It’s okay to say, “I’m sorry.”

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It’s okay to say, “I’m sorry.”

There are times in life when our decisions and actions hurt others.  There are times when it is unintentional and other times well, let’s just say, we can surprise ourselves at just how mean we can really be.

Am I the only person out there guilty of this? Can you remember a time when your actions and words just came out all wrong?  Then someone’s feelings unintentionally got hurt.   Once it comes to your attention it can make you feel really bad about yourself.

How many of us actually do something about it?  Feeling bad about it is one thing, doing something to correct the misunderstanding is another.  It takes a big person to reach out and genuinely say “I’m sorry”.

It’s important to clear the air.  How many relationships or friendships have died because of something that was said or done?  We sometimes underestimate the power of the spoken word.  Once we’ve said it, there’s no going back but we can try to atone for them.

How many of us have ended friendships over ‘he said, she said‘ ?  We sometimes withdraw from people or may react negatively toward them without discussing how what we heard made us feel.  We become judge and juror all at the same time without allowing the person an opportunity to confirm or deny.  Is that really fair?

Let’s not forget, that we are all sensitive beings that can be affected by anyone who at the right moment, equipped with the right words, could strike the right nerve that triggers a volcanic eruption of emotions.  No one is perfect.  We are all guilty of being insensitive at one point or another.

I know some of you are probably saying, “So I can’t say anything anymore because I may offend someone?”   No, I’m not saying that, all I’m saying is that sometimes we need to be mindful of what we are saying and how we are saying it.  Be clear. Be concise.  Never hurtful, unless you are looking for and are prepared for the possible reaction.

Words have the power to make or break friendships and relationships.  Never underestimate the power of your words. 

So, how are you going to use your words today?

Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

 

 

 

What is true wealth?

“I wish my house was bigger.  It is just too small.” said Sam.

“Well, I wish I had a bigger swimming pool.” said Brian.

“I wish we had more money.” said Adam.

“You rich kids have life so easy.  You live in the best part of town.  You go to the best private school money can buy.  You’ll probably never have to work for your bread and butter as long as you live and yet you sit and complain.” said George.

George had only lived in the town a few months. He was a new member of the elite group he was criticizing.  He was disgusted by their greed and lack of humility.   George’s family was not always wealthy and they worked very hard to acquire the wealth they now enjoy.

George was humble, kind, thoughtful and more than anything he was grateful for the blessings his family now enjoyed.  He remembers when they did not have food to eat.  When his parents could not pay the bills and how difficult things were.  He is glad that he had those experiences because they remind him not to be wasteful and ungrateful.

Adam, Brian and Sam had never had anyone speak to them like that before.  George hit a nerve, so much so that Sam and Brian made efforts to correct their attitude and behaviour.  The three boys became very good friends.

Adam however, was set in his ways and distanced himself from the group. As years went by, the three boys grew into men and joined their family businesses into successful enterprises that not only benefited themselves but others.  They were all happy and had beautiful families to share their success with.

Adam also grew up to be successful as well. However, unlike the others he did not have a family to share his success with.   He had acquired all the wealth he had dreamed of.  Unfortunately, he could not find love because he was convinced that everyone was after his money so he did not get close to anyone.

He eventually died of a heart attack.  All the riches he had acquired could not be taken with him in death.  His only legacy would be the enormous mansion he built for himself.

George, Sam and Brian to this day would always tell their kids,

“Money is just a medium you use to buy things.  Never let it define you.  Always let your words and actions define who you are.  When the money is gone all we have is each other. ”

 

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