it creates depression and can even make things worse.
  4. You reach your ‘enough is enough’ moment. This is the point in your life when you’re tired of the excuses and you just take control of your life. You pay attention to what you eat, you make an effort to get active and just choose to no longer be a bystander in your own life.
  5. Fear of death.  Many of us want to live for as long as we can so we try to educate ourselves on the Dos and Don’ts and try to implement healthier lifestyle choices all in effort to preserve and hopefully extend our lives. The reality is, we all will die eventually and we have no say in how we go ultimately but we can reduce our risks for the things within our control.
  6. Family and loved ones.   Sometimes just the thought of  dying and leaving our loved ones is enough to motivate us to take better care of ourselves and them. Eating habits are learnt and taught whether we believe that or not.  Our families eat what we provide so we ultimately set the tone for their lives.  We owe it to them and ourselves to make better choices.

In the end, for each of us there may be multiple reasons why we do what we do and a few why we don’t.    These health and wellness posts are for people like me who sometimes need the reminder or gentle push to do more for ourselves.  No matter what ultimately drives and inspires us to live better – the number one reason should be because we are WORTH IT! 

Do I have all of the answers to health and wellness? NO but I do understand how challenging it can be when you have gained the weight and you’re trying to get if off and keep it off.  The battle between what taste best and what is BEST for us is real.  For some this comes easy and others like myself, we just have to take it one day and even one meal at a time.

Happy Friday to you all. Make today a great one and have a wonderful weekend!

Thanks for stopping by.

 

Fuel Your Fire To Succeed

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Do you know what Oprah Winfrey, Stephen King, Richard Branson, Thomas Edison, Jay-Z and Steven Spielberg have in common? Let’s get to know them a little better first.

Oprah Winfrey – was repeatedly molested as a child. She ran away from home. She in her early teenage years gave birth to a baby boy who unfortunately died.  Although forced to endure unimaginable circumstances in her early childhood, Winfrey persevered.   She excelled as an honour student and eventually secured a full scholarship to college.  She is now one of the most successful and richest people in the world today.  According the Forbes, Winfrey is worth an estimated $3 billion.

Stephen King – had his first novel “Carrie” rejected 30 times by publishing houses. His wife encouraged him to try one more time and he was eventually able to get it published.   King sold over 350 million copies and even had it made into motion pictures.  According the The Richest, he is worth an estimated $400 million.

Richard Branson – despite the difficulties and challenges posed by his acknowledged dyslexia, Branson used his personality and business talents to become the success he is today. According to Forbes, Branson is worth an estimated $5.1 billion.

Thomas Edison – failed a number of times before successfully creating the lightbulb.  The exact number of tries has been debated but some say as much as 10,000 attempts. Can you imagine? His perseverance paid off and bought us not only the lightbulb but the phonograph as well.

Jay-Z -had big dreams to make it big as a rapper. Unfortunately, he had difficulty convincing record labels to sign him. This however, did not deter him in fact, he persevered and now owns his own record label.  Jay-Z is not just a rapper but a businessman who has investments in clothing lines, real estate, sports teams, record labels, and more.  According to Forbes, his estimated worth was $610 million in 2016.

Steven Spielberg – was rejected twice from the University of Southern California (USC).  Spielberg did not allow this rejection to crush his dreams. He went on to attend California State University in Long Beach.  USC eventually awarded him a honorary degree in 1994 and he even became a trustee of the university in 1996.  According to Forbes, Spielberg is worth an estimated $3.7 billion.

The commonality among these people was a burning desire to move pass the obstacles in their lives.  They did not allow a scarred childhood, disappointment or repeated rejection to prevent them from achieving the success they wanted for themselves.  They all chose to look beyond their circumstances and worked hard to secure a better life for themselves.

They are just a small number of successful people who overcame obstacles in their lives to be where they are today.  Some other people who persevered and came out on top are: Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Jim Carrey, Benjamin Franklin, Henry Ford, Walt Disney and Sir James Dyson just to name a few.

They are proof that no matter how bad things might look in the moment; no matter how many attempts we might have to make to get it right – we can overcome the obstacles.  We just have to want it bad enough and we must work for it.

Our past will always remind us where we came from.  Some people however, choose to use their past as an excuse; while others may try to use your past against you or  as a means to discourage you.  Let us instead choose to be the exception – let us use our past as a motivator to propel us into greatness.

Don’t allow any negativity from the past or current situations to keep you from achieving your dreams.  Although our past may influence some aspects of our future it does not control it. We do! 

Whenever, you feel like giving up or you feel defeated remember some of these people we looked at today and all the obstacles and failures they had to overcome to make it. Never give up on yourself! Let their stories give you hope and fuel your fire to succeed.

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

 

 

Don’t let your PAIN hinder your GROWTH

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Everything happens for a reason both the good and the bad. Some people come into your life to build you up while others try to break you down.  Every encounter has a purpose ultimately it is up to you to use it to make you better, stronger and wiser.

How many of you can say that you’ve never been hurt emotionally, physically or psychologically by another human being?  I’ve been hurt and I don’t feel bad acknowledging this because even Jesus had his share of hurt, pain and disappointments.

