The enemy is closer than you think!

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Yes, the enemy is closer than you think!

When we use the term enemy, we are generally referring to anyone who is hostile, aggressive or violent to us.  They do not have our well-being at heart.

The enemy however,  is not always external but sometimes the enemy can be found within.  Yes, in our thinking and our words.  The things we tell ourselves in the quiet moments when we’re alone and when no one is listening.  Is no one listening?   Someone is listening.  Someone is always listening to your words and thoughts.  That someone is YOU.

When you sit or stand there steering into your thoughts no one hears more clearly than YOU.  Those positive self-talks do wonders to motivate and cheer you up.  However, it those dark thoughts, those negative thoughts about yourself that I’m here to talk about today.

What we tell ourselves and how we see ourselves is just as powerful if not more powerful than the external person speaking ill things of you.  How so?  Based on what you already believe about yourself, you would be able to write off that person’s negativity without a second thought.

If however, you have already planted seeds of doubt or unworthiness about yourself then what that person says would just be the icing on the cake before you box it up to eat at the self-pity party.

Don’t be your our own worse enemy!  Who knows more about you than YOU.  Who knows your weaknesses, your failures and your insecurities better than YOU.

NOBODY is perfect, nobody.  We all have made and will make mistakes that is just part of life.  It is part of the learning and growing process.  We’re different, I get that and I accept that.  You should too!  The colour of our skin, the colour of our eyes, our body shapes, our hair, our walk even the way we talk is different and that is what makes the world such a beautiful and interesting place.

Some of us are great listeners, some of us are easy on the eyes, some of us know how to command a room with our presence, some of us bring innovation and creativity to the world, some of us are great with people, some of us make great friends, and so on.  Whatever our talents are we all have a place in this world and a contribution to make.

The point is, we all have something to give, something offer, something that makes us special that no one else has.  Let us celebrate WHO we are  and not focus on WHO we’re not.

So going forward, be mindful of the conversations that you have with yourself.  It’s time to go from being your own worse enemy to your biggest cheerleader.

Have a great day and thanks for stopping by.

 

 

Find and develop your own talents

Once upon a time there lived two sisters Sarah and Samantha both in their early twenties who lived in the country side.  Sarah was a very quiet person and did not have many friends but she was happy. She found joy in her paintings and writing poetry. She loved her sister and often wished she could be more like her fun and outgoing with lots of friends.

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Samantha was the total opposite.  She always liked being the centre of attention and was very popular.  She was secretly angry and jealous of Sarah because she did not have her talents.  She would always be negative with Sarah in hopes of discouraging her.

Their mother always told them growing up to love and support each other but Samantha always feared that if she did that Sarah would just get better and better at her talents and would eventually go off to the big city and leave her there all alone.

Sarah felt most creative near the water – the river was her favourite place to paint and write her poetry.  Today was no different as Sarah set off to her favourite place.  The birds were chirping, the bees were buzzing and the air was fresh and clean.  Sarah found her spot under the huge cherry blossom tree and began painting taking periodic deep breaths trying to take in the beauty of the place and centre her mind as inspiration was everywhere.

She was half way into her painting when she heard a car pull up and stop on the road behind her.  When she looked up she noticed a tall, handsome young man waving to her as he approached her.  She had never seen him before and was a bit concerned.  As he got closer she could hear his deep, strong voice, “Hello Miss, can you please tell me where Sarah Joline lives?”

“Sarah Joline, why do you want to know?” asked Sarah even more concerned that he was looking for her.  “It’s a private matter, do you know where I can find her it is urgent? My name is Adam, by the way.”  Sarah smiled and replied, “I am Sarah Joline, what is this about?”

Adam was happy that he had found her so easily and was pleasantly surprised at how beautiful she was.  He reached into his coat and handed her a white letter sized envelope.  “What is this about ?” Sarah asked again holding the envelope in her hand convinced that Adam had the wrong person. He then said, “You’ll see. It was a pleasure meeting Miss Joline I look forward to seeing you again soon.” He then turned and walked back to his car and drove off with a smile on his face.

