One Day At A Time

Pleasant Good Morning to You All,

May this morning as the warm rays of the sun gently cover your body find each of  you full of life with a sense of purpose and peace as you go through your day.  May your disruptions be few and may you always have clarity of mind and spirit to overcome any obstacle or challenge that may come your way.  In Jesus name, Amen!

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One day at a time is how we learn and grow.  This is true for all of us.  From birth straight through to our adult lives and this is not limited only to our ability to move but our intellect and spirituality as well.

The thing is, no one person has ALL of the answers and those persons who have words of wisdom to share with others would have developed them from over years of learning from their own life lessons.

Each day will bring with it opportunities for growth, understanding and challenges which ultimately add up to lessons which help shape and develop us as individuals. Don’t beat yourself if you don’t get it right the first time or the even the second time.

When the situation seems bigger than YOURSELF and you can’t seem to find a way to overcome it. Pray for clarity of mind,  ask for God’s guidance and he WILL provide the answer.  You just have to listen not only with your ears but your eyes, heart and spirit.  Worrying and stressing about it will only cloud and block your ability to see and receive the very answers you are searching for.

So dear friends remember, take it one day at a time. Embrace each day as a potential lesson to be learnt. Be sure to apply a positive attitude as this would help to make your the journey much easier as you learn and grow along the way.

Make today a wonderful one.  Thank you for stopping by.

The Thirst of Life

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Some of us thirst for knowledge, love, happiness, companionship and understanding.

However, no matter how hard some of us try we can’t help but feel unfulfilled or lacking.

How do we overcome that feeling of frustration and loneliness?

   1.  Seek knowledge and wisdom as this would help widen our perspective.

2.  Be purposeful in creating our own happy moments. This would help encourage us to
live our lives to the fullest and would attract positive people and energies to us.

  3. Develop our understanding as this would foster within us greater patience and
compassion.

 4. Cherish your life and the lives of those around you. Express this through your                     gratitude of both the big and small either in words and or by your actions

5. Get excited about the victory you WILL have over the obstacles in your life.

As you go about your day remember, be thirsty – not just for water to nourish your body but quench that thirst for life, knowledge, happiness and understanding.

Cherish the people who you hold close to your heart and be mindful that they probably thirst for something too.

To be truly happy in this life we need to understand our thirst and find healthy non-destructive ways of quenching it.

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a wonderful day. 🙂

 

 

 

Fresh Perspective

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A ‘fresh’ perspective is often different from our own perspective and beliefs.

It can feel like the fresh morning breeze against our skin – refreshing and soothing.  Likewise,  it can hit us like a ton of bricks shattering everything we’ve ever been taught or believed.

A ‘fresh’ perspective  allows us to see the world and situations in a new way outside of the lens we would typically use.  It encourages us to open our minds as our eyes and ears open up to more than just what we’ve known, seen and heard over the years.

It is not necessarily wrong or right just a different way of seeing and doing things.  Should you choose to embrace and adapt it ?  That is solely up to YOU.  I for one, don’t run off accepting and internalizing everything I see and hear and neither should you.

Ask yourself? What can I learn from this?  Can this improve my life or  my way of thinking in a positive way?  How does this make me feel?

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We don’t have ALL the answers and the good news is we DON’T have to.  For there are lessons to be learnt both from our good and not so good experiences.

Make today a great one! Thanks for stopping by.

Healing Starts With US

We’ve all experienced emotional, psychological or physical hurt at some point in our lives.  They all hurt. However for me, the most painful of them ALL was not the physical hurt.  You see, the physical hurt eventually heals it’s the memory of it that is harder to forget.

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The emotional and psychological hurts STAY with us for as long as we WISH to carry them around.  They dance around our minds and torment us every chance we LET  them.  They STIFLE our happiness and we allow them to negatively impact our relationships.  They create within us feelings of unworthiness, anger, resentment, sadness and depression.

These hurts don’t just go away on their own.  If they did, we would be a happier society.  I can definitely tell you that wishing them away, ignoring them or even medicating to repress them won’t help.  Although they may appear to be lying dormant inside of us  they are quietly eating away at us – constantly weakening our core and feeding us LIES about ourselves.

