Health and Wellness Fridays: Importance of Moving Forward

Welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!

Today we’re going to be looking at the importance of being able to move forward.

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More often than not, we can sometimes find ourselves getting distracted and discouraged by what we’re not doing right.  It’s normal to be disappointed when we fail or fall short.  However, holding on to the disappointment long after is unhealthy. Other times, we may allow the opinions and views of others to eat away at us resulting in the accumulation of anger, self-doubt, guilt, sadness and sometimes depression.

Constantly holding on to things emotionally can make us sick over time as it could have us feeling stressed out and overwhelmed.  Some symptoms we might suffer from include: constant headaches, loss of appetite, feeling constantly fatigued, some people may over eat to compensate, while others may even experience hair loss.

Not choosing to move forward has a cost.  Peace of mind, happiness and your health.

The thing is, if we’re honest with ourselves, I think we could all agree that there are areas in our lives that we can improve on no matter how physically healthy we may appear to be.  The truth is, we should be more focused on finishing the ‘work’ needed on and in ourselves rather than pointing fingers at each other.  I think if we can do this, then we all would be living healthier, happier lives.

How do we  move forward?

  1. LET GO of negativity.
  2. STOP comparing ourselves to other people.
  3. STOP beating ourselves up about who we are at this stage in our lives.
  4. TAKE responsibility for where we are right now. We got ourselves here but the good news is we CAN get ourselves better.
  5. MAKE the decision for ourselves to do better and STICK with it.
  6. FORGIVE ourselves for our weaknesses while working towards a better, brighter tomorrow.
  7. NEVER accept that our shortcomings or failures define us.  They are merely a manifestation of who we’ve been.  Tomorrow is a new day and we have a say in how we choose to participate in it.
  8. WORK on developing, improving and healing ourselves from the inside out.  Too often we get caught up thinking if I just lose the weight I’ll feel better.  If I just fix this or that about myself maybe I’ll feel better.  Look at the underlying causes or factors that have not been resolved emotionally and seek to address those areas. A flat stomach would make you look great on the beach but your heart would still be breaking inside.
  9. CHANGE our focus.  If we can adjust our thinking from ‘ I’m dieting to lose weight’ toI’m eating my way to a healthier life’ then we would not only maintain the changes we implement but enjoy them.’ It would not happen overnight but with the right attitude anything is possible.

Moving forward can be challenging but it is necessary for peace of mind, growth, your health and overall well-being.  I don’t know what your situations are but trust me moving forward is the only answer to finding happiness.

There are too many people in this world going through life unhappy and stuck in their emotions unable to truly enjoy their lives because they have not been able to move forward.  Take control of your life by taking control of your emotions not masking them but treating with them in a healthy manner.

My Prayer:

Heavenly Father, I come before You tonight to say thank you for another wonderful day.  Thank you that I am able to enjoy the simple pleasures of life that so many of us often take for granted.  Thank you for always providing for me and protecting me.  Thank you for loving me in moments when I don’t love myself.  Thank you for forgiving me for my shortcomings. 

As I go forward in my walk with You daily I pray that You help me to overcome the weak areas in my life that I struggle with.  I ask that You heal the parts of my heart that I try to ignore.  I ask that as I make a conscious effort to live better and be better that You would bring about positive change in my life, mind, body and spirit.  I receive your blessing in my life. In Jesus name. Amen.

Don’t base your happiness on being the ‘ideal’ weight. Your happiness is determined by your attitude towards life and the types of relationships you strive to have with others.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

Have a wonderful weekend.  See you next week. 🙂

Music Reflection Mondays : Heart and Happiness

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Beautiful Monday Morning to each of you!

I hope you made time this weekend to rest and enjoy some moments of time for yourselves.

Although my morning has started off cold and rainy I can feel in my heart that today and this week is going to be great not just for me but for ALL of us willing to not only see but receive God’s favour and blessings in our lives.

However, for us to receive God’s blessings in our lives we need to first take a closer look at what’s going on in our hearts.  I’m not referring to what is on the surface but what is deep within us that we often try to hide from ourselves and others.  The ‘real’ us under all the smiles and jokes.  The hurting us, that nobody sees. The longing us, that just wants to know and experience true love and happiness.