How many of you can say that when you were hurt that it did not negatively affect you?   Whenever, I feel hurt sometimes it affects my mood, my appetite and even my interactions with others. The fact is, we all react to pain differently but we all react nonetheless. 

PAIN is a part of life.  There is no way we would be able to go through this life and have everything and everyone in our lives be perfect 24/7.  It is unrealistic because life itself is unpredictable.  We have to learn to handle our pain and emotions in a manner that does not leave us feeling defeated, helpless and broken.

The circumstance may have labelled you the “victim” but you can determine if you accept or reject that label. Take a note of the following, DON’T LET YOUR PAIN… 

  1. STEAL YOUR FUTURE.
  2. HOLD YOU BACK IN LIFE.
  3. PARALYZE YOU.
  4. KEEP YOU STUCK.
  5. FEED YOU EXCUSES FOR STAYING WHERE YOU ARE.
  6. BLIND YOU FROM YOUR TRUTH.
  7. DENY YOU JOY AND HAPPINESS.
  8. SHUT THE PEOPLE OUT WHO REALLY LOVE AND CARE FOR YOU.
  9. SMOTHER YOU ANYMORE.
  10. CONTROL YOUR LIFE.

Some facts I thought you should know:

  1. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND THAT’S OKAY. NO ONE IS!
  2. YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR CIRCUMSTANCE – SO DON’T JUST SIT BACK AND ACCEPT THAT’S HOW IT IS.
  3. YOUR FUTURE IS ULTIMATELY UP TO YOU. 
  4. USE THE PAIN TO YOUR ADVANTAGE – LEARN FROM IT – GROW WISER AND STRONGER. 
  5. PAIN IS NOT OUR WEAKNESS. IT JUST MEANS WE ARE HUMAN.
  6. DON’T GIVE UP.

Time for the healing to begin. Find your purpose.  You were not put on this earth to be mediocre and unhappy.  You have a purpose and you have to find it.  Don’t let your pain stop your growth or keep you stuck in a rot.

Over the years with every situation I realized there was a lesson to be learnt. Not only about the people involved in it but about myself as well.  Ask yourself what is the ‘lesson’ to be learnt from this experience?  What good can you take from these lessons? Find it, so you can move forward.

You’ve made it this far!

The Benjamins and the Hopefuls

 

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Let me tell you a story about two families – the Benjamins and the Hopefuls.   The Benjamins were a very wealthy family. They had two sons Sam and Samuel both of whom attended private school.  Mr. and Mrs. Benjamin spent all of their time working and had little time to spend with their children.  Their sons were usually left in the care of their nanny Elsa. She was an old woman who was always very nice and kind to them.

Mr. Benjamin learnt from an early age that he had to work hard for what he wanted and he honestly believed that the sacrifice he was making would spare his sons the tough lessons he had to learn growing up.

He was proud of his accomplishments and his sons but he would never tell them. Instead, whenever Mr. Benjamin and his sons would cross paths in the hallway of their home he would always stop them and say, “Everything I’m doing, is for you” and they would always shake their heads and answer, “Yes, father. We understand“. Then they would all continue on their way to wherever they were going as they would try to stay out of each other’s way.

The truth is, Sam and Samuel didn’t understand.  In fact, the more time that passed the more resentful they became. They did not understand why having money and riches didn’t make them happy.

The Hopefuls on the other hand, were simple people. They were crop farmers and owned a modest piece of agricultural land.  They had twins a boy and a girl, Adam and Angelina.  Mr. and Mrs. Hopeful were hard-working, kind and humble people. They were not rich in material things but found value in each other.  They made the most of everything they had and always believed in teaching their children about the value of a dollar, good manners, responsibility, life skills, independence, respect, integrity, gratitude and forgiveness.

Mr. Hopeful was a very serious man but when it came to his children his heart would melt like butter. He would play with them in the field, go swimming and even take them hunting.  He treated his children equally.  Mrs. Hopeful would help them with their homework and would encourage them to assist with the chores around the house.  At bedtime she would read to them and kiss them on their foreheads. Before she would leave the room she would always say to them, “It does not matter where you start in this race called life; all that matters is how you finish.”

Adam and Angelina were always well-behaved and well-mannered.  They knew their parents loved them. Even though they did not have all of the things the other children had they never felt as though they lacked anything.  They always supported and looked out for each other.

As time went by the children in both families grew up and eventually took over the respective businesses their parents had left them.  Mr. Benjamin eventually died from a heart-attack.  Mrs. Benjamin died from a broken heart soon after.   It seems the death of her husband was too much for her.   Mr. and Mrs. Hopeful unfortunately died in a car accident later that year.

Sam and Samuel could not cope with the death of their parents. They felt alone and did not feel they were equipped to run the family business.  Sam, the younger of the two started doing drugs and hanging out with the wrong people while Samuel turned to drinking and gambling. Needless to say, the once respected Benjamin name within two years had crumbled to nothing.  The banks seized all of their properties and they had to file for bankruptcy.  Sam was eventually imprisoned for drug possession and Samuel died in a car accident. The pressures of life seemed too much.

