The Truth about Stubbornness

Hear Nothing, See Nothing, Do Not Speak

Stubbornness is an unwillingness to change one’s attitude or position on something, even when the alternative is better.

Is there an upside to stubbornness? Not really but then again it depends on who you ask and where you fall in the equation.  Let’s take a look.

UPSIDE  to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. You get to stay exactly as you ARE  because you already KNOW the answers to everything.
  2. You automatically ‘win’ every disagreement because no one with a true understanding of the situation would expel much energy or effort trying to convince you otherwise.
  3. You don’t have to accept change.  Your way is the best way and there is nobody out there that can tell you different.

 

DOWNSIDE to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. Limits your growth not only in knowledge but also experiences.
  2. Makes accepting and implementing change difficult because you’re so stuck in your own ways.
  3. People tend to avoid any meaningful exchanges with you because they don’t want to end up in an argument.
  4. Blocks and limits understanding because of your unwillingness to show  understanding towards others.
  5. Hinders progress not only for yourself but others especially if you are in a position of power.
  6. It is a selfish way of interacting with the world around you.

There will always be someone out there with a different perspective, new ideas and concepts that challenge or may even improve our current way of doings things.   We don’t have to like or agree with everything that is shared with us but we should at least respect the fact that a contribution is being made and do the right thing and that is – to genuinely hear them out.

Open-mindedness should not be what we expect of others when it comes to our beliefs and opinions especially when we ourselves may be closed-minded to what others have to say. 

Stubbornness that blocks and disregards the opinions, thoughts and feelings of others is a building block to nowhere.

 

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a great day!

 

What’s Up Wednesdays #12

Hello and welcome back to What’s Up Wednesdays! 🙂

How have you guys been?  What have you been up to?  I’ve been relaxing for the last 4 days and I’ll share more of that retreat with you today so let’s get into it.

What I’m eating this week:

I’ll be honest with you, this morning for breakfast I had a cup of tea with 2 slices of Hawaiian leftover pizza from Pizza Hut.  Yes, that’s right.  I said pizza for breakfast.

For lunch I had a burger from Burger King and for dinner tonight I had two Chinese Veggie Spring Rolls.  I know what you’re thinking, too much junk food and you are so right.  I promise to do better.

What I’m reminiscing about: 

      

      

Some of the pleasant memories from my stay at the Salybia Nature Resort and Spa.

What I’m loving:

Gearing up for part 2 of the experience I’ve planned for the family.  Tomorrow we’re off again to another mini-vacation getaway on the island.  I’ll take pics and share with you upon my return next week.

What I’ve been up to:

Rest! Rest! Rest!

What I’m dreading:

The flu! 🙁  Yesterday, I was not feeling so well and this morning I woke up with flu symptoms – sneezing, stuffy nose, congestion and watery eyes just to name a few.  This is awful because I feel miserable and sick.  It might even be allergies either way terrible timing. Thankfully, I have been medicating and trying to rest.  I’m hoping and praying for a speedy recovery.

What I’m working on:

Not a damn thing! I’m honestly trying to just enjoy my vacation time with the kids while I can before the other home improvement project starts next week.

What I’m excited about:

Seeing the projects we’ve set out to do get completed one at a time. It is such a good feeling to finally see these things get done.  They were long overdue. No more procrastination or delay.

What I’m watching:

I’m pleased to report that I have started Season 2 of Orphan Black and I’ve completed episodes 1 to 5. I can’t wait to see the rest. I’m hoping to finish the rest of season 2 before I leave tomorrow.  Wishful thinking. 😉

Who/ What I’m listening to:

Shape of You – by Ed Sheeran

What I’m wearing/ Let’s Go Shopping:

Check out some of the accessories I stumbled upon at Aliexpress.com.  They have a wide variety for both men and women even some unisex pieces.

Earrings:

a.   b.   c.    d.

Rings and Necklaces:

a.   b.   c.   d.   e.

What I’m doing this weekend:

Enjoying relaxation time while creating fun memories with loved ones. 🙂

What I’m looking forward to the next month:

My birthday! 🙂

What else is new?

My car.  It was time for an upgrade.  I have not forsaken the old for the new.  I plan on having some restoration work done on the Corolla or maybe sell for the right price. We’ll see how it goes.

Sorry guys but there will be no Health and Wellness post this Friday. Family time.  I will definitely post next week Friday. That’s all for now.

Stay blessed and not stressed.

Thanks for stopping by and your continued support. 🙂 Have a great night.

What’s Up Wednesdays #11

Pleasant greetings to you all on this Wednesday night.  I’ve been so preoccupied for the last few days that I literally have to stay up and unwind via my blog so that mentally I can get to sleep more peacefully.

This week on What’s Up Wednesdays I’m going to keep it short and sweet. I have just finished packing my suitcase for our relaxation and fun adventure as a family at a resort in Trinidad.  It’s the first time we staying there so we’re all anxious.  I for one I’m tired but I can’t leave you guys without an update.

So please excuse my summarized version.

