You’re not alone..

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There have been times in my life when I wished and even prayed for a simple answer to some of my problems that would clearly say, “Cherylene, do this or do that.”

There were also times when I didn’t feel like I would ever find the answers or my way out of some of the situations I found myself in.

I blamed everyone and everything for what was happening around me.  The bank, my ex, my family, the economy, work and ultimately life.  I honestly believed that the universe was just ganging up me and would not give me a break. The people around me didn’t seem to be faced with as many obstacles as I was and this made me angry and even a little resentful.  It is sad to say but I was not in a good place.

Everything just seemed to be falling a part.  Whenever I thought I had finally had a breakthrough something else would happen.   I was stressed out, frustrated and angry and one day I just hit my peak.  You know, the straw that broke the camel’s back kind of scenario.   I can tell you this now but I never told anyone else. Well, now the world will know but maybe this could help someone who is where I was.

I sat in my room and just started crying and crying like never before. I’m usually someone who holds her shit together and would just keep everything inside but this time was different.  This time I cried out to God because I realized that I was really angry with myself and God for ‘allowing’ me to get where I was.

I knew I could do better and be better but I just did not know how or where to start.  I  don’t know how long I sat there crying and just asking God why this was all happening to me and why he wouldn’t help me.

Then all of a sudden I felt a sense calm and peace fill me and my room.  I then heard a voice say, “You never asked for my help. You complain and complain about your problems but you never once asked me directly for my help.”

I sat there on my bed in shock and even doubting I heard anything because there was no one else around.  I was home alone just me, myself and I and yet I felt ashamed of myself.  I kneeled down beside my bed and prayed and ask God to forgive me.  I asked for his guidance and direction in and over every aspect of my life.

Over the next few days, months and years I learnt to stop complaining about what was not right in my life and learned to give praise and thanks for what was right.  I had to trust in God’s plan for my life and demonstrate that trust through my words and actions and not stress over the stuff I did not have the details for.

My life has changed and improved more than I thought possible  thanks to the favour and mercy of God in my life.  The good news is,  I know God is not done yet.     I had to make a conscious decision to change the way I was going about life – my thinking,  the words I would speak over my situations even some of the people I surrounded myself with. It was in no way easy but I see now that it was necessary.  I took that step of faith towards a new beginning and a better, happier life and I have no regrets.

I wish I had done it sooner but I recognise now that everything had to happen the way it did for me to truly appreciate where I am today.

It’s never too late.  If you’ve been crying out to God for help and direction and have not seen improvements in your life maybe, just maybe you’re not looking close enough to the answers or signs he has given you to get you where you need to be.

God gives us signs we just need to open ourselves up to seeing and receiving them.

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You’ve made it this far. You are more blessed than you know. Just had to stop by and tell you so.  Don’t give up!

Thank you for stopping by.  Make today and the rest of the week a great one. 🙂

Top 30 Life Lessons

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Here is my list of Top 30 Life Lessons coupled with some Words of Wisdom that I’ve acquired along the way.

1. Trust your instincts.

2. Don’t believe everything you read or hear.

3. Be proactive rather than reactive.

4. Forgiveness is the start towards living a happier more productive life.

5. Procrastination is a proven method for going nowhere.  Keep doing it long enough and you may even forget where you were headed.

6. Relationships may come and go but we should never lose ourselves in the process.

7. Being healthy is not necessarily being a perfect size but rather the lifestyle choices we make to live better.

8. Being happy starts with us. We have more power and control over our own happiness than we think.  Starting with the negative people in our lives.

9. Our past experiences have helped to shape who we are today but they don’t define who we are.

10. “Family” is more than just blood relative.  It is a ‘call to action’ that few non-relatives would have gained the right to be called.

11. Not all parents are parents and not all parents can parent.  In some instances, their roles were simply to get us here.

12. Self-love is called self-love for reason, it must come from within.  No amount of feedback from those around you could make you feel for yourself what you don’t believe about  yourself.

13. We believe what we hear, so we need to be mindful of the information we feed and allow to be fed to us.

14. “Mistakes” are really lessons in disguise. So open your eyes and take from them the lessons being communicated to you.

15. The true beauty of something is not always found on the surface.  Sometimes we just have to dig deeper.  If you trust only your eyes to find beauty in life, there may be many beautiful people who you miss the opportunity to meet and know.

16. Love can be expressed through words and actions that bring joy and a smile to your life and heart.  Love never physically, emotionally or intentionally hurts you.

17. Being silent  and not communicating when we’re hurting inside emotionally doesn’t help ease the pain we feel. If anything, it temporarily masks it.

18. Life can be complicated at times but it can also be really simple.  It’s all about the lens from which we choose to view it from.

19. Prayer coupled with faith and belief is the most powerful, inexpensive weapon you can own.

20. We’re all imperfect creatures and that is what makes each of us special.  As a result, the only real expectation we need to live up to is our own no one else’s.

21. The success or failure of a relationship lies in the willingness of both parties to work through the issues to move forward.

22. Music is more than a cool way to pass the time.  It is a great stress reliever and can help improve your mood.

23. Children are the future and if we want a brighter future we need to be mindful of the influence our behaviour and words have on their lives.

