Top 12 tips for a Successful and Productive 2018

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Welcome back!  I trust that your Christmas celebrations went well.  We’ve all opened our gifts, shared a few laughs and got a little time to hopefully reflect on how truly blessed we’ve been in 2017.

As you all know, the approach of the New Year 2018 draws nearer and nearer with each day and this is typically the time when we make ‘promises’ to ourselves and sometimes others about what we’re doing to do differently and what we’re hoping to change.

I propose that we take a different approach to this age-old practice and instead of making promises aka  resolutions let’s make some proactive decisionsThe truth is a promise provides mental comfort but proactive decision-making can provide actual results.

So how are we going to do this?  Let’s take a look.

  1. For starters, let’s not set unrealistic expectations.  It’s not fair to ourselves when we set unrealistic expectations. Do yourself a favour PUSH yourself but don’t BREAK yourself.
  2. List the areas of our lives we want to improve on  be it our health, finances, relationships, jobs, etc.
  3. Make a plan for each area that actively treats with the areas of our lives we want to see blossom or transform.  List step by step how we will go about this transformation.  Example, for health a plan we may consider reviewing our eating habits, getting active through exercise or starting a sport, getting a medical checkup.  This may require doing some research and implementing real change in how we currently care for our bodies.
  4. We have to be willing to do the work to get the results we want.  Change is never easy but it is often necessary for us to improve and foster greater happiness in our lives.
  5. Be your own cheerleader.  Don’t rely solely on the support of others for your success.  You have to want to succeed for yourself.  It is this burning desire that  will push you to succeed even when things around you change.
  6. Stick with the plan. We may get distracted from time to time and may even fall off the wagon completely.  Don’t waste time feeling guilty.  Make a decision from now not a promise that YOU WILL not accept failure this time.  YOU WILL get back on track and make things right not because of a promise you made but rather because YOU ARE worth it!
  7. Distance yourself from negativity – that includes negative people and negative thinking. These are some common elements to failure. Negativity is not cheering for our success the sooner we can see that and take corrective action our lives can turn around for the better.
  8. Be flexible.  We must be willing to adapt to whatever change may occur.  We may meet and exceed our goal likewise we may have to alter or modify certain aspects of it to get the best outcome.  Be open-minded about the process. Nothing is set in stone.  The only unbreakable aspect of this must be our determination to see this through. 🙂
  9. Believe in yourself and your ability to do this.
  10. Don’t allow your fears to keep you stuck in the past.  In 2018, take those fears and use them as fuel for your success.
  11. Acknowledge your achievements no matter how small and reward yourself for a job well done.
  12. Lastly, never give up! For when we do, we truly fail.

A special thank you to each of you who read and support my blog. May 2018 bring us fresh ideas, clarity of mind and spirit, prosperity, joy, love, good health and happiness. May wisdom and understanding never be a stranger in our lives.

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Thank you for stopping by.  Have a wonderful week and bright New Year! 🙂

Dangers of unrealistic expectations

Expectations we all have them.  I would even go so far to say, that it is apart of the human condition, in that it comes naturally to us.  We create expectations of ourselves and others.  Sometimes our expectations are realistic and other times they are just unrealistic.    Realistic expectations are great because they are achievable and most times even reasonable.

Unrealistic expectations on the other hand, are the total opposite. They are often unattainable and unreasonable.  They can have negative effects on relationships and the individual.   I have lived through and survived both. Today I want to highlight some of the things I learnt along the way and how I overcame them.

Some negatives that could arise due to unrealistic expectations within the relationship are:

  1. Create unnecessary conflict
  2. Foster resentment
  3. Increase stress levels
  4. Breakdown in communication
  5. Avoidance of each other when possible
  6. Baffled ( as you try to find logic in what is being asked of you)

Some negatives that could arise from self-inflicted unrealistic expectations are:

  1. Bring on depression
  2. Increase stress levels
  3. Increase the risk of failure – (if the goal or target set is not realistic you will fail)
  4. Beating up yourself emotionally – (negative self-talk)
  5. Foster resentment towards yourself – (for not meeting the expectation)
  6. Cause loss of appetite for some people – (side effect from the stress)
  7. Trigger over eating in others – (side effect from the stress)
  8. Negatively impact your health sometimes mentally and or physically.
  9. Hinder your happiness

Some examples of unrealistic expectations include but are not limited to the following:

  1. Relying on your loved ones to make and keep you happy.
  2. Expecting to never fail at anything.
  3. Expecting to be great at everything.
  4. Expecting everybody you meet to like you.
  5. Expecting the people you love to never make a mistake.
  6. You can ‘fix’ everyone. 
  7. You can do everything yourself.
  8. You don’t need anyone.
  9. You are in control of everything.
  10. Our kids want we want for them.

How I overcame my unrealistic expectations:

  1. Stop expecting others to be perfect.
  2. Admit and accept that I was not perfect.
  3. Be realistic and honest with myself. Don’t expect of others things  I do not expect of  myself.
  4. Put myself in the other person’s shoe. Not because I am good at something means everyone else is too.
  5. How we communicate what we want, is just as important as what we communicate, if not more.
  6. Apologize (where I was guilty) and genuinely try do better.
  7. Make a list of anything I deemed was unreasonable and I would try to communicate same to whomever was guilty of it and try to come up with a better way forward.

It took time and practice but I have gotten better at managing my expectations of others and myself.  I’ve seen the benefits both in my relationships and myself.  Always aim to be realistic and reasonable in your expectations.

Thank you for stopping by.  🙂