Success Starts with YOU

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 “Start With You” – every day we wake up let those three words be a reminder to us, that we are the main obstacles standing in our own way.  Of course, there are things outside of us that can hinder our progress but there are often bigger things going on inside of us that keeps pushing us ten steps backwards and they will continue until we address them.

The good news is, we’ve documented our proposed goals and aspirations and safely secured them for quick review from time to time.

However, making the list believe it or not was the easy part.  The changes we want and need in our lives ultimately start with usI’ve learnt over the years that many times when we fall short sometimes it is often due to some type of action or inaction on our part.

The words we’ve written will remain only words until we take action to change and improve the aspects of our lives that have been holding us back.   We have to give meaning and significance to what we say we want and be willing to do the work to see it achieved.

I’ve been standing in my own way for many years and it was only when I addressed certain aspects of my thinking, attitude and the words I spoke over my life did I experience the breakthrough I was praying for.

The saying, “what you put in is what you get out” is very true. We have to align our attitudes, words, thoughts and actions with the pictures we have envisioned for ourselves.

So check yourself each day and ask yourself, “Am I thinking, saying and doing what is needed for me to get the results I claim to want?”  If your answer, is “No or Not really” don’t get discouraged take immediate steps to align those areas that may be holding you back.

For 2018 to be everything we need and more, we need to accept responsibility for ourselves and more importantly be accountable.  Our successes and failures ultimately – start with us!

In closing, I want to declare that 2018 is going to be a year of prosperity, growth, healing and transformation in our lives.  It’s time for us to step up and actively pursue those goals and dreams that we have allowed to elude us for so long.

My question to you is, how bad do you want it?

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As always, thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life. 🙂

Dig Deeper

So what, if they don’t like you!

So what, if they don’t think you fit in!

So what, if they have negative things to say!

SHAKE IT OFF!!!!!!!! SHAKE IT OFF!!!!!

Reality check, the likelihood of every single person you meet liking you is slim.

‘Fitting in’ to any group if it is where you’re meant to be should happen naturally and should not require you to become someone you’re not.  It’s nice to be liked by others but it’s more important that we love who we are first.

We all have our preferences and that’s okay.   Why should we change who we are, what we’re all about for people to think we’re cool and worth knowing.  The truth is, they are the ones losing out.

As for any negativity that may come don’t pay it any attention.  You are none of those things so don’t even give it a second thought.    The fact that they are making time to sit down and talk about you means you have more going on for you than they do, clearly.  The haters are going to hate, that’s what they do!

Don’t allow anyone to steal your joy. Keep your head up, stay positive and make each day about you doing something good for you and someone else.  Share the love. 🙂

You are who you need to be.  Embrace it, explore it, develop it and love it! 🙂

If you ever feel the need to make improvements to any aspect of your being – (physical, spiritual or psychological) do it because you want to not because you want to please or satisfy anyone else.

Sometimes we just need to hear that we are good enough just the way we are.

Have a great weekend!

Be No One Else But You

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You have the power

You have the strength

You have the courage

You have the attitude

You have the life

To be anyone you want

So why be anyone else but YOU!

 

We’re all unique and beautifully made.  Never let another human being make you feel less than or not good enough but YOU ARE AWESOME!

Reflections

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When you look into the mirror

Beyond your smile and the blank stare in your eyes

Are you someone who is happy?

Or someone who is pretending to be?

Your face sometimes depicting an image

That is so far from your reality

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As the tug of war on your emotions, play out mentally

Often conflicting, with who you are meant to be

Denial you accept, almost peacefully

Now don’t get cross with me

For merely questioning a possibility

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I am in no way suggesting

That you walk around manifesting,

Everything you’re feeling

I’m was just simply asking

How you treat with what you’re truly thinking and feeling?

Because pretending and masquerading

Will only hinder your healing

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Your happiness is important!

Don’t label it insignificant,

Make it your business!

To chip away at any bitterness,

One day at a time,

So your happiness can truly shine.

 

 

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

 

How you see yourself is ALL that matters

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What do you see when you look in the mirror – someone who is strong, handsome, beautiful, sexy, confident and well-rounded or do you only see imperfection after imperfection?

“Maybe if I wasn’t fat; maybe if I wasn’t so thin; maybe if I wasn’t so short or tall; maybe if I didn’t have this acne on my skin I would be so much more appealing. People would probably find me good looking or attractive.”  For each of us the “maybe if…” would be different and sometimes it may have common elements.

Let’s face the facts, “nobody is perfect.”   However, that does not make our insecurities about ourselves go away.  If anything, I think sometimes it could make us feel even more messed up because when the shoe is on your foot and it’s tight you’re the one feeling the squeeze.

We all have bad days.   Those days when you’re not looking or feeling your best.   Sometimes it is self-inflicted other times it could be from external factors.  Maybe you’re struggling with something and you feel very self-conscious about it and the people in your life are giving you a hard time.

I know what that is like and I know how discouraging it can be when you are not happy or satisfied with how you look.  Beating yourself up about it is not going to make you feel or look any better.  So, what do you do? I suggest taking action.   Staying inside and avoiding people is not the answer.  I know you wish it were that simple.  🙂

Ask yourself,  what am I willing to do to improve and feel better?

  1. If you have acne prone skin, look for healthy and safe ways to improve it. I know there are a lot of products out there on the market so it can be overwhelming.  You may have to adjust your diet, maybe create a daily skin care routine, maybe go back to basics and use all natural items like aloe vera, apple cider and honey just to name a few until you find something that works for you. Don’t give up!
  2. If you want to lose some weight you’re going to have to put in some work.   A change in your diet maybe necessary and even some form of exercise.  Is that really so bad?  If we really want to be our best selves shouldn’t we do what is necessary to get our health and bodies in better shape.
  3. Don’t let you mood keep you from being happy.  There are days when I just don’t feel like putting that much effort into how I look.  I’ve realised that doing the exact opposite actually helps improve my mood.  So I would put on a little makeup and style my hair and this simple act changes my mood and my attitude. If you’re not into all of that maybe you could wear a really nice dress, or a cute pair of shoes or a suit.

At the end of the day, looking at ourselves in the mirror and being negative about what we see does not change anything.  In fact, what we are really doing is keeping ourselves stuck when we should be actively pursuing ways to improve and better ourselves for no one else other than ourselves.

So be mindful of the people in your life that you allow to influence your thoughts and feelings especially if they are constantly negative.  Take control of the messages you feed yourself – as this can create the doorway for other people’s negativity in your life.

Instead try to foster within yourself a positive and healthy perspective by using words and doing things that uplift, motivate and encourage you to be better. We live in a world where we are taught to value what other people think of us more than how we see of ourselves.

The only view that’s truly important is, how YOU view yourself.

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