What lies beneath?

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This morning I find myself here thinking about people and how we can never really know someone.  What are you really thinking in that complex organ called the brain?

The eyes it is said, “are the windows to the soul” but they do not always reveal how much hurt, pain, resentment and anger a person is carrying around.  Many of us have learnt over time how to mask what we really feel and safeguard what we really think out of fear or embarrassment.

When I read the newspapers or look at the news locally and internationally the issue of crime seems to be a constant problem for all of us.  It’s clear that there are more people than we think out there with mental disturbances that cause them to hurt others but not all of them present themselves to the world the way they really feel. The version of themselves they choose to show society is different to who they really are behind closed doors.

Hence, sometimes you might hear a co-worker or neighbour of theirs say, ” He was always such a nice guy.  I had no idea he was capable of doing something like that.” or “She was always very friendly and helpful. I can’t believe she would do such a thing”

These are very scary realities for some.  The sad thing is more often than not by the time the truth about an individual comes out he or she would have either hurt themselves or someone else.  The teacher is not just a teacher; the priest is not just a priest; the kind old man down the street may not really be the “kind” old man down the street; and the student is not just a student.  I can go on and on but I won’t.

I say all this to say, that we can no longer take people at face value or make assumptions about them because of the positions or titles they hold or what we perceive them to be. People at the end of the day are still just people.  Regular, imperfect human beings with issues and challenges just like the rest of us.  No better or worse.

The times that we are living in make it unwise to blindly trust people and make assumptions about who people are because we really don’t know.  All we really know is what they choose to share with us. 

My aim today was not to scare you but just share my perspective on what is going on in society.  There is a lot we don’t know.  I honestly don’t believe a lot of us have the stomach for what is really going on out there. I know the little I read is enough to make me sick.

So please be safe and vigilant. Don’t take anything or anyone for granted.  Respect and value life!!

Do you agree with the saying, “what you see is what you get?”

I would love to hear your thoughts below.

 

Author: Cherylene

Cherylene, is an aspiring writer whose desire is to help people nurture and develop the best version of themselves. Through her writing she hopes to encourage her readers to dig deep both spiritually and mentally to heal and enlighten the mind, body and spirit.

8 thoughts on “What lies beneath?”

  1. Thank you so much Cheyenne for taking time to read it and also share your view on the topic. “To make an opinion based on what we initially see is to short change someone.” – I totally agree.

  2. I definitely don’t think what we see is what we get. I think we need to know people on a different level before we can truly see the real them. To make an opinion based on what we initially see is to short change someone. I appreciate your question and your writing.

  3. Hi there!i just came across your blogpost and i love it!
    when i came across the line “….The version of themselves they choose to show society is different to who they really are behind closed doors…”, i was reminded of this work by a man called Erving Goffman called “the Presentation of Self in Everyday Life” and i do believe that your thoughts resonate with parts of what he wrote! An idea of having a “front stage” to show society and a “back stage” away from it (in his dramaturgical approach)
    do give the book a try, if you haven’t already!
    Happy blogging!
    xx

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