Healing Starts With US

We’ve all experienced emotional, psychological or physical hurt at some point in our lives.  They all hurt. However for me, the most painful of them ALL was not the physical hurt.  You see, the physical hurt eventually heals it’s the memory of it that is harder to forget.

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The emotional and psychological hurts STAY with us for as long as we WISH to carry them around.  They dance around our minds and torment us every chance we LET  them.  They STIFLE our happiness and we allow them to negatively impact our relationships.  They create within us feelings of unworthiness, anger, resentment, sadness and depression.

These hurts don’t just go away on their own.  If they did, we would be a happier society.  I can definitely tell you that wishing them away, ignoring them or even medicating to repress them won’t help.  Although they may appear to be lying dormant inside of us  they are quietly eating away at us – constantly weakening our core and feeding us LIES about ourselves.

The sad thing is, we actually believe those lies making them our truths although FALSE we make them real and this is what eats at us. This is what creates the INTERNAL CONFLICT and disconnect within our very being.

How do we break free and allow ourselves to heal from those experiences?

  1. Ask God for the STRENGTH to see this process through.
  2. Pray for the COURAGE to face your fears, hurts and pains.
  3. Forgive OURSELVES.
  4. Dig deeper and FORGIVE the people who help get us in this mess in the first place.
  5. Have POSITIVE talks with ourselves about ourselves.
  6. STOP holding on to the memories of the moments that have negatively affected us.  Write ALL of them down on a piece of paper and then burn it.  Choosing both in your mind and heart to let the flames free you and release you from that prison those memories have kept you in for so long.
  7. OPEN our hearts and minds to positive experiences, people and thoughts.
  8. START believing and discovering some POSITIVE truths about yourself.  I AM  worthy.  I AM talented.  I AM creative.  I AM one of a kind.  I AM one of God’s gifts to the earth.
  9. SEARCH within yourself for your STRENGTHS and BOLDLY and PROUDLY  acknowledge them.  If you are lost for words, ask people close to you what some of your strengths are.
  10. LOOK into your mirror and REFUSE to continue accepting the LIES you’ve been told about yourself.   “You are not a failure.”  ” You are not a waste of time.”  “You are not a mistake.”
  11. STOP trying to run from yourself.  We do this by ignoring the issues and trying to drown ourselves with denial.  We’ve been running long enough.  It’s time to face the music and take CONTROL of our lives.
  12. UNDERSTANDING and PATIENCE. We need to understand that healing is a process and won’t happen overnight. So let’s be patient with ourselves as we work towards the breakthrough we’ve been searching for.

So dear friends and faithful readers, remember healing is not automatic but is in fact a process that we MUST initiate and FOLLOW THROUGH with if we are to achieve the FREEDOM so many of us long for.  The ultimate healing we can receive would come from within bringing – peace of mind, body and spirit.

Thank you for stopping by. Best wishes to you all.

Hide and Seek

 

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This is a story about a forbidden relationship between two people called Denial and Truth who only played Hide and Seek.

Denial’s parents told him that he and Truth could NEVER be together because she would only hurt him so he should always avoid her.  Denial did not listen to his parents and would in his own little way interact with Truth through playing Hide and Seek.

Truth liked Denial very much but could never get close to him.  Hide and Seek was all she had and this made her little heart sad.  No matter how hard she tried Denial always managed to slip away.

Until one day, Truth finally caught up with Denial.  For the first time he was cornered and trapped.   His emotions started swelling up on the inside now his true feelings he could no longer hide.   Truth looked Denial in his eyes and said, ” You can avoid me all you want. You could even try to wish me away but I have news for you, I’m here to stay.  You constantly push me aside because your emotions you want to hide.  Can’t you see my love, you’re creating even more turmoil inside?”

Denial unable to control his emotions anymore starts weeping uncontrollably on the floor.  Truth sits down beside him attempting to console him.  She understands his heart is thin but this is a battle even he can’t win.  She then whispers in his ear, “I understand this hurts but avoiding me will only make the pain worse. Let’s face these things together because that is the only way you’ll feel better.”

Over time these two stopped playing Hide and Seek and decided to meet up once a week.

Denial finally understood that although he could avoid Truth he could not remove her from his life. He soon realised that facing her actually made him feel better.  He eventually built up enough courage to take her home to meet his parents. 🙂

You can just imagine his parents surprise to see their son Denial and Truth standing side by side.  It took them some getting used to but over time they learnt to accept and eventually love her too.

Remember, we may not always like the truth about something,  someone or ourselves but avoiding it does not make it go away.  I’ve learnt the only way to truly move forward is to face and accept the truth and chart a way forward.