Sarah was scared, nervous and excited all at the same time.  She was too scared to open the envelope herself and quickly packed up and headed home.  When she got home the first person she saw was her mother.  Her mother took one look at her and knew something was troubling her.  “What’s wrong Sarah?” asked her mother same time Samantha walked in from spending time with her friends.

“I met this really handsome guy down by the river and he gave me an envelope because he was looking for me.  Can you believe it?” said Sarah.

“Yeah right, it’s just her crazy imagination again?” said Samantha. “Be quiet Samantha. Let me see the envelope Sarah,” said mother.  Sarah handed her the envelope and sat on the step anxiously waiting for her to read it.  Samantha walked off toward the kitchen pretending not to be interested but stood behind the door listening attentively as her mother read out the letter.

” Dear Miss Sarah Joline,

You’ve been selected to take part in the National Art Scholarship Programme based on your submission and recommendation from your teacher Mrs. Jane Oliver.

Should you choose to accept please be advised that this is a two-year programme and you would be required to move to New York city.  We will be providing room and board for you.  You would be given an internship opportunity that would allow you to earn a stipend while here.

Please note that we must receive your decision within the week.

We look forward to meeting you and working with you.

Kind Regards,

Mr. John Hamshire
Director”

Sarah was speechless.  She knew that her teacher was very fond of her work and always encouraged her to explore and develop her talents further but she did not believe her work was good enough.  This letter however, was proof that her work was more than good enough.

Her mother cried tears of joy and began hugging and kissing her on her cheeks so much that her face was now red and numb. Her mother looked at her with so much pride and told her that she always knew she would be great in whatever she did.  “We have to prepare there is so much to be done before you leave,”  said her mother.

“You’re going to let me go?” asked Sarah. Her mother looked at her confused and asked, “Don’t you want to go?  This is an opportunity for you to do what you love.”  Sarah sighed and responded, “What about you and Samantha? Samantha is the only sister I have.  I would be alone in New York.  I know our relationship is not ideal lately but I love and forgive her. I know deep down she loves me too.”

Samantha heard everything. At first when she heard the acceptance letter she was furious that Sarah was leaving and that her talents were not just good but excellent.  She also heard what Sarah said and for the first time in a long time she felt sad and ashamed at how she had treated her sister who despite everything she had done loved her still and was genuinely concerned about her.

She saw her reflection in the stainless steel cookie jar on the counter and realised that she did not recognise who she had become because she had allowed jealousy and envy to consume her.  She wept uncontrollably as she sank to her knees in the kitchen.

Both her mother and sister heard this and ran in to see what was wrong. They hugged her and she looked Sarah in the eyes and apologised for being mean and jealous of her and asked for her forgiveness.  Sarah forgave her and told her that she loved her.  Samantha knew it was true and confessed that she loved her also.

She also went on to tell her the truth about how wonderful her paintings and poetry were and that she should go to New York.  “Sarah you are a great sister and talented artist and I am proud to call you my sister.”

This brought tears to both Sarah and her mother’s eyes. After that day, Samantha and Sarah grew closer and became the best of friends always supporting and encouraging each other to be their best.

Samantha eventually found her own talent.  All this time she thought she was not good at anything – turns out she was a great musician and eventually went on to do great things.  She realised that she was wasting time being angry and jealous of her sister’s talents when she had her own talent that she was not developing because she was too busy being envious and almost lost her opportunity to find happiness within herself.

Sarah learnt that she needed to believe in herself and her abilities more.  She was also grateful that she did not give up on her sister because now they have a beautiful relationship.  Sarah was happy with who she was and who she was becoming and allowed herself to explore other opportunities for happiness outside herself and her work as she and Adam eventually became very close.

In the end, both sisters agreed that sometimes you need to create your own happiness. Don’t waste time comparing yourself to others, focus on developing your own talents because it is there you will find true happiness.

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