The sad thing is, we actually believe those lies making them our truths although FALSE we make them real and this is what eats at us. This is what creates the INTERNAL CONFLICT and disconnect within our very being.

How do we break free and allow ourselves to heal from those experiences?

  1. Ask God for the STRENGTH to see this process through.
  2. Pray for the COURAGE to face your fears, hurts and pains.
  3. Forgive OURSELVES.
  4. Dig deeper and FORGIVE the people who help get us in this mess in the first place.
  5. Have POSITIVE talks with ourselves about ourselves.
  6. STOP holding on to the memories of the moments that have negatively affected us.  Write ALL of them down on a piece of paper and then burn it.  Choosing both in your mind and heart to let the flames free you and release you from that prison those memories have kept you in for so long.
  7. OPEN our hearts and minds to positive experiences, people and thoughts.
  8. START believing and discovering some POSITIVE truths about yourself.  I AM  worthy.  I AM talented.  I AM creative.  I AM one of a kind.  I AM one of God’s gifts to the earth.
  9. SEARCH within yourself for your STRENGTHS and BOLDLY and PROUDLY  acknowledge them.  If you are lost for words, ask people close to you what some of your strengths are.
  10. LOOK into your mirror and REFUSE to continue accepting the LIES you’ve been told about yourself.   “You are not a failure.”  ” You are not a waste of time.”  “You are not a mistake.”
  11. STOP trying to run from yourself.  We do this by ignoring the issues and trying to drown ourselves with denial.  We’ve been running long enough.  It’s time to face the music and take CONTROL of our lives.
  12. UNDERSTANDING and PATIENCE. We need to understand that healing is a process and won’t happen overnight. So let’s be patient with ourselves as we work towards the breakthrough we’ve been searching for.

So dear friends and faithful readers, remember healing is not automatic but is in fact a process that we MUST initiate and FOLLOW THROUGH with if we are to achieve the FREEDOM so many of us long for.  The ultimate healing we can receive would come from within bringing – peace of mind, body and spirit.

Thank you for stopping by. Best wishes to you all.

The Truth about Stubbornness

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Stubbornness is an unwillingness to change one’s attitude or position on something, even when the alternative is better.

Is there an upside to stubbornness? Not really but then again it depends on who you ask and where you fall in the equation.  Let’s take a look.

UPSIDE  to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. You get to stay exactly as you ARE  because you already KNOW the answers to everything.
  2. You automatically ‘win’ every disagreement because no one with a true understanding of the situation would expel much energy or effort trying to convince you otherwise.
  3. You don’t have to accept change.  Your way is the best way and there is nobody out there that can tell you different.

 

DOWNSIDE to STUBBORNNESS:

  1. Limits your growth not only in knowledge but also experiences.
  2. Makes accepting and implementing change difficult because you’re so stuck in your own ways.
  3. People tend to avoid any meaningful exchanges with you because they don’t want to end up in an argument.
  4. Blocks and limits understanding because of your unwillingness to show  understanding towards others.
  5. Hinders progress not only for yourself but others especially if you are in a position of power.
  6. It is a selfish way of interacting with the world around you.

There will always be someone out there with a different perspective, new ideas and concepts that challenge or may even improve our current way of doings things.   We don’t have to like or agree with everything that is shared with us but we should at least respect the fact that a contribution is being made and do the right thing and that is – to genuinely hear them out.

Open-mindedness should not be what we expect of others when it comes to our beliefs and opinions especially when we ourselves may be closed-minded to what others have to say. 

Stubbornness that blocks and disregards the opinions, thoughts and feelings of others is a building block to nowhere.

 

Thank you for stopping by.  Have a great day!

 

Hide and Seek

 

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This is a story about a forbidden relationship between two people called Denial and Truth who only played Hide and Seek.

Denial’s parents told him that he and Truth could NEVER be together because she would only hurt him so he should always avoid her.  Denial did not listen to his parents and would in his own little way interact with Truth through playing Hide and Seek.

Truth liked Denial very much but could never get close to him.  Hide and Seek was all she had and this made her little heart sad.  No matter how hard she tried Denial always managed to slip away.

