The Truth about Stubbornness

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Stubbornness is an unwillingness to change one’s attitude or position on something, even when the alternative is better.

Is there an upside to stubbornness? Not really but then again it depends on who you ask and where you fall in the equation.  Let’s take a look.

UPSIDE  to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. You get to stay exactly as you ARE  because you already KNOW the answers to everything.
  2. You automatically ‘win’ every disagreement because no one with a true understanding of the situation would expel much energy or effort trying to convince you otherwise.
  3. You don’t have to accept change.  Your way is the best way and there is nobody out there that can tell you different.

 

DOWNSIDE to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. Limits your growth not only in knowledge but also experiences.
  2. Makes accepting and implementing change difficult because you’re so stuck in your own ways.
  3. People tend to avoid any meaningful exchanges with you because they don’t want to end up in an argument.
  4. Blocks and limits understanding because of your unwillingness to show  understanding towards others.
  5. Hinders progress not only for yourself but others especially if you are in a position of power.
  6. It is a selfish way of interacting with the world around you.

There will always be someone out there with a different perspective, new ideas and concepts that challenge or may even improve our current way of doings things.   We don’t have to like or agree with everything that is shared with us but we should at least respect the fact that a contribution is being made and do the right thing and that is – to genuinely hear them out.

Open-mindedness should not be what we expect of others when it comes to our beliefs and opinions especially when we ourselves may be closed-minded to what others have to say. 

Stubbornness that blocks and disregards the opinions, thoughts and feelings of others is a building block to nowhere.

 

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a great day!

 

A Storm is Brewing

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A storm is brewing and I can feel it

I know its coming even though I can’t see it

Your intentions are clear and it’s just to cause despair

We both know deep down you don’t truly care

 

A storm is brewing

And as the darkness fills your head

I hope you know your actions you’ll someday dread

The games you play will catch up with you one day

There’s no excuse and you can’t call a truce

For with all of your internal turmoil

Your own plans you will foil

 

I refuse to return to the old days

No more manipulation and stringing’ me along 

So keep your distance

I have a new found persistence

Brighter days are ahead

So it’s time for us to put this issue to bed

 

A storm is brewing

As you attempt to disturb my peace and joy

These lives you will not destroy like some kind of toy

I’ll secure all that is near and dear to me

And trust in the Lord to deliver me

A sweet victory.

 

 

We all face various storms in our lives and I’m here to tell you that you CAN overcome them.  Don’t let despair and fear keep you from claiming what is truly yours. Stand up for yourself and believe that YOU ARE WORTHY of HAPPINESS and PEACE OF MIND.

Thanks for stopping by.  Have a great night. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

There’s stillness in the air

There’s stillness in the air

I try to act like I don’t care

Maybe it’s this, maybe it’s that

These are the thoughts I keep playing back

 

There’s a stillness in the air

No phone calls, no emails, no Whatsapp, no details!

When did this friendship train derail?

Have I been so caught up in me?

Too blinded by my life to see

You were quietly slipping away from me

 

There’s a stillness in the air

It’s hard pretending not to care

After all, there’s a special place in my heart for you my dear

I do hope all is well

And that life for you is pretty swell

 

I’m sorry I’ve been so scarce

Life on my side has been good but fierce

Thankfully I’ve made it through

And I’m writing hoping you have too.

 

Have a wonderful night and thanks for stopping by.

Top 20 Life Lessons

I’m back! My short but sweet stay in Miami was great.  I stayed at the Courtyard Marriott Downtown Brickell area.  The hotel, my room, the staff and the food were all great.  The shopping was also good.  It was just what the doctor ordered. 🙂

It feels so good to be back home with my family and blogging again.  I’ve missed you guys.

                

My birthday celebrations could not have been better.  I spent it with the people I love and I know love me so much.   I am now 37.  🙂  I am truly blessed and grateful to have made it this far.

I pray and trust that the good Lord will continue to bless me with good health, strength, wisdom, understanding, patience, resources and the people needed to do all he requires me to do.

