Health and Wellness Fridays – Honesty

Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Today, I would like to take a look at honesty.  I’m sure you’re probably wondering what honesty has to do with health and wellness but as we take a closer look you’ll see how we sometimes underestimate how much of a role honesty plays especially as it relates to our health and wellness.

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Being honest with ourselves about how we feel, what hurts, what does not feel right and  what we really need to do to make the necessary changes in our lives can help us live better, healthier and sometimes longer lives.  Too often we downplay our medical issues, disregard reoccurring symptoms and try to convince ourselves that a quick visit to the pharmacy or pharmacist would be the end of it.

If we’re going to be honest with ourselves, we might hear stories like:

“I love food but sometimes I don’t make good food choices.”

“I lack the will power to say “NO” to my cravings.”

“I might need some help to get my health and life where I need to be.”

“I know what I have to do to live a healthier life but I find it difficult to just commit to the process.”

“I’m scared of going to the doctor because I think I have a pretty good idea what’s wrong and I don’t want to have him confirm it so I’ll deal with it myself.”

“I’m scared of the possibility of receiving bad news.”

“I don’t like or trust doctors so I don’t go if I don’t have to.”

“I have better things to do with my money.”

“I don’t want people judging me.”

“I don’t feel comfortable going to public spaces to work out because I feel like everyone is looking at me.”

I can tell you, that as long as we keep making excuses to continue doing the wrong things we would not get the change we want.  The honest reason for this I believe is we don’t want the change bad enough probably because it’s hard to see ourselves beyond who we are today.

We need to not only change the conversation we are having with ourselves but control it. However, most important of all, is to stop lying to ourselves, stop making excuses and stop being bystanders in our own lives.

Honesty starts with US.  What stories are you telling yourself that are preventing you from reaching where you’re meant to be physically or mentally?

Thank you for stopping by. Have a good night and a wonderful weekend.  🙂

 

 

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People can be harsh at times but it is what we believe and tell ourselves that does the MOST damage or gives us the most STRENGTH.  

Whenever you find yourself listening and believing the negativity around you just remember.

Be the LOUDER voice in your head

When all the NOISE around you is pushing you out of bed

It’s the thought of your HAPPINESS that they truly dread

Let the LIGHT within you IGNITE

Silencing your FEARS with a light so BRIGHT

REMOVING the obstacles with all your MIGHT

It’s clear you’re NOT giving up without a FIGHT.

 

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Thank you for stopping by. I hope you’re all having a wonderful day.

Healing Starts With US

We’ve all experienced emotional, psychological or physical hurt at some point in our lives.  They all hurt. However for me, the most painful of them ALL was not the physical hurt.  You see, the physical hurt eventually heals it’s the memory of it that is harder to forget.

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The emotional and psychological hurts STAY with us for as long as we WISH to carry them around.  They dance around our minds and torment us every chance we LET  them.  They STIFLE our happiness and we allow them to negatively impact our relationships.  They create within us feelings of unworthiness, anger, resentment, sadness and depression.

These hurts don’t just go away on their own.  If they did, we would be a happier society.  I can definitely tell you that wishing them away, ignoring them or even medicating to repress them won’t help.  Although they may appear to be lying dormant inside of us  they are quietly eating away at us – constantly weakening our core and feeding us LIES about ourselves.

The sad thing is, we actually believe those lies making them our truths although FALSE we make them real and this is what eats at us. This is what creates the INTERNAL CONFLICT and disconnect within our very being.

How do we break free and allow ourselves to heal from those experiences?

  1. Ask God for the STRENGTH to see this process through.
  2. Pray for the COURAGE to face your fears, hurts and pains.
  3. Forgive OURSELVES.
  4. Dig deeper and FORGIVE the people who help get us in this mess in the first place.
  5. Have POSITIVE talks with ourselves about ourselves.
  6. STOP holding on to the memories of the moments that have negatively affected us.  Write ALL of them down on a piece of paper and then burn it.  Choosing both in your mind and heart to let the flames free you and release you from that prison those memories have kept you in for so long.
  7. OPEN our hearts and minds to positive experiences, people and thoughts.
  8. START believing and discovering some POSITIVE truths about yourself.  I AM  worthy.  I AM talented.  I AM creative.  I AM one of a kind.  I AM one of God’s gifts to the earth.
  9. SEARCH within yourself for your STRENGTHS and BOLDLY and PROUDLY  acknowledge them.  If you are lost for words, ask people close to you what some of your strengths are.
  10. LOOK into your mirror and REFUSE to continue accepting the LIES you’ve been told about yourself.   “You are not a failure.”  ” You are not a waste of time.”  “You are not a mistake.”
  11. STOP trying to run from yourself.  We do this by ignoring the issues and trying to drown ourselves with denial.  We’ve been running long enough.  It’s time to face the music and take CONTROL of our lives.
  12. UNDERSTANDING and PATIENCE. We need to understand that healing is a process and won’t happen overnight. So let’s be patient with ourselves as we work towards the breakthrough we’ve been searching for.

So dear friends and faithful readers, remember healing is not automatic but is in fact a process that we MUST initiate and FOLLOW THROUGH with if we are to achieve the FREEDOM so many of us long for.  The ultimate healing we can receive would come from within bringing – peace of mind, body and spirit.

Thank you for stopping by. Best wishes to you all.

The enemy is closer than you think!

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Yes, the enemy is closer than you think!

When we use the term enemy, we are generally referring to anyone who is hostile, aggressive or violent to us.  They do not have our well-being at heart.

The enemy however,  is not always external but sometimes the enemy can be found within.  Yes, in our thinking and our words.  The things we tell ourselves in the quiet moments when we’re alone and when no one is listening.  Is no one listening?   Someone is listening.  Someone is always listening to your words and thoughts.  That someone is YOU.

When you sit or stand there steering into your thoughts no one hears more clearly than YOU.  Those positive self-talks do wonders to motivate and cheer you up.  However, it those dark thoughts, those negative thoughts about yourself that I’m here to talk about today.

What we tell ourselves and how we see ourselves is just as powerful if not more powerful than the external person speaking ill things of you.  How so?  Based on what you already believe about yourself, you would be able to write off that person’s negativity without a second thought.

If however, you have already planted seeds of doubt or unworthiness about yourself then what that person says would just be the icing on the cake before you box it up to eat at the self-pity party.

Don’t be your our own worse enemy!  Who knows more about you than YOU.  Who knows your weaknesses, your failures and your insecurities better than YOU.

NOBODY is perfect, nobody.  We all have made and will make mistakes that is just part of life.  It is part of the learning and growing process.  We’re different, I get that and I accept that.  You should too!  The colour of our skin, the colour of our eyes, our body shapes, our hair, our walk even the way we talk is different and that is what makes the world such a beautiful and interesting place.

Some of us are great listeners, some of us are easy on the eyes, some of us know how to command a room with our presence, some of us bring innovation and creativity to the world, some of us are great with people, some of us make great friends, and so on.  Whatever our talents are we all have a place in this world and a contribution to make.

The point is, we all have something to give, something offer, something that makes us special that no one else has.  Let us celebrate WHO we are  and not focus on WHO we’re not.

So going forward, be mindful of the conversations that you have with yourself.  It’s time to go from being your own worse enemy to your biggest cheerleader.

Have a great day and thanks for stopping by.