Check Your Alignment

Heavenly Father as I get ready to share this post guide and direct my words, help me deliver this post in a manner that would benefit all who read it.  Help us align ourselves to Your will and not our own so that we can see and experience the breakthroughs we so desperately need in our lives today. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen!

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Alignment speaks to the positioning or lining up of something.

In life many times when things or life does not go our way it could throw off our alignment.  However, more often than not I have noticed that it was my lack of alignment in the first place that got me into some of the situations I found myself in.

Take a look at some examples of my own situations and how lack of alignment affected my life.

  • My lack of respect and value for money lead me to misuse and abuse the money I had that behaviour and lack of discipline resulted in me acquiring large debt.
  • My lack of self-control and discipline saw me over indulging in unhealthy eating habits that resulted in an unhealthy and unhappy me.
  • My desire to find happiness everywhere else but within me and through God found me in unhealthy relationships and situations that did me more harm than good.
  • My lack of gratitude and appreciation for the small things in my life caused me to miss those blessings when they were gone.
  • My unwillingness to forgive myself and others kept me stuck in a cycle of unhappiness for a long time. This type of existence left me feeling alone, ashamed, regretful, angry, resentful and sad. I would portray a smile to the world but inside I was lost and hurting.
  • I would feel compelled to go to church sometimes but I would not go.
  • I would sometimes give the opinions, thoughts and perspectives of others more weight than my own thoughts or beliefs.  I soon learnt that when in doubt I should turn to God not man.
  • The words of defeat and negativity that I would have thought and spoken over my life became my reality because through my own thoughts and words I gave that possibility life.

I’ve shared experiences to highlight how our actions and sometimes our inaction could affect our alignment.  This lack of alignment can negatively affect our joy, happiness, peace of mind, relationships, health, business, families, success, behaviour, and spirit.

There is a tug- of- war over control for alignment that goes on inside of each of us daily.  To regain control of our lives and correct our alignment of mind, body and spirit we have to pray and put our trust in God daily.  It is not a one off-thing.

Take stock today, look at the various areas of your life, your thoughts, your words that you speak over yourself and others, your heart (is it filled with unforgiveness, resentment and anger) all of these areas affect your alignment in life and with God.

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We would not put a seed into an empty box then place it in the refrigerator and expect it to blossom into a tree and bear fruit.  Through the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of how seeds grow we know we must place it in nutrient rich soil, water it and make sure it gets sunlight for it grow.

We are like seeds planted here on earth and if we are to become the magnificent trees God has planted in our souls then we must align ourselves to get ALL that we need so that we can blossom here on earth.

Seek His face, His power, His forgiveness, His strength, His understanding, His wisdom, His courage, His mercy, His favour, His healing and His alignment to get yourself positioned where you need to be in your life.

Am I where I need to be? I’ll let you know when I get there. 🙂 Everyday I choose to submit to God’s will and my own I get nearer and nearer.  I can feel and trust that God is aligning me and positioning me to be exactly where He needs me to be. I am continually praising Him and asking Him to align my heart, body and soul so that I am where and who He needs me to become.

Thank you Lord for using me today.  Let this post be a blessing to all who read.

As always, thank you for making this blog one of your stops on this journey called life.

 

12 Reasons Unhappiness can Linger

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We get up every morning and go through life doing what is expected and required of us most times. 🙂  We go to work, go home, take care of our families, and go to school, do chores and any other thing that we have given ourselves as a task to complete.

Does completion or pursuing these tasks make us happy? 

If we were to remove everything off of our ‘To Do List’ and we had nothing but time – with and for ourselves would we be genuinely happy right now where we are in life at this very moment?

Many of us would probably quietly utter, No.  Not because we don’t love our families or appreciate our jobs but probably because we have unresolved things deep inside of us that we’ve never truly dealt with.

Over the years and many sermons later, I’ve come to learn that unresolved issues create limits to our happiness.  What limits have you set on your happiness? I’ve listed some limits that I allowed in my past to keep me unhappy until I learnt the truth.

Let’s take a look.