What I’m eating this week:

For dinner, I kept it really simple and had Chinese food – noodles, chunky vegetables and Chinese style chicken.   Unfortunately, this chef did not prepare my dinner.  I wonder if it would have tasted better if he did. 🙂

What I’m reminiscing about: 

At the moment, nothing!  I’m too focused on the future. 🙂

What I’m loving:

I’m happy to say that roughly 60% of my home improvement projects have been completed thus far. The contractors we hired came highly recommended and I’m pleased to say they did not disappoint and were worth every penny. I’m praying for similar results from the next contractor who should hopefully be starting when I get back.  Keeping my fingers crossed and saying my prayers. 🙂

What I’ve been up to:

Being the appointed Project Manager of my home improvement project I’ve been busy liaising, negotiating and supervising contractors to make sure the different projects got completed on time and to a high standard.  It had some challenging moments like cleaning up, reorganizing and the noise but that was the extra price we paid for progress. 🙂

What I’m dreading:

This stress induced acne.  Yes, since all of talk of the impending projects I noticed my skin started flaring up which is not the norm for me.  I’m taking care of my skin (cleanse, tone and moisturize) and trusting that it would calm down as soon as I do so say a prayer for me.  Thanks in advance. 🙂

What I’m working on:

Seriously, packing my bags and getting out of here. 🙂

What I’m excited about:

Getting to mentally and physically unwind. 🙂

What I’m watching:

I’ll be honest with you, the Koala has not moved from the sleeping position in the tree since you saw it last week.  Don’t worry it’s not dead just very tired.  Sorry to report that my television viewing days is at a stand still at the moment.  I literally just run errands, supervise the workmen, tidy my house, eat, bathe and sleep after trying to squeeze in a few posts when I can.

Who/ What I’m listening to:

After my long days I need music. Tonight I’m listening to Bamboleo by Gipsy Kings.

What I’m wearing/ Let’s Go Shopping:

Tonight, we’re going shopping for swimsuits. Here are a few of my picks from Swimoutlet.com.

a. b.   c.   d.

a. Becca Swim No Strings Attached High Leg One Piece

b. Gottex Embrace Surplice One Piece

c. Trina Turk Studio V=Plunge One Piece

d. Trina Turk Midnight Paradise Flutter Sleeve One Piece

What I’m doing this weekend:

Spending some relaxation time with the family.  So I would not be posting Health and Wellness Friday this week.  I should be back and posting again by Monday.  Hope you understand. The body needs what it needs and I have every intention of complying. 🙂

Okay so I’m feeling really sleepy now. So I’m going to cut it short. Much love you guys.  Thanks for supporting my blog, reading and commenting.  I really do appreciate it.

Until next week stay blessed not stressed. I look forward to catching up with you guys next week. Bye for now.

Don’t let your PAIN hinder your GROWTH

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Everything happens for a reason both the good and the bad. Some people come into your life to build you up while others try to break you down.  Every encounter has a purpose ultimately it is up to you to use it to make you better, stronger and wiser.

How many of you can say that you’ve never been hurt emotionally, physically or psychologically by another human being?  I’ve been hurt and I don’t feel bad acknowledging this because even Jesus had his share of hurt, pain and disappointments.

How many of you can say that when you were hurt that it did not negatively affect you?   Whenever, I feel hurt sometimes it affects my mood, my appetite and even my interactions with others. The fact is, we all react to pain differently but we all react nonetheless. 

PAIN is a part of life.  There is no way we would be able to go through this life and have everything and everyone in our lives be perfect 24/7.  It is unrealistic because life itself is unpredictable.  We have to learn to handle our pain and emotions in a manner that does not leave us feeling defeated, helpless and broken.

The circumstance may have labelled you the “victim” but you can determine if you accept or reject that label. Take a note of the following, DON’T LET YOUR PAIN… 

  1. STEAL YOUR FUTURE.
  2. HOLD YOU BACK IN LIFE.
  3. PARALYZE YOU.
  4. KEEP YOU STUCK.
  5. FEED YOU EXCUSES FOR STAYING WHERE YOU ARE.
  6. BLIND YOU FROM YOUR TRUTH.
  7. DENY YOU JOY AND HAPPINESS.
  8. SHUT THE PEOPLE OUT WHO REALLY LOVE AND CARE FOR YOU.
  9. SMOTHER YOU ANYMORE.
  10. CONTROL YOUR LIFE.

Some facts I thought you should know:

  1. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND THAT’S OKAY. NO ONE IS!
  2. YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR CIRCUMSTANCE – SO DON’T JUST SIT BACK AND ACCEPT THAT’S HOW IT IS.
  3. YOUR FUTURE IS ULTIMATELY UP TO YOU. 
  4. USE THE PAIN TO YOUR ADVANTAGE – LEARN FROM IT – GROW WISER AND STRONGER. 
  5. PAIN IS NOT OUR WEAKNESS. IT JUST MEANS WE ARE HUMAN.
  6. DON’T GIVE UP.

Time for the healing to begin. Find your purpose.  You were not put on this earth to be mediocre and unhappy.  You have a purpose and you have to find it.  Don’t let your pain stop your growth or keep you stuck in a rot.

Over the years with every situation I realized there was a lesson to be learnt. Not only about the people involved in it but about myself as well.  Ask yourself what is the ‘lesson’ to be learnt from this experience?  What good can you take from these lessons? Find it, so you can move forward.

You’ve made it this far!