It’s Time…

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It’s time and you know it!

You know the feeling but you can’t quite explain it

That feeling you get when you’ve reached your limit

That feeling that empowers you

But you let your second thoughts crowd out what you should do

Don’t look at me like that, you know I’m talking to YOU ūüôā

 

It’s time so NO more delaying

We’ve been going round and round doing the same things

Then wondering why we can’t see any change

Constantly turning the same pages in our lives over and over

Haven’t you noticed we’re getting older?

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It’s time to make our move

We’re done procrastinating about what we’re going to do

It’s time to get ACTIVE and be PROACTIVE

In the things that we want and need to do

We have to stand up and start truly walking in our own shoes

We don’t have time to sit singing the blues

 

It’s time so you choose

Standing still we have so much to lose

So make this promise to yourself

No more sitting idly by on the shelf

If you don’t start now you’ll never forgive yourself.

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If not now, then when?

Who knows how or when it will all end?

To pursue your dream – you don’t have to be a king or queen

Besides, only in trying would you have seen

How possibly different your life could have been.

Think about it, maybe it’s time!

 

Tired of all the ‘would have’ and ‘could have’ thoughts. The reality is, in life there comes a time when we just have to stop making excuses for ourselves and others and just meaningfully go after what we claim to want and desire.

Anything worth getting requires effort and hard work.

Thank you for stopping by.¬† Make today a great one. ūüôā

 

Health and Wellness Fridays : Self-control

Hello and welcome back to Health and Wellness Fridays!  Hope you all are having a wonderful Friday. Tonight, I want to talk about the challenges most of us have in exercising self-control especially as it relates to our eating habits.

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Let me first start off by saying that this is an area I personally struggle with.¬† I know all the right foods to eat and all the unhealthy foods to avoid and yet in spite of all of this knowledge and wisdom – it can be really tough to walk away sometimes.¬† I know for a fact that I’m not the only person with this issue but let’s keep the focus on me. I don’t want you guys feeling bad or guilty. So just hear me out. ūüôā

Self-control means that not only do we have the POWER to control ourselves, our choices and our decisions but that we actually USE that power in our best interest.

I believe we all have self-control the challenge is applying it to the areas of our lives that we have relinquished control – for some it is their¬†finances, others their relationships, and so many other areas but mine is junk food. ūüôĀ

Do I have self-control? Yes! Is it effectively applied to every area of my life? No. Food is one of the most challenging areas for me. Sure, I have the good stuff like my fruits, veggies, nuts, multivitamins, and so on but I also have occasional fries, fried chicken, pizza and Chinese food from time to time.  I know what I have to do and yet there are times when I decide to just throw it out the door and just have what I want and not necessarily what I need.

Do I love myself enough to do better?¬†Yes!¬† So what’s holding me back from committing fully to the process?¬† Let’s find out.

  1. Cravings – old habits where you can’t help but want what you want even after you’ve implemented new habits.
  2. Enablers – the people around me who love the same stuff I love so it’s easy to fall back into it.
  3. Self-talk – where I convince myself I’m in control and I walk into¬†an establishment leaving¬†self-control¬†at the door as the aroma of food fills the air.¬† He better not watch me crossed eyed when I’m walking back out with my fast food in tow so he can pout all he wants.¬† ūüôā
  4. Emotional eating Рif I am feeling stressed out  you could believe that I am going in search of my comfort food KFC (Kentucky Fried Chicken) or a good BBQ. It does help to be honest but I do feel guilty after so all I end up doing is transitioning from one emotion to another.
  5. Not eating on time.  This is a major factor in me making poor food choices as I let my sense of smell and sight along with my hunger pains determine what I eat and how much.
  6. The belief that because I make healthy food choices most times that ¬†I can have occasional ‘feel good food’. Life is just too short for diet rigidity.

All of the above factors make self-control over eating habits more challenging.  How do we overcome them?

  1. Eating on time.¬†I¬†try to add¬†little snacks like yogurt, fruit or even nuts to help¬†me not feel as hungry since I’m often stuck behind¬†a desk.
  2. Try to monitor my stress levels and try to distract myself with music to take my mind off of whatever is attempting to throw me off.
  3. Monitor the self-talk. If I feel like convincing¬†myself to go through the drive thru I would try to give myself reasons why I probably shouldn’t go – the line is just too long, the chicken might not even be fresh or the fries might be hot.¬†¬†It works most times.
  4. As for the enablers, I just started saying NO especially¬†if I already¬†indulged once or twice for the week¬†then anything after that is a no. I end up talking down their cravings as well. Of course, they’ll be a little disappointed and I’ll probably have to provide an alternative but at least we saved ourselves from overindulging.
  5. Cravings РI try not to stifle my urges entirely because food makes me happy. I have made an effort to regulate how often I would indulge for the week and month and try to stay within or under that goal making sure not to exceed it. Example, I might have KFC 2 -3 times for the month rather than 2-3 times for the week.
  6. Being honest with myself about what my weaknesses are and trying to put things in place to improve them for the betterment of ME.

Self-control is inside of each of us we just have to tap into it meaningfully. We all stumble from time to time and that’s okay. We¬†need to support and encourage each other especially in areas of weakness – so let’s¬†pick ourselves up and keep pushing forward. When we give up on ourselves self-control walks out the door.

Our health and wellness is just as important¬†as those other areas of our lives that we apply self-control to if not more¬†so.¬† It is there to protect us but it can’t work if we don’t use it.

Have a wonderful night and an amazing weekend.  Thank you for stopping by.

Life and Choices

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In life we all have things we struggle with.  What separates us however, is how we choose to see and handle those challenges.

Should we allow them to weigh us down?  No,  but sometimes we do.

Instead let us CHOOSE to identify our weak areas and OVERCOME them one day at a time.

So let’s agree to STOP beating¬†up ourselves¬†over what’s NOT right in our lives and START¬† CELEBRATING¬†what is!

In life we have the amazing power called choice.  We can use it to either LIVE the lives we HAVE or work towards CREATING better ones.

We can even opt to include a third¬†option, where we try to AVOID or¬†RUN from our problems. I’ve tried this and I’m sure some of you have too and I for one can say¬†that it’s¬†only temporary.¬†¬†¬†We¬†need long-term results.

So, what do we do?

LIVE the lives¬†we HAVE¬†and if¬†we don’t LOVE¬†them – we should at least¬†CHERISH them. Let’s CREATE¬†the lives¬†we NEED and try not to OBSESS over the lives¬†we WANT.

For what we want is not always what we need. 

Thank you for stopping by.¬† Have a wonderful night! ūüôā

 

 

Value

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Value is the worth we give to something or someone.

With that said, we should NOT rely on others to validate our worth.¬†¬†¬† We must TRY not to allow other people’s thoughts and opinions to negatively impact how we see ourselves.

Value is deeper than what our eyes can see.  It goes deeper than the surface especially when we are referring to people and relationships.

Value gets its power from our beliefs.  Therefore, if we really want to grow our value then we need to grow our OWN belief in ourselves.

Value ideally starts with US.

Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful day!