Adam and Angelina both missed their parents terribly but knew they had each other. They stuck together and worked hard to build and grow the family business.  They had done so well that they were featured in the town’s newspaper.  They eventually expanded and opened ‘The Hopeful’s Vegetables and Poultry Market’.  All the lessons they had learnt as children growing up had prepared them for life.

Their once modest agricultural land had expanded into two and a half acres.  As they sat on the porch looking at the beautiful sunset and all the blessings they had received they could not help but remember those words their mother would recite to them before bed, “It does not matter  where you start in this race called life; all that matters is how you finish.”

This was my first short story. Hope you enjoyed it. 🙂

What does it really mean “to love yourself”?

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We all hear and make the statement “love yourself” from time to time and I stopped and asked myself what does that really mean?  To “love yourself ” can mean different things to different people. For some it means not taking any crap from anyone; for others it could mean taking good care of their bodies and their health; and for the rest it could be as simple as liking and accepting the person steering back at them in the mirror. 🙂  All of these acts are expressions of self love.

What is self love? Self love is when we choose to love, care and nurture our minds, bodies and spirits through our thoughts, experiences and our relationships. Self love does not happen in a bubble or in isolation. It impacts our self-image and self-worth.

Can we say we truly love ourselves when:

  1. We allow people who are constantly negative with us to remain major players in our lives.
  2. We constantly over indulge in activities that can be harmful to our health.
  3. We are the negative voices in our own heads feeding doubt, fear and insecurity.
  4. We do things that are against everything we stand for.
  5. We stay in relationships that constantly cause us pain.
  6. We don’t make time for ourselves to rest or relax.

Self love looks at the big things and the little things we often take for granted.  How we let the people in our lives speak and treat us can affect our self love and our self-image.  I have heard it said that “respect is something you earn” and I agree with this statement. However, I also believe there are times in life when you have to demand respect as  a human being.

I show myself ‘self love’ in some ways but not all.  So I too am guilty of not truly loving myself the way I should.  I make time to relax.  I remove myself from toxic people and relationships.  I am yet to master the caring for my body the way I should.  I love to eat but I am not as active as I should be but I am trying to live better one day at a time because I am worth it!

Nobody is perfect but we should strive to always do what is right, healthy and best for us especially in negative and unhealthy situations.  Take it one step at a time. Look at the three main areas for self love: mind, body and spirit and try to incorporate positive behaviour and thoughts to start loving yourself more and more each day.

 

Mind- clear the negativity from your mind and your life. Meditate, pray, go on a weekend retreat, have a spa day just try and relax to clear your mind. Remove the negative elements from your life. You know who and what they are!

Body- pay closer attention to the foods you eat. It’s all about balance, quality and quantity. Exercise a few days a week for a few minutes – go jogging, walking, running, dancing, swimming whatever form you feel like enduring – go for it!  I am no fitness guru but I started exercising and I have started feeling better.

Spirit – this one is all about what you believe in.  Fill your mind, heart and life with so much inspiration, motivation and positive stuff that you just want to burst.  Music, scripture, church, books or poetry. Whatever positively drives you to be better hold onto that because that is where the nurturing comes from.

So let’s promise to love ourselves a little more each day.

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Motivation and Inspiration

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For most of my life I have felt lost and unfilled and often wondered what I was really meant to do.  A few months ago, I had an unexplained urge to write a book titled, “What is Your Gift?”   I wrote it and shared it with my best friend and sister, Candice.  She is my main go to person when I need advice.  She tells me like it is and I can trust her to tell me the truth.

She read my draft and gave me her reviews.  Now let me remind you, I had NEVER done any previous writing of this nature before and had just decided to document my thoughts and ideas and ended up with a book.  My sister’s reviews that night changed my life. She said, that she had no idea that I could write like that and if she did not see me working on it herself she might have doubted that I actually did it.  She found the work quality to be very good and the messages very helpful.  You should have seen my face beaming with pride.  As our eyes met at one point they were almost to tears because we both knew my life story and she was proud of me.  She always tells me how great I am but that night she said, “Cherylene, I believe you have finally found what makes you happy.”  My eyes lit up and it was as if I had been set free.

At that moment, we started talking about starting a blog so I could reach people, share stories, ideas and hopefully make a positive difference in someone’s life.  I loved the idea of writing because the more I did it, the more I wanted to do it and the more I wanted to share it with the world.  Writing for me is a tool for expressing  and  communicating with others my perspective on life and the world at large.

As can be expected with trying anything new, I was a bit intimidated at first but I knew that if I really wanted to become a writer I had to write and publish my work.   The experience and constructive feedback would only improve my writing.   The truth is, some people will like it and some people may not.   However, that would not hinder my contribution it just pushes me to present my best self.

Motivation and inspiration my friends can come from anywhere, at anytime, from anyone. Sometimes we just need to open not only our eyes but our minds to get what we really need.   Do not limit yourself to your personal circles for encouragement sometimes you just have to dig deep and jump-start within yourself those creative juices that started your passion in the first place.

Stay focused. Stay in touch.  Let me know what or who motivates you.