  1. We become dependent on other people to make us happy.
  2. We have taken on more than we could handle leaving us with feelings of anger, regret, stress and sometimes even depression.
  3. We’re too focused on our disappointments and failures.
  4. We don’t believe that we can be happy because we believe the stories and the lies that we have heard and lived all these years.
  5. We’ve developed and encouraged a spirit of fear or laziness that has kept us from  evening try.
  6. We’re so caught up in pointing fingers and laying blame that we don’t make time to create our own joy and happiness.
  7. We don’t recognize, understand or appreciate that our ability to be happy  and more importantly sustain happiness resides inside of us.  We keep missing it because we’re focusing on obtaining happiness from entities outside of us.
  8. We allow ourselves to remain mental and emotional prisoners of our past.
  9. We give our mouths and our minds freedom to speak and think negative things that only hold us back and keep us stuck in a pit of unhappiness.
  10. We have accepted unhappiness as our way of life.
  11. We really don’t know how to get out of this bed of unhappiness.
  12. We are merely existing in our lives and not actively living in them.

How did I overcome these?

It was not easy. Happiness is a choice and I had to make that decision daily not to allow anything or anyone from my past, present or future to control or dictate how much joy or happiness I am able to enjoy.

However, before I could get to that point, I had to forgive those people from my past through my words (through prayer and some face to face interaction.  I had to alter and correct my thinking. I had to pray and ask God to cleanse my heart and my spirit before the changes I needed could be activated.  Crucial to this however, was making the conscious decision once and for all to let go those painful experiences in order for me to free myself from the prison I had kept myself in all those years. 

It is an amazing feeling when you choose allow yourself to let go of all the stuff that has had you limited, constricted, angry,  guarded and restricted for so long. 🙂

Now that I’ve listed my top 12 reasons why unhappiness can linger, now what?

Well for starters, we’re going to wake up each morning and put a smile on our faces and in our hearts. Secondly, we’re going to actively seek God through prayer and reading His word, giving thanks for His mercy and favour in our lives.

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We’re going to ask Him to heal what is broken within us.  We going to ask for His strength to move pass the obstacles that we have allowed to keep us prisoners in our own lives.

We’re going to ask Him for the strength to forgive because forgiveness is never easy in the beginning.  We have many reasons why forgiving those people who hurt us would be hard but we have to forgive them to free ourselves from that hurt and pain before we can move forward and experience true happiness.

We’re going to declare victory over every area in our lives we’re struggling with. There’s no limit to what God can do be it: unresolved childhood wounds, financial breakthroughs, challenges in our relationships, issues with our kids, problems at work, issues at school, maybe you’re looking for work,  you have health concerns or just want to improve your relationship with God. Bring them before God!

We have the ability to improve our mental state and happiness but we must be willing to heal the fragile sections of our hearts and in so doing repair the scars that some of our life experiences have gifted us with.

It is a process. There’s no denying that and it requires practice and a shift in our thinking and behaviour. Once done from the heart with God as our guide and comforter – we won’t be the same people we use to be.  

We would have gained peace of mind, clarity, focus, joy, happiness and a sense of freedom that we’ve never had before.  Once freed from those self-imposed prisons we would be able to live and experience life to the fullest.

The only thing I had to be fearful of was remaining the same.  One step, one day, one moment at a time choose happiness – you can’t overcome your battles alone. Whatever our hearts desire all we have to do is ask and trust God to help us overcome them.

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Talk to God, He wants to help. The truth is, He is the only person who can help us obtain and sustain true happiness.

Thank you for making this blog one of your stops in this journey called life.

 

Who’s directing your steps?

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It’s a constant struggle at times to keep my bearings
He tries to control me because he gave me this ring
and these diamond earrings
I can hardly remember what I was like before we met

Some say full of life before I became his wife
I look in the mirror and all I see is my silhouette
How much did I allow myself to forget?

Always flexing and changing, never doing my own thing
In an effort to please him, I hide how much I’m hurting
Maybe it’s me, always trying to be ‘me’
I never thought our ‘unity’ meant losing my identity
His fight for control is unhealthy I’m told

He is my husband should I not do what I’m told
He says,” I am the potter and you are the clay
I am going to mold you and you’ll thank me one day.”

I hide to talk to my friends and family
For if he knew, he would be most unhappy
I feel so alone in this prison I call home
So I pray and I pray that God will show me the way
The blind leading the blind no more, no way.

God wants me to be happy and he wants me to know his love
This abuse will not continue!” declared my Lord above
My home-made prison is now a home filled with love
My controlling husband is now a peaceful dove

Thank you Heavenly Father
For answering my prayer from up above.

By: Cherylene Nicholas

This is not my reality.  However, there are women out there in situations similar and some even worse.  I was inspired to write this for them.  Abusive relationships of any type are unacceptable.   Pray and talk to God about your challenges and ask for guidance.