There is no question that I have a supportive and loving group of people and I thank God for them everyday.  May they also be blessed with all they need.    Over the years I’ve learnt so much.

Here are my Top 20 lessons:

  1. Trust and believe in God with all your heart (this has worked for me and it can work for you too)
  2. Value the people who value you
  3. Appreciate the people who appreciate you
  4. Say thank you
  5. Say how you feel
  6. Show your love for others
  7. Show love to yourself
  8. Believe in yourself
  9. Practice patience (easier said than done sometimes but it is necessary)
  10. Don’t let the fear of failing keep you from trying
  11. People will disappoint us from time to time but we should not give up on everyone as a result
  12. Think things through.
  13. Avoid doing and saying things out of anger and haste
  14. It’s important to review our relationships and the impact they have on us be it positive or negative and do something about it.
  15. Don’t stress the small stuff.
  16. Don’t create unrealistic expectations for yourself or others.
  17. We all make mistakes and fall short sometimes.  Learn from the experiences and move forward.
  18. Respect, trust and integrity are priceless.
  19. Be yourself, pretending to be someone you’re not will only hinder your growth and true happiness.
  20. Happiness starts with you – your thoughts, your attitude and your words.

Once we have life we have an opportunity to learn each day.  Not all lessons can be learnt from a textbook.  Open your eyes, minds, ears and hearts and you’ll see what I mean. 🙂

Thanks for stopping by.  Have a wonderful day!

 

The Games We Play

The games we play

When we don’t know what to say

Other than the truth because

We often let our fears get in the way

 

The games we play

When we know how we feel

But let the complexities of life

Build and foster within us unnecessary strife

 

The games we play

As we pretend to others and within ourselves

That what is going on around us has no affect

When the truth is, it is making our hearts bleed

 

The games we play

When we let our selfishness get in the way

We don’t take the emotions of others into play

Causing fractures in our relationships

That sometimes lead to the sinking of the ship

 

Should you decide to play games

With the emotions of others

Don’t say I didn’t warn you

So be true to yourself and don’t do to others

What you don’t want done unto you.

 

Thanks for stopping by. Make today a great one!

Love the way you want to be loved

What does it truly mean to love?

For some this means that you love them NO MATTER what they do or say.

For others it means that you support and encourage them and you NEVER doing anything to hurt them.

For me, to love means accepting and embracing the other person’s differences and unique qualities the way I would expect them to accept my own.  It involves looking beyond the surface to their core to where the real beauty and treasure of that person is hidden.

Love can …

  • Make you say, “you messed up but we can overcome this.”
  • Force you to act or speak up if the person you love is going down a negative path.
  • Trigger an intervention because you refuse to give up on the one you love.
  • Expose a different side to you – that you did not know existed. This can be sometimes good or not so good. Sometimes you discover you’re more fun, outgoing, adventurous, forgiving, understanding, compassionate, jealous, possessive, romantic and so much more.
  • Give you a reason to continue.
  • Be a motivator.
  • Be a place of strength or weakness.

Love can be a source of many things but it should never be taken for granted. We should never take someone’s love for us and abuse it or misuse it and expect that person to still feel the same way about us indefinitely.  The human heart and mind can take only so much.  Some of us are more resilient than others when it comes to such things as matters of the heart.

Every situation is different but for love to flourish and grow like a plant it needs to be nurtured.

To love is a choice and to sustain it we have to nurture it.  

My advice to you is love the way you want to be loved

Thanks for stopping by.

 

 

Oil and Water

We’re like oil and water,

We don’t mix

No matter how hard we try

There’s just no fix

Round and round we go

Unable to sustain any type of meaningful flow

My smile is gone and I’ve lost my glow

I think it’s time for you to go

I’ve waited too long this much I know

…………………………………………………………..

Time for me to accept

That this path I must reject

Because life is about living

And with you it feels so draining

That my head is always spinning

And it is clear no one is winning

……………………………………………………

So it’s best that we separate

Before I evaporate.