Music Reflection Mondays #16 – Preferences

Welcome back to Music Reflection Mondays!


Music does different things for different people. Some use it to relax or de-stress, others to get their groove on (at the club or while working out at the gym) the uses vary from person to person.  However, this does not take away from the fact that music helps us get through life sometimes even distracting us from our problems even if only for a moment. For some of us that is good enough. 🙂

Does the fact that your individual preferences for music if different from mine mean that your selections or preferences are better than mine or vice versa?  I think not!  Once I like what I listen to and you feel the same about what you like that’s all that matters.   Sometimes you might hear a song that others might be all hyped about and wonder to yourself, “What’s the big deal about this song?”  Keep in mind that someone else might be listening to your preference and ask the same question.

Our preferences make us the individuals that we are.  There may be songs or genre of music that we share and enjoy likewise there may be some that we don’t share or enjoy – and you know what, that’s okay.   I do not believe that we were placed on this earth to like all the same things and do all the same things – differences create variety and that helps to keep things interesting.  🙂

Don’t make assumptions about people because of how they look.  Their musical preferences may surprise you so don’t stereotype.  Listen to what you like and what moves you but don’t be afraid to try something new from time to time.  You may not like everything and you don’t have to.   Don’t limit yourself to only what you know – allow your musical database to grow.

There is so much to learn and explore in the world of music from the different genre of music to new artiste and so much more.  Keep an open mind and ear.  In life there comes a time when you learn that in order to be truly happy you need to just do what you love. Music is no different. 🙂

Have a good night and a blessed week.  Thank you for stopping by.

Differences (originally posted 19.09.2017)

Not because we can’t see value, worth or ‘substance’ in someone else doesn’t mean it isn’t there. 

Some use differences to separate and divide.  While others choose to celebrate and embrace them.

Sure our differences make us different but that’s not a negative thing?  These differences create opportunities for us to grow, learn and develop.

Being different isn’t the problem.  Being closed-minded about it is.

For our eyes can only see what’s on the surface.  It’s up to us to dig deeper.

Let’s be proud of who we are and never let anyone make us feel inferior or unworthy.

Thanks for stopping by.


Dig Deeper

So what, if they don’t like you!

So what, if they don’t think you fit in!

So what, if they have negative things to say!


Reality check, the likelihood of every single person you meet liking you is slim.

‘Fitting in’ to any group if it is where you’re meant to be should happen naturally and should not require you to become someone you’re not.  It’s nice to be liked by others but it’s more important that we love who we are first.

We all have our preferences and that’s okay.   Why should we change who we are, what we’re all about for people to think we’re cool and worth knowing.  The truth is, they are the ones losing out.

As for any negativity that may come don’t pay it any attention.  You are none of those things so don’t even give it a second thought.    The fact that they are making time to sit down and talk about you means you have more going on for you than they do, clearly.  The haters are going to hate, that’s what they do!

Don’t allow anyone to steal your joy. Keep your head up, stay positive and make each day about you doing something good for you and someone else.  Share the love. 🙂

You are who you need to be.  Embrace it, explore it, develop it and love it! 🙂

If you ever feel the need to make improvements to any aspect of your being – (physical, spiritual or psychological) do it because you want to not because you want to please or satisfy anyone else.

Sometimes we just need to hear that we are good enough just the way we are.

Have a great weekend!

What is real beauty?

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What is real beauty?  It seems everywhere we turn we’re bombarded with images and perceptions about what signifies or identifies as ‘beauty’ and this is largely based on how someone or something looks.

However, over time I have come to realise that real beauty is sometimes deeper than just the physical attributes of someone as well as it can be based on personal preferences of the person doing the assessment that is to say, what might be beautiful to me may not be beautiful to you and vice versa.  Hence the popular saying, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

How many couples have you looked at and thought, “What an interesting combo?” or “How did he or she end up with him or her?”   How many people have you met that did not meet up to your standards of beauty or attractiveness that turned out to be great people who you now have beautiful friendships or relationships with?  Or rather how many people have you not allowed yourself the opportunity to interact with because they did not meet your standards based on their appearance?

If we limit ourselves to just what our eyes can see then we can potentially be missing out on many beautiful things and people out there in the world around us. 

I am not advocating that we stop admiring or complimenting people based on their appearance. What I am suggesting however, is that we not limit or avoid interactions with others because of their outward characteristics because sometimes “what you see is not necessarily what you get” and this can prevent us sometimes from learning and experiencing someone or something truly special.

I for one have met and interacted with all types of people and there have been times when I met people who I deemed beautiful or attractive in their outward appearance and later found out that they lacked inward beauty – that is, their character, personality or values did not match up with their outward beauty and I suddenly did not find them as beautiful after that.

As children through stories like “The Ugly Duckling” and “Beauty and the Beast” we’re taught “you should not judge a book by the cover.”  We all know the stories so  ask yourself this, who really loses in scenarios where we make assumptions or judgements about others based on their appearances – the person being judged or the person making the judgement?

A diamond is a diamond whether we think it is beautiful or not.  Our like or dislike for it does not change what it is.  This is how we must see ourselves and others as well.  We are all beautiful and special and this is how we need to see our differences because whether people like us or not would not change or take away from what makes each and every one of us special, unique and beautiful.

Real beauty to me is not limited to just the physical attributes of someone or something but the non-physical attributes that compliment that person or thing.  It is what makes it truly special and beautiful giving those that come into contact with it a sense of joy, happiness and pleasure to be around.

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