Many times we base our happiness on what our eyes can see and what we’ve been told. The truth is the key to happiness lies within our hearts.

With this in mind, my prayer for us today is that God creates within us a clean heart so that we can truly enjoy our lives not limited because of all the hurt, hate, sorrow, sadness and anger that so often consumes us stealing our joy and happiness.

Heavenly Father, we come humbly before You today to thank you for this new day that we are blessed to be a part of. We thank you for Your unwavering support, protection, guidance and mercy in our lives.  We thank you for Your love, grace, strength, wisdom and understanding. 

As we proceed to do ALL we have been called to do today and for the rest of the week we ask that You reveal to us the things within our hearts that are unpleasing to You.  We acknowledge that these feelings have been restricting us from receiving Your FULL blessing and favour in our lives. 

Help us to heal and remove whatever You reveal to us so that we can draw closer to You.  As You break and release us from these emotional constraints on our hearts may we find peace and joy within ourselves as we become the men and women You have called us to BE.  In Jesus name. Amen. 

We ARE BLESSED and HIGHLY FAVOURED.  Don’t you forget it! The sooner we realise and declare this can we experience the wonder that is all around us.  I am pleased to report that the rain has stopped and the birds have all come out to enjoy the brillant sunshine that has come out. 🙂

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Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

I leave you with these songs that would help lift your spirits as they have mine. Take time to listen to the lyrics. Enjoy.

Wonder by Hillsong United

How Can It Be by Lauren Daigle

O’Lord by Lauren Daigle

One Minute by Mary Mary

 

You’re not alone..

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There have been times in my life when I wished and even prayed for a simple answer to some of my problems that would clearly say, “Cherylene, do this or do that.”

There were also times when I didn’t feel like I would ever find the answers or my way out of some of the situations I found myself in.

I blamed everyone and everything for what was happening around me.  The bank, my ex, my family, the economy, work and ultimately life.  I honestly believed that the universe was just ganging up me and would not give me a break. The people around me didn’t seem to be faced with as many obstacles as I was and this made me angry and even a little resentful.  It is sad to say but I was not in a good place.

Everything just seemed to be falling a part.  Whenever I thought I had finally had a breakthrough something else would happen.   I was stressed out, frustrated and angry and one day I just hit my peak.  You know, the straw that broke the camel’s back kind of scenario.   I can tell you this now but I never told anyone else. Well, now the world will know but maybe this could help someone who is where I was.

I sat in my room and just started crying and crying like never before. I’m usually someone who holds her shit together and would just keep everything inside but this time was different.  This time I cried out to God because I realized that I was really angry with myself and God for ‘allowing’ me to get where I was.

I knew I could do better and be better but I just did not know how or where to start.  I  don’t know how long I sat there crying and just asking God why this was all happening to me and why he wouldn’t help me.

Then all of a sudden I felt a sense calm and peace fill me and my room.  I then heard a voice say, “You never asked for my help. You complain and complain about your problems but you never once asked me directly for my help.”

I sat there on my bed in shock and even doubting I heard anything because there was no one else around.  I was home alone just me, myself and I and yet I felt ashamed of myself.  I kneeled down beside my bed and prayed and ask God to forgive me.  I asked for his guidance and direction in and over every aspect of my life.

Over the next few days, months and years I learnt to stop complaining about what was not right in my life and learned to give praise and thanks for what was right.  I had to trust in God’s plan for my life and demonstrate that trust through my words and actions and not stress over the stuff I did not have the details for.

My life has changed and improved more than I thought possible  thanks to the favour and mercy of God in my life.  The good news is,  I know God is not done yet.     I had to make a conscious decision to change the way I was going about life – my thinking,  the words I would speak over my situations even some of the people I surrounded myself with. It was in no way easy but I see now that it was necessary.  I took that step of faith towards a new beginning and a better, happier life and I have no regrets.

I wish I had done it sooner but I recognise now that everything had to happen the way it did for me to truly appreciate where I am today.

It’s never too late.  If you’ve been crying out to God for help and direction and have not seen improvements in your life maybe, just maybe you’re not looking close enough to the answers or signs he has given you to get you where you need to be.

God gives us signs we just need to open ourselves up to seeing and receiving them.

