Success Starts with YOU

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 “Start With You” – every day we wake up let those three words be a reminder to us, that we are the main obstacles standing in our own way.  Of course, there are things outside of us that can hinder our progress but there are often bigger things going on inside of us that keeps pushing us ten steps backwards and they will continue until we address them.

The good news is, we’ve documented our proposed goals and aspirations and safely secured them for quick review from time to time.

However, making the list believe it or not was the easy part.  The changes we want and need in our lives ultimately start with usI’ve learnt over the years that many times when we fall short sometimes it is often due to some type of action or inaction on our part.

The words we’ve written will remain only words until we take action to change and improve the aspects of our lives that have been holding us back.   We have to give meaning and significance to what we say we want and be willing to do the work to see it achieved.

I’ve been standing in my own way for many years and it was only when I addressed certain aspects of my thinking, attitude and the words I spoke over my life did I experience the breakthrough I was praying for.

The saying, “what you put in is what you get out” is very true. We have to align our attitudes, words, thoughts and actions with the pictures we have envisioned for ourselves.

So check yourself each day and ask yourself, “Am I thinking, saying and doing what is needed for me to get the results I claim to want?”  If your answer, is “No or Not really” don’t get discouraged take immediate steps to align those areas that may be holding you back.

For 2018 to be everything we need and more, we need to accept responsibility for ourselves and more importantly be accountable.  Our successes and failures ultimately – start with us!

In closing, I want to declare that 2018 is going to be a year of prosperity, growth, healing and transformation in our lives.  It’s time for us to step up and actively pursue those goals and dreams that we have allowed to elude us for so long.

My question to you is, how bad do you want it?

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As always, thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life. 🙂

How you see yourself is ALL that matters

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What do you see when you look in the mirror – someone who is strong, handsome, beautiful, sexy, confident and well-rounded or do you only see imperfection after imperfection?

“Maybe if I wasn’t fat; maybe if I wasn’t so thin; maybe if I wasn’t so short or tall; maybe if I didn’t have this acne on my skin I would be so much more appealing. People would probably find me good looking or attractive.”  For each of us the “maybe if…” would be different and sometimes it may have common elements.

Let’s face the facts, “nobody is perfect.”   However, that does not make our insecurities about ourselves go away.  If anything, I think sometimes it could make us feel even more messed up because when the shoe is on your foot and it’s tight you’re the one feeling the squeeze.

We all have bad days.   Those days when you’re not looking or feeling your best.   Sometimes it is self-inflicted other times it could be from external factors.  Maybe you’re struggling with something and you feel very self-conscious about it and the people in your life are giving you a hard time.

I know what that is like and I know how discouraging it can be when you are not happy or satisfied with how you look.  Beating yourself up about it is not going to make you feel or look any better.  So, what do you do? I suggest taking action.   Staying inside and avoiding people is not the answer.  I know you wish it were that simple.  🙂

Ask yourself,  what am I willing to do to improve and feel better?

  1. If you have acne prone skin, look for healthy and safe ways to improve it. I know there are a lot of products out there on the market so it can be overwhelming.  You may have to adjust your diet, maybe create a daily skin care routine, maybe go back to basics and use all natural items like aloe vera, apple cider and honey just to name a few until you find something that works for you. Don’t give up!
  2. If you want to lose some weight you’re going to have to put in some work.   A change in your diet maybe necessary and even some form of exercise.  Is that really so bad?  If we really want to be our best selves shouldn’t we do what is necessary to get our health and bodies in better shape.
  3. Don’t let you mood keep you from being happy.  There are days when I just don’t feel like putting that much effort into how I look.  I’ve realised that doing the exact opposite actually helps improve my mood.  So I would put on a little makeup and style my hair and this simple act changes my mood and my attitude. If you’re not into all of that maybe you could wear a really nice dress, or a cute pair of shoes or a suit.

At the end of the day, looking at ourselves in the mirror and being negative about what we see does not change anything.  In fact, what we are really doing is keeping ourselves stuck when we should be actively pursuing ways to improve and better ourselves for no one else other than ourselves.

So be mindful of the people in your life that you allow to influence your thoughts and feelings especially if they are constantly negative.  Take control of the messages you feed yourself – as this can create the doorway for other people’s negativity in your life.

Instead try to foster within yourself a positive and healthy perspective by using words and doing things that uplift, motivate and encourage you to be better. We live in a world where we are taught to value what other people think of us more than how we see of ourselves.

The only view that’s truly important is, how YOU view yourself.

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

Healthy is not a number but a lifestyle

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As women it seems our weight is always an issue not only for ourselves but more so for those around us.   We’re either too big or too thin.  If we’re in the middle, we need to tone up.  Everybody has their own idea as what sexy and beautiful should look like and wonder why we’re not trying to get with the programme.

Some of us have come to terms with our bodies and our differences and have chosen to tell such people “to piss off or mind your own business”.  Nobody likes to be constantly compared or reminded that they don’t match the world’s ideal body type.  We’re all different and we should embrace our differences regardless of whether we’re a XS, S, M, L,  XL, XXL, XXXL or higher.

I’m not totally satisfied with my weight and I’ve procrastinated about doing something about it.  The decision to do something about it comes from my discomfort about how I feel at times.  Oh yes, I have my noise makers who so freely point out that I’m not as small as I used to be but I try not to let their words bother me.  I often have to point out that they too have much-needed work to be done in their own lives and suggest they focus on getting their own act together. Amen! 🙂

My goal is not to make myself pleasing or more pleasing for others but rather to get healthier because it is in my best interest to do so.  If my getting healthier through improving my eating habits and getting more active results in some weight loss and dropping a few inches here and there and better health overall – then great!

I found in the past that I just lacked the drive to actually follow through with the workout routines and diets.  It’s hard to lose weight on your own unless you have a strong will. Now with a change in my attitude and a different outlook on life I have come up with the following for 2017.

I made the following promises to myself:

1. I’m going to focus on getting healthier such as eating and juicing more fruits and vegetables.

2. I’m going to start slow and not be too drastic in my eating decisions. Be realistic.

3. I’m going to follow through with this and I’m not going to give up.

4. I’m going to stop making excuses.

5. Try and recruit other people interested in achieving the same goals.  This way we are able to support and motivate each other.

6. Get more active. Go walking, jogging, running, climbing stairs, dancing, buy some weights or maybe even a bike. Either way, I need to be doing more than I’m doing now.

7. I’m not going to let other people’s negativity impact on how I see and feel about myself.

So let’s forget about our weight and focus on being healthy. Let’s do things that help our bodies not hurt them. Ultimately, it’s about balance, moderation and self-control.

I am making a promise to love myself more by taking better care of my body inside and out.  Do you love yourself enough to make those tough decisions?

 

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