“Happy Valentine’s Day!” That’s all you will hear and see today. Some of us look forward to it while others can’t wait for it to fade away to bring forth a new day. It awakens in most of us good and bad memories.
Flowers, chocolates, jewelry, perfume and stuffed animals just to name a few, are just some of the many items generally shared on a day like today. Some may be so lucky to enjoy breakfast in bed, a late lunch or maybe even a fancy dinner. Just the thought of it all makes you smile and quiver. “Maybe he’ll surprise me. I can’t wait to see what he does this year, so let the games begin.”
On the other side of that coin, is the woman who is keeping her expectations low. Sitting, hoping and praying, “Please Lord, let him get it right this time!” Yes, we’ve heard the saying, “it’s the thought that counts“ but do we really mean that ladies? Do you sometimes sit there hoping and wishing that just maybe this one time that beautiful bouquet coming through the office door was for YOU. Be honest with yourself.
Valentine’s Day should not just be about two people who share a sexual relationship exchanging gifts and saying “I love you”. We all have non-sexual relationships that are valued too. It won’t take much to say a kind word or do something nice for your special friend – just to let him or her know how much you value and appreciate them.
In a healthy relationship filled with love and understanding where constant communication is the norm – Valentine’s Day is just another day where you express your love for each other. These individuals have forged a healthy balance between the giving and taking in their relationship. A healthy relationship is not all about the man or all about the woman. They try to give each other equal attention by focusing on each other. Ladies as much as the primary focus seems centered on us please do your part to make the day a great one for your significant other as well.
Unfortunately, some women have grown so accustom to only receiving kind words or gifts on a special occasion that when the day comes and they don’t get them, they are devastated. I can’t blame them, after all, they have most likely shown their love, appreciation and affection and naturally expect to have it reciprocated.
I think sometimes as women, we have a tendency to focus our energy and resources on displaying our love and affection for others so much that we often neglect ourselves. Whether you are single or in a relationship, let today be a day where we take extra special care to treat ourselves to something special. Go to the spa, order dinner from your favourite restaurant, get a bottle of wine for later and sit down and toast to being the beautiful person that you are.
People often say, “I have so much love to give“ but they often neglect to share that love with themselves first. Only after establishing love for yourself can you truly love someone else. Balance is key, without it things fall apart.
Have a great day! Drinks on me.