Stop and Think!

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Stop and think!

Before you have another drink

Always pushing your life and others to brink

You don’t seem care and that’s so unfair

As your loved ones go to sleep in fear

Not sure, if in the morning, you’ll still be there

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Stop and think!

Before you open your mouth to scream and shout

In an effort to let the pressure from your anger out

Take a deep breath and try not to fret

If you lose your cool

You might end up looking like the fool

Instead, you might find

It’s better to act with a sound mind

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Stop and think!

Before you do the things you do

You might end up hurting the people you love

Or the people who trust and look up to you

Think before you act, it is a known fact

To love and be loved

There’s nothing better than that

So be sure to always stop and think before you act.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

 

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Disappointments are blessings in disguise

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I believe that every disappointment has a hidden blessing behind it even though we may not see it at the time.

What do I mean byblessing“? I believe that a blessing can refer to a person or an act that can improve or add value, happiness and joy to someone’s life.   It can be anything from getting a new house; getting a promotion; conceiving or receiving a child; spiritual healing, physical healing; meeting the love of your life;  achieving financial deliverance and so much more based on the needs and value placed on it by the person receiving it.

God knows our heart’s desires. He also knows what is best for us and more importantly when to bless us with the things that we need and want.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my timing and God’s timing are different. I want all of my blessings and I want them now – used to be my attitude and thinking. Patience was a virtue I definitely lacked.

God has a bigger plan for our lives. We all have a special and unique purpose and contribution to make in this world even though we can’t see it now.

However, in order for us to receive the blessings God has for us –  I believe that we have to first undergo some test and learn some lessons along the way, all designed to develop and strengthen us.  Some of the test and lessons are more difficult than others and can come in the form of hardship, disappointments and even tragedy.

In my test, I would admit I was sometimes confused, angry and even disappointed when things didn’t go my way or when relationships failed.

Here are (10) ten lessons that I learnt:

  1. When God puts it in your heart to do something – do it!  Don’t delay and keep putting it off.  You don’t want him to up the antics to get your attention.
  2. Some test and lessons require us to walk away from certain people and things in our lives for us to achieve the things we are destined for.  When God says it’s time to wrap it up you better wrap it up.
  3. Every disappointment, every failure and every heart-break was designed to make us stronger, wiser and more resilient.
  4. Disappointment hurts and it can even leave us feeling a little crushed. It is not however, meant to destroy our hope or wreck our lives.  It is how we respond to these events that can bring us the break-through that we’ve hoped for.
  5. Crying can help bring emotional release but it does not help with the mental turmoil.  Those feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, self-pity, anger, resentment and frustration can eat you alive. I had to find ways to overcome those feelings in order for me to move forward with my life and that in itself was a test and a lesson.
  6. God knows the things we struggle with even before we do.    He will even create situations to help us overcome them but we have to trust him and persevere.  We must do our part or there will be no growth and I believe we remain stuck in our test until we learn the lesson.
  7. God is a merciful God and he will never give us more than we can bear.   Our test are different and some might even say unfair at times as we compare our lives to others but let’s not compare but instead choose to persevere so our blessings can flow as we continue to grow in mind, body and spirit.
  8. It takes a lot of self talk, prayer, faith, trust and perseverance to go through life in your present existence knowing that although everything is not perfect right now things will get better.
  9. Use disappointment as a stepping stone to propel you into the next level of your journey.
  10. We all have our own test to complete and our own lessons to learn.

What lesson is God trying to teach you in your life now?     What or who is holding you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

I believe we all have the potential to not only overcome the disappointments that we are faced with but also get the hidden blessings that can come out of them – if we choose to view them differently and persevere.

If you are going through a tough period in your life now, know that you are not alone.   Life can be a struggle but not everything in it has to be.  Trust that this too shall pass, look for the lesson, learn from it and God will deliver your blessing. 

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Trust and Communication

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What secrets lie deep within?

Pondered his newlywed wife 

With her hand under her chin

As she gazed at her love

Sleeping peacefully like a dove

 

Always pleasant, always kind

Never late to be by her side

Full of pride when they stand side by side

 

Little did she know

Although asleep he could not let it go

That feeling of suspicion – she was on a mission

To make him fall in love

So he would stick to her like a glove

 

He had been down that road before

And had no intention to explore

But it was too late

She had him hooked like a good book 

And now his heart ached

With just the thought that she might be fake

 

Where can they go from here?

They have no trust, this much is clear

They hope that this too shall past

After all they are having a blast

Both now wondering if they moved too fast


A relationship without  trust

Is it really worth the fuss?

A relationship without communication

Will only breathe frustration

So eventually they decide to put aside their pride

And try to save their marriage

After all they just boarded this carriage

Who knows how it will end hopefully they’ll still be friends

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By : Cherylene Nicholas

How important are trust and communication in a relationship?  I would love your feedback.

 

What lies beneath?

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This morning I find myself here thinking about people and how we can never really know someone.  What are you really thinking in that complex organ called the brain?

The eyes it is said, “are the windows to the soul” but they do not always reveal how much hurt, pain, resentment and anger a person is carrying around.  Many of us have learnt over time how to mask what we really feel and safeguard what we really think out of fear or embarrassment.

When I read the newspapers or look at the news locally and internationally the issue of crime seems to be a constant problem for all of us.  It’s clear that there are more people than we think out there with mental disturbances that cause them to hurt others but not all of them present themselves to the world the way they really feel. The version of themselves they choose to show society is different to who they really are behind closed doors.

Hence, sometimes you might hear a co-worker or neighbour of theirs say, ” He was always such a nice guy.  I had no idea he was capable of doing something like that.” or “She was always very friendly and helpful. I can’t believe she would do such a thing”

These are very scary realities for some.  The sad thing is more often than not by the time the truth about an individual comes out he or she would have either hurt themselves or someone else.  The teacher is not just a teacher; the priest is not just a priest; the kind old man down the street may not really be the “kind” old man down the street; and the student is not just a student.  I can go on and on but I won’t.

I say all this to say, that we can no longer take people at face value or make assumptions about them because of the positions or titles they hold or what we perceive them to be. People at the end of the day are still just people.  Regular, imperfect human beings with issues and challenges just like the rest of us.  No better or worse.

The times that we are living in make it unwise to blindly trust people and make assumptions about who people are because we really don’t know.  All we really know is what they choose to share with us. 

My aim today was not to scare you but just share my perspective on what is going on in society.  There is a lot we don’t know.  I honestly don’t believe a lot of us have the stomach for what is really going on out there. I know the little I read is enough to make me sick.

So please be safe and vigilant. Don’t take anything or anyone for granted.  Respect and value life!!

Do you agree with the saying, “what you see is what you get?”

I would love to hear your thoughts below.