What does it really mean “to love yourself”?

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We all hear and make the statement “love yourself” from time to time and I stopped and asked myself what does that really mean?  To “love yourself ” can mean different things to different people. For some it means not taking any crap from anyone; for others it could mean taking good care of their bodies and their health; and for the rest it could be as simple as liking and accepting the person steering back at them in the mirror. 🙂  All of these acts are expressions of self love.

What is self love? Self love is when we choose to love, care and nurture our minds, bodies and spirits through our thoughts, experiences and our relationships. Self love does not happen in a bubble or in isolation. It impacts our self-image and self-worth.

Can we say we truly love ourselves when:

  1. We allow people who are constantly negative with us to remain major players in our lives.
  2. We constantly over indulge in activities that can be harmful to our health.
  3. We are the negative voices in our own heads feeding doubt, fear and insecurity.
  4. We do things that are against everything we stand for.
  5. We stay in relationships that constantly cause us pain.
  6. We don’t make time for ourselves to rest or relax.

Self love looks at the big things and the little things we often take for granted.  How we let the people in our lives speak and treat us can affect our self love and our self-image.  I have heard it said that “respect is something you earn” and I agree with this statement. However, I also believe there are times in life when you have to demand respect as  a human being.

I show myself ‘self love’ in some ways but not all.  So I too am guilty of not truly loving myself the way I should.  I make time to relax.  I remove myself from toxic people and relationships.  I am yet to master the caring for my body the way I should.  I love to eat but I am not as active as I should be but I am trying to live better one day at a time because I am worth it!

Nobody is perfect but we should strive to always do what is right, healthy and best for us especially in negative and unhealthy situations.  Take it one step at a time. Look at the three main areas for self love: mind, body and spirit and try to incorporate positive behaviour and thoughts to start loving yourself more and more each day.

 

Mind- clear the negativity from your mind and your life. Meditate, pray, go on a weekend retreat, have a spa day just try and relax to clear your mind. Remove the negative elements from your life. You know who and what they are!

Body- pay closer attention to the foods you eat. It’s all about balance, quality and quantity. Exercise a few days a week for a few minutes – go jogging, walking, running, dancing, swimming whatever form you feel like enduring – go for it!  I am no fitness guru but I started exercising and I have started feeling better.

Spirit – this one is all about what you believe in.  Fill your mind, heart and life with so much inspiration, motivation and positive stuff that you just want to burst.  Music, scripture, church, books or poetry. Whatever positively drives you to be better hold onto that because that is where the nurturing comes from.

So let’s promise to love ourselves a little more each day.

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Author: Cherylene

Cherylene, is an aspiring writer whose desire is to help people nurture and develop the best version of themselves. Through her writing she hopes to encourage her readers to dig deep both spiritually and mentally to heal and enlighten the mind, body and spirit.

3 thoughts on “What does it really mean “to love yourself”?”

  1. Thanks for taking time to read it. I’m glad you enjoyed. I am not familiar with his research but you have peeked my interest, I will look into it. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  2. I enjoyed this topic. I struggle with knowing I am not being self loving … yet finding a way to feel safe enough to act differently. I am reading Bessel Van Der Kolk’s book on trauma and finding such relief, understanding and hope. Seems he is well known on this topic and I only recently heard about it through a couple of interviews he’s done on podcasts about his book ‘the body keeps the score’. Have you heard of his research?

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