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You’ve made it this far. You are more blessed than you know. Just had to stop by and tell you so.  Don’t give up!

Thank you for stopping by.  Make today and the rest of the week a great one. 🙂

Music Reflection – No More Tears

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Hello and Welcome back to “Music Reflection Mondays” unfortunately, I was too exhausted to post this yesterday hence I adjusted the title to post it today.  I hope that all is well with each of you.

Today, I would like to highlight some songs that helped me get through some tough moments in my life that I didn’t think I would get over but I have. 🙂 For those of you wondering if this post was triggered by a recent incident have no worries it wasn’t. I’m happy to report that all is well. 🙂

I was in the car listening to the radio when a couple of songs were played that took me back and they made me feel all sorts of emotions sad, happy and grateful all at the same time.   It was in these moments of reflection that made me realize just how much music has been a part of my life.

Some of the music gave me strength when I was weak, courage when I was afraid and comfort when I sad.   I can truly say that listening to the words of some of those songs helped speed up my healing process.

The music for me was never used to forget what happened but rather help me move past it.  If you listen to the right kind of music maybe, just maybe it can do the same for you too.

Some of my favourites old and new included:

My list can go on and on but I won’t. 🙂 Music feeds the soul and has the potential to  soothe the heart and mind as well.  Don’t let the pressures of life keep you down.  We’re all going through something so don’t give up, keep moving.

Have a wonderful night and a blessed.

Christmas Vibes

It’s that special time of year, when those you love draw near

There’s just something magical about the atmosphere

That no other season can compare

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Maybe it’s the music, maybe it’s the food

Maybe it’s the beautiful decorations that get us in the mood

The presence of family and friends

Laughter and cheer is more than enough to remind us who really care

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Christmas time though is not all Ho! Ho! Ho! Ho! for everyone

For some Christmas is just no fun 🙁

As it is a reminder of those who have gone

The memories can hit us like a powerful mist

Often so strong we spend countless days trying to dismiss

 

Christmas brings us together for a few days in December

But we should always remember

We never stop loving our loved ones because they aren’t here

For they will always be special and dear

 

So never despair

Cherish the people you still have here

And let’s commemorate those who can’t be there.

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Best wishes for the season.   Have a wonderful evening.

Thank you for stopping by.  🙂

Writing Prompt: You Were Meant To Know the Night

The below was my submission for the Writing Prompt Challenge : You were meant to know the night which was published on the BraveandRecklessblog.com . It was published there a few days so I can now officially share it with you guys. Hope you like it. 🙂

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I can feel the warmth of the sun

Going for a run all over my body

Its brilliant light can be seen from left and right

Pushing all the darkness out of sight

I can feel the sun and with it comes the promise of never-ending fun

But this is an illusion

 

As the daylight soon passes

It’s the night’s turn to give his classes

For those of us who prefer the sun

The night signals an end to the fun

For its now time to rest and this goes for even the best

 

Sulking as we each retreat for the night

Back to our homes we return like drones

To our mother’s warm embrace

Insisting that we wash our faces

We must admit we enjoyed those races 🙂

 

Our stomachs full

It’s time for bed

As mother gently kisses our foreheads

She whispers, “You were meant to know the night.

For although you could play all day,

The night is just a gentle way

Of saying leave some fun for another day.

Sweet dreams.”

 

Cherylene Nicholas

Breakthrough

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Can you feel the tightness in your chest?

It’s so intense it won’t let you rest

The hurt, the pain, the guilt and shame

Enough to drive anyone in insane

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You’ve been through a lot

Most of your life a melting pot

With different contributors along the way

You believed most of what they had to say

And now your happiness seems to just fade away

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Today is a new day and you’ll listen to what I have to say

This type of existence is diminishing your significance

That self-defeating attitude is drying up your gratitude

Blindly you from the truths you seek

That deep down you are FAR from weak

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Sure things have been rough

But you have survived them

Because you are TOUGH

It’s time for you to transition

So break free from this self-imposed prison

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With this new-found clarity

May you finally have prosperity

Happiness was never an illusion

You just lost sight of it in the confusion

So is today your breakthrough?

We won’t know until you walk through.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

Hope you are having a great day! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