Until one day, Truth finally caught up with Denial.  For the first time he was cornered and trapped.   His emotions started swelling up on the inside now his true feelings he could no longer hide.   Truth looked Denial in his eyes and said, ” You can avoid me all you want. You could even try to wish me away but I have news for you, I’m here to stay.  You constantly push me aside because your emotions you want to hide.  Can’t you see my love, you’re creating even more turmoil inside?”

Denial unable to control his emotions anymore starts weeping uncontrollably on the floor.  Truth sits down beside him attempting to console him.  She understands his heart is thin but this is a battle even he can’t win.  She then whispers in his ear, “I understand this hurts but avoiding me will only make the pain worse. Let’s face these things together because that is the only way you’ll feel better.”

Over time these two stopped playing Hide and Seek and decided to meet up once a week.

Denial finally understood that although he could avoid Truth he could not remove her from his life. He soon realised that facing her actually made him feel better.  He eventually built up enough courage to take her home to meet his parents. 🙂

You can just imagine his parents surprise to see their son Denial and Truth standing side by side.  It took them some getting used to but over time they learnt to accept and eventually love her too.

Remember, we may not always like the truth about something,  someone or ourselves but avoiding it does not make it go away.  I’ve learnt the only way to truly move forward is to face and accept the truth and chart a way forward.

Denial is only a short-term answer or response to our problems.  The time will come when we have to face what we’ve been hiding or running from.  It won’t be easy but the end result should you choose to embrace and see the process through is  greater clarity, your emotional burden will be lifted or lighter and the healing can finally begin – resulting in a much happier you.

Thank you for stopping by. Have a great day! 🙂

Strength

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Typically, when we hear the term ‘strength‘ we associate it with physical abilities and attributes.   However, over the years after going through different experiences some good and others rather challenging,  I’ve learnt that strength is so much more than just a physical thing.

What do I mean?

Well, during my difficult moments it was my strength of mind, spirit and family that helped me overcome those not so sunny days.   Let me explain.

  • Strength of mind – this is when we know who we are and no longer allow self-doubt or negative people to have control over our thoughts and emotions. 

 

  • Strength of spirit – this is where our faith and our beliefs come in.   It is in times of adversity that this strength once nurtured and developed can help bring us through those tough periods in our lives.   Without it, we are like sheep among wolves.

 

  • Strength of family – this strength is often overlooked.  The love, support and encouragement of family is so important in our lives.  They usually rally around us in our time of need.  They usually stand by us through the good and the bad times.  Those of us who don’t have families like that may still be blessed with a few individuals in our lives that we have formed very close and strong bonds with who over the years have become your family.  This is just as significant.

These three aspects of my life have made such a difference in the outcome of various events in my life that I will forever be grateful.  So, am I strong? YES, in every area of my life that matters most to ME.

Am I going to have challenging moments in my life from time to time? Yes!  Why? Being strong in those areas does not mean we won’t have issues or challenges.  Those strengths just mean we would be better able to cope with the obstacles than individuals who have not developed those areas yet.

We use food and exercise to strengthen our bodies but how do we go about strengthening our mind and spirit?

Some things we can do to strengthen those areas include:

  1. Through prayer.
  2. Reading and trying to understand the scripture.  I understand that this can be a bit challenging as we would not always understand everything we read but I believe if we trust and ask God to open our minds and hearts to what he needs us to see and be he would point the way.
  3. Paying attention to what we put in and what we allow those around us to contribute.
  4. Be mindful of the people we surround ourselves with as negative energy breathes negativity.
  5. Take control of our thoughts.
  6. Facing our truths whatever they maybe and choosing to understand, learn and move forward.
  7. Practice forgiveness.  Not just for those persons who have wronged us but ourselves. We are often very tough on ourselves.
  8. Practice self-love.  I believe that even with our imperfections we are still worth love and appreciation.

I’m merely sharing my experience. I can only tell you what has helped me.  Strength is God’s gift to each of us.  Are you prepared and willing to tap into yours?

Thanks for stopping by.  Make today and this weekend a great one.