24. The earth is our home and if we don’t take better care of it how can we expect it to take care of us.

25. The cloud that seems to be hovering over your life is a passing cloud.  The sun will come out and you will see your way again. It happened for me and it can happen for you. 🙂

26. Laugh as much as you can. Don’t take everything so serious all of the time.

27. We can’t control everything but we can control some things. Do what you can, where you can as best as you can.

28. It’s not what we say but how we say it so think before you speak.

29. One of the most precious gifts we have in this life is time, use it wisely.

30. Lastly, we don’t have to be great at everything.

Feel free to add a life lesson below in comments. Thank you for stopping by.

Have a wonderful night.

One Day At A Time

Pleasant Good Morning to You All,

May this morning as the warm rays of the sun gently cover your body find each of  you full of life with a sense of purpose and peace as you go through your day.  May your disruptions be few and may you always have clarity of mind and spirit to overcome any obstacle or challenge that may come your way.  In Jesus name, Amen!

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One day at a time is how we learn and grow.  This is true for all of us.  From birth straight through to our adult lives and this is not limited only to our ability to move but our intellect and spirituality as well.

The thing is, no one person has ALL of the answers and those persons who have words of wisdom to share with others would have developed them from over years of learning from their own life lessons.

Each day will bring with it opportunities for growth, understanding and challenges which ultimately add up to lessons which help shape and develop us as individuals. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it right the first time or the even the second time.

When the situation seems bigger than YOURSELF and you can’t seem to find a way to overcome it. Pray for clarity of mind,  ask for God’s guidance and he WILL provide the answer.  You just have to listen not only with your ears but your eyes, heart and spirit.  Worrying and stressing about it will only cloud and block your ability to see and receive the very answers you are searching for.

So dear friends remember, take it one day at a time. Embrace each day as a potential lesson to be learnt. Be sure to apply a positive attitude as this would help to make your  journey much easier as you learn and grow along the way.

Make today a wonderful one.  Thank you for stopping by.

Break Free

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Break Free from doubt.

Break Free from fear.

Break Free from negativity.

Break Free from debt.

Break Free from sickness.

Break Free from pain.

Break Free from addiction.

Break Free from confusion.

Break Free from worry and stress.

Break Free from poor decisions.

Break Free from weaknesses.

Break Free from poverty.

Break Free from past mistakes.

Break Free from guilt and shame.

Break Free from old routines and habits.

Break Free from your enemies.

Break Free and know that WE are BIGGER than OUR circumstances.

Break Free and understand that the POWER to change and improve OUR lives starts with US.

Break Free and prosper.

Break Free and claim peace of mind.

Break Free and experience happiness and love.

Break Free and see your life in a new way.

Break Free and nurture your strength of mind, body and spirit.

Break Free and go into this new day full of PURPOSE and a NEW understanding.

May the spirit of the Lord show us the way.

Give us the courage, wisdom, guidance and strength to see this process through.

Break Free, Break Free, Break Free.

 

Walk into this new day with your head up as we believe and work on our breakthroughs one day at a time. You are not alone!  Trust and believe that you WILL overcome each and every obstacle in your life. In the name of Jesus, AMEN!

Have a blessed day friends. Thank you for stopping by.

Disappointments are blessings in disguise

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I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.

What do I mean byblessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life.   It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life;  achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.

God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows what is best for us and more importantly when to bless us with the things that we need and want.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.

God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.

However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us –  I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us.  Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.

In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.

Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:

  1. When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it!  Don’t delay and keep putting it off.  You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
  2. Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for.  When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
  3. Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
  4. Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives.  It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
  5. Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil.  Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
  6. God knows the things we struggle with even before we do.    He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere.  We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
  7. God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear.   Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
  8. It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
  9. Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
  10. We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.

What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now?     What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.

If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone.   Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be.  Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing. 

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Thanks for stopping. 🙂

 

 

 

Who’s directing your steps?

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It’s a constant struggle at times to keep my bearings
He tries to control me because he gave me this ring
and these diamond earrings
I can hardly remember what I was like before we met

Some say full of life before I became his wife
I look in the mirror and all I see is my silhouette
How much did I allow myself to forget?

Always flexing and changing, never doing my own thing
In an effort to please him, I hide how much I’m hurting
Maybe it’s me, always trying to be ‘me’
I never thought our ‘unity’ meant losing my identity
His fight for control is unhealthy I’m told

He is my husband should I not do what I’m told
He says,” I am the potter and you are the clay
I am going to mold you and you’ll thank me one day.”

I hide to talk to my friends and family
For if he knew, he would be most unhappy
I feel so alone in this prison I call home
So I pray and I pray that God will show me the way
The blind leading the blind no more, no way.

God wants me to be happy and he wants me to know his love
This abuse will not continue!” declared my Lord above
My home-made prison is now a home filled with love
My controlling husband is now a peaceful dove

Thank you Heavenly Father
For answering my prayer from up above.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

This is not my reality.  However, there are women out there in situations similar and some even worse.  I was inspired to write this for them.  Abusive relationships of any type are unacceptable.   Pray and talk to God about your challenges and ask for guidance.