Denial is only a short-term answer or response to our problems.  The time will come when we have to face what we’ve been hiding or running from.  It won’t be easy but the end result should you choose to embrace and see the process through is  greater clarity, your emotional burden will be lifted or lighter and the healing can finally begin – resulting in a much happier you.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a great day! 🙂

Different Interpretations of Truth

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Is there such a thing as ‘different interpretations of the truth’?

Truth is the ability to be honest with ourselves and others even when and if we are wrong. 

There are instances when the ‘truth’ can become blurry.  This can occur when two or more persons recall fragments of an event or events based on what and how they remember them especially if they were emotionally charged at that time.

Whenever this happens we often end up with (3) three versions of ‘truth’ emerging:

  • Your version (which is the ‘truth’ as you perceived it)
  • His or Her version (which is the ‘truth’ as the other person perceived it)
  • Reality (what actually happened – which sometimes does not have an audience to validate or confirm what in reality occurred)

Some may argue, that the ‘truth’ is the truth and there is no differentiation.  However, if that were so how can two or more people be present at the same event and some report events differently than others as to what actually occurred.  One explanation could be that some may be purposely lying or withholding details.

Likewise, another explanation could be when situations get heated our emotions can go on overdrive causing us to see and hear only bits and pieces of information because mentally we are so charged up playing back whatever upset us that everything else going on around us sounds like noise and distortion.  We are angry and hurt and unfortunately when we get like this very little matters after that.

So yes, there are different versions of truth because for each of us in that moment how we feel about our situations are real to each of us.   When it comes to feelings and emotions it is not always so easy to control.  What we can do however, is try not to do and say things out of anger for once this happens the words can’t be undone.

Remember, the truth is our ability to be honest with ourselves and others even when and if we wrong.   When dealing with difficult situations it is therefore important that we keep our minds open and be slow to speak.   Once we get too emotionally charged things can get blurry and we don’t want that.

If you happen to be a bystander in an event, it is important that you try to stay unbiased because the persons involved would need objectivity and a clear mind to help them resolve their issue(s).

Thanks for stopping by. Have a great day. 🙂

Awakening and Growth (originally posted 23.09.2017)

You used your words to break me down

And that turned my smile upside down

Blinded by my love for you

I forgot I had to love myself too

 

I allowed my ‘true’ self to be locked away

Not believing deep down I had some say

Or that one day I would find my way

My way back to my true self,

That special me I hid on a shelf

 

Now that my blood no longer runs cold

And a new purpose fills my soul

Not even you could keep me back in this world

As I turn my lessons into ink

I look to the future and can’t help but think

 

Thanks to you I have created a new path

Thanks to you I have made a fresh start

Thanks to you I have seen the light

And I’m happy to report it is beautiful and bright.

 

Thanks so much for stopping by.   Have a wonderful weekend!

 

Shine Bright

Shine bright no matter what they say

Because to be happy, there’s no other way

Fireflies do it from within

The moon and the stars even bring the light in

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Shine bright even when no one is watching

Because once you believe in YOU

It does not matter what they do

The light within will always shine through

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Shine bright even when things around you are not going right

In times such as these you have to shine your brightest light

Challenges will come but don’t let them get you down

You have what it takes to overcome

Feed the light within you and it will come

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Shine bright with your smile

Shine bright with your thoughts

Shine bright with your actions

Choose to shine especially when you don’t feel like

Because that is when your mind, body and spirit really need it

Make today a great one! Thanks for stopping by.  🙂

 

Hidden Realities

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” She is so beautiful!,” they often whisper

Just under their breath because she’ll surely fret

Little do they know what lies beneath her beauty

Are tales of mistreatment and untold cruelty

She does not believe the kind words of others

Especially about such superficial  matters

She dismisses the matter as simple child-like chatter

Because she knows words do not really matter

As she heads home in despair

Thinking no one knows, no one cares

The voices in her head, wishing she were dead

But instead with haste she rushes home, “I can’t be late, I can’t be late”

She missed the bus, oh what a fate!

And now almost to tears she faces her fears,

As she cautiously enters the room she utters, “Honey, I’m home!”

Greeted with silence by what was once her loving partner

She braces herself for what might come after

He gestures to hit her but laughs at her manner

Hitting and belittling his wife was a laughing matter

With his words and fists, he would keep her in check

For NO wife of his would show disrespect

She is allowed to explain

As he twisted her arm inflicting pain

“This is my last chance”, she thought

Her chance to be free, free from this violence and misery

So she kisses him good night and goes to bed without a fight

For soon, she will take flight, in the middle of the night.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

Moral: Do not judge people by how they look or even by the words that come out of their mouth. You have no idea what’s really going on in their lives or in their minds.  Be grateful for the life you have.  

I felt inspired to write this poem let